to not know what to do with my new man?

[Chiffon]

He is an absolute gentleman, but there is no spark.
He adores me, is kind, attentive, good in bed, buys me flowers and chocolates, compliments me all the time, worries about me, minds me etc.
I've had years of abusive relationships one physically, and one where I was just messed around.
Can love grow? On paper, he is everything I should be looking for (drives a Porsche!), but can love grow or should I just end it now?
I tend to know how I feel about someone very quickly. I fall hard and fast, but equally, I don't think I'm the type for whom love will develop slowly.
What is the right thing to do for both me and him? Asking for myself primarily obviously.

Can’t believe the fuss over a Porsche... now give me an Aston Martin, Lamborghini or Ferrari driving man and we are talking..

I suspect OP is a balding middle aged man with a paunch Porsche who was hoping all us women folk would swoon over his Porsche and tell him how we'd all love a man with such a car penis extension and that lack of spark hair and personality was not an issue because he's loaded.

"before thrusting your misery onto others.!"
Fucking hell?

This is like a hot bed of angry sad bastards.

meanwhile back at the ranch..............

Jesus I'd let him go, not for your sake but for his before he finds out how unstable you are! Poor bastard.

Yep totally a bloke.

@QueenOfIce 😂😂 thanks for that .

This whole thread has had me in bits😂

Jealous of a Jackanory story. That's a 1st😁

I'm a jealous, bitter, angry sad old bastard. With no car. Oh and no ranch. Wanna hook up Dave?

😂😂

"My theme song for my life is this ..."

The theme song for your life is about a suicidal woman who is saved (from actual death, at least) by being carted off in an ambulance to live (for an indeterminate period) in a mental hospital?

Really? That's your chosen "theme song" for your life? If so, I'm sorry you feel that way.

Ian, is that you??

Ok, so I came back to see how OP carried on after being rumbled.

OP, I am very disappointed. You started off so well, I thought you'd know what to do when you get sussed. For future reference, the correct procedure is just to continue. Do not get hateful or angry or start flinging insults. That shows that people have got to you, and the entire point of the endeavour is that you get to everyone else.

What you do, is simply stay in character and keep saying more of the things that are winding people up as if you can't hear them. Maybe keep getting more and more ridiculous until you're quite overtly a parody.

Done properly, it can be sublime. I never hold anything against a truly good troll. I love them, really.

Please try again. This one had potential and I am sure you can learn from it.

This thread has literally made my weekend ,😂, my cat is looking at me bemused as to why I’m in such hysterics... clearly I need to get a life and find myself a man who drives a Porsche !

Make it a Trolls-Royce next time OP

‘there is no spark’ might perhaps be a good thing if it’s a different dynamic to your previous relationships

Agree with this.

However I also suspect OP is not who he she says she is. The posts seem like they are written by a man.

We shop at Aldi btw and if my DH came back with a Porsche I would assume he was having some kind of mid life crisis. Thankfully neither of us give a shit about those kinds of status symbols... and no I am not jealous.

But if you real take the advice of the poster I quoted and give him a chance

"Done properly, it can be sublime"

It got off to a good start though

Shag the car OP

It sounds like you find the idea of him quite exciting, but not because of the man himself. On paper he's a box ticker for you, and you enjoy the trimmings he comes with so to speak, but does he rock your world? Or even shake it? Doesn't sound like it.

Ps. Porsches are a pain in the ass. Bought my own. Pile of shite that spent at least one day a month in the garage. Have owned many comparable brands, all significantly better. Never again.

Why not buy your own fast car and masturbate loads, (not while driving,obvs)

Could this be a 'now I've got it all, what is there left to chase' kind of situation?

Op don’t settle all relationships should have passion & the spark shouldn’t have any connection to his car. It could be stolen, crashed etc it’s not a permant fixture. Sounds like he would look after you but would you do the same?

I don’t like flash cars as I found most of the drivers who like coming to London to show them off are bloody idiots. Enough to put anyone off for life!

Youre hooked on the drama of abusive relationships.

My mother was the same. Three abusive relationships.........4 fucked up kids.

The guy who'd always loved her came to her funeral, we'd never met him but he was a lovely guy, own business. Hard working, kind, caring........she turned him down when he proposed. Because he was boring. And left him and the business they ran together. (( they ran a dance school which the guy who.is.now almost 80 still runs )) to be with who beat her and her toddler son. My brother has a scar on his head from where he was hit with a carpet sweeper for crawling under his dads feet. She eventually left when my nana discovered he was starving them and made her come home.

She then ended up with a woman beating, 3 times convicted paedophile who she repeatedly took back. (( no prizes for guessing how that one ended ))

And a woman beater whose kids have various mental health issues as a result of living with their dad. Again we had another paedophile in our midst. I once zipped myself into a suitcase to hide from one of them.

When my mums ex came to her funeral (( the guy she dumped for being boring ))Me and my 3 fucked up siblings just looked at each other in silence, all thinking about how different our lives could have been.........sorry. I've gone off on a tangent but women who lurch from one abusive relationship to another searching for that spark and excitement sadden me. Well the effect it has on their kids does. Because quite often they are hooked on the drama. They just don't know it.

Fake thread?