Mum at school making me feel crap!

[VillianInaDress]

Hello everyone. I want to start by saying I'm not a nutter but I am very confused about this mum at school and how she makes me feel. I live in a very affluent and pretty village in Derbyshire. DS1 and DS2 go to the local school which is a wonderful place DH has a great job and I run my own little business from home so I am very happy in general. Since school started, there is this mum, and I had heard about her previously but not really seen her. I only saw her this last week or two and I am going to sound so pathetic here but, she makes me feel like crap. Every single time I've seen her since school has started again I've just stared and felt like a right frump in comparison. I thought she was about 25 found out on Friday that she's nearer 40. She doesn't dress inappropriately but her legs and bottom look amazing in just a pair of leggings! WTF? She wears heels every single day, every day! And I've seen her run into the playground wearing these heels!!! Shas 3 kids, one has just started reception and from what I know she is divorced.
She makes everything look so easy. Her kids always look immaculate with best hair and clothes. Oh and packed lunches for all 3 and my DS has told me that she puts notes on little napkins for them and sometimes they even bring in homemade goodies rather then the soggy cheese sandwiches I give to my kids. I've been told she is doing a degree in law AND she's a freakin school governor and she just looks gorgeous every single day!!!! How? And why am I feeling like this?
Most of the other mums say nasty things about her because apparently she's not very friendly and even I see she just brings her 3 DDs and then leaves without talking to anyone. But my DS is friendly with her oldest DD and from what he tells me her DD is really kind and not like other typical 10 /11 year old girls so this mum must be doing something right?
I want to say hello to her because maybe she's lonely? Or maybe I am? To make it worse, DH knew exactly who I was talking about when I mentioned her to hin and he said all the dads at school drool over her which made me wonder if he does too? I've only had 2 children and I am only 29 but I look older then this other mum who has a good 10 years on me. I am normally not like this, why does this mum make me feel so inadequate? She doesn't come across as stuck up, more just not wanting to get involved but then why does she make such an effort to look so good if she doesn't care what others have to say about her? Why does she affect me this way? I now feel paranoid about letting my husband go to the school in case he sees her and thinks how unattractive and lazy I am compared to her AND the heels!

Help!!!!

Admin I have messaged you many, many times but no one is taking action. It has been made clear that the mum in question knows about this topic because other mums from school have read it and recognised who is being talked about. I want the topic removed. All the people questioning whether that was her DP who responded, yes it was because it definitly wasn't me. Admin would be able to compare and check the IP address. Admin remove this topic. Other mum has been outed and that isn't fair. I've done enough damage.

What's the point of removing it if they've already seen it? It's not like deleting will make them forget. This isn't some sort of Harry Potter universe.

Was it definitely him though op? What a 6ft 4 Black bloke fit the description of her partner? They won’t know which school mum has written this though will they, so you’ve not outed yourself

Because it isn't fair to the other mum, thought that would be self explanatory

No it's not self explanatory because rhe point is if she's seen it then the damage is done. Deleting it won't change anything.

He is black and is very tall. But that isn't the point. It's gone too far and I don't want to cause anymore problems for this mum. If parents from school have worked out its her then that's not fair to her children. Please could people report and get this removed. It's not me I'm worried about its her children. Kids can be cruel and parents can discuss things that get listened to and picked up on.

Bluntness, it's for her children. Imagine we'd all want to protect our own wouldn't we.

And those saying it was me pretending to be her DP think I'd get caught out as posting from the same IP address and then banned. But my account is active. Reckon his post was removed because he said he'd see the other dads at school.

Maybe you should have considered her children before you slagged her off online.

VillianInaDress
You could have used a different device to pretend to be her dp, therefore you would have a different ip address.

You can't fool us all op

Well, you put some pretty identifiable things in your op didn’t you. Not surprised someone saw it and recognised your description of the lady. Who has, and her parter too, come out this with dignity. Whereas you just seem like a bit of a needy twit. Let’s hope someone doesn’t work out who you are, because you will be the one whose gossiped about. Let’s home your children aren’t teased about having the ‘gossipy jealous mum’ and the dad ‘who drools over and dreams about so and sos mum’. Pathetic

Didn’t see the “dp’s” post so can’t comment.
Think you’d better just leave her alone already, if you want to be kind to her and “right the wrong”.

I take it they've identified you aswell then as it's so 'outing' why are you not pleading about the wellbeing of your own kids then?

What's the point of removing it if they've already seen it? It's not like deleting will make them forget. This isn't some sort of Harry Potter universe.

Well, if this is true op, it's not nice being bullied is it. May be you'll think twice before you take your insecurities out on someone else. You and the other mums have been subjecting the other lady to this for god knows how long. They do say, what goes around comes around.

I think this thread should go to classics as a lesson in karma to other people considering talking crap about people they barely know IRL on the internet.

It's not really about her is it? It's about you and your insecurities. This woman triggers negative feelings in you and you really need to explore the underlying reasons for that. Maybe some counselling could help?

We not somebody think of the children and delete the thread?.......if you already thought it was identifying, identifying his ethnicity kinda sealed it didn't it? It's a usual I've wobbled after my whinge and now I'm identified (allegedly), save me MNHQ..... I also wish there could be actual 'proof' of allegedly being identified.

SD1978 turn it in. It's getting ridiculous now. Not even slightly believable, sorry!
How sad!

Wait, what happened? Mysteries in deleted posts?

Baffling.

Why was the post (allegedly) from the school mum’s DP deleted? I didn't see it. What guidelines did it break?

And given that it was deleted fairly speedily, how does OP know that it (apparently) referenced his ethnicity?

Riddled with woodworm, this entire thread