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Mum at school making me feel crap!

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VillianInaDress · 16/09/2018 13:55

Hello everyone. I want to start by saying I'm not a nutter but I am very confused about this mum at school and how she makes me feel. I live in a very affluent and pretty village in Derbyshire. DS1 and DS2 go to the local school which is a wonderful place DH has a great job and I run my own little business from home so I am very happy in general. Since school started, there is this mum, and I had heard about her previously but not really seen her. I only saw her this last week or two and I am going to sound so pathetic here but, she makes me feel like crap. Every single time I've seen her since school has started again I've just stared and felt like a right frump in comparison. I thought she was about 25 found out on Friday that she's nearer 40. She doesn't dress inappropriately but her legs and bottom look amazing in just a pair of leggings! WTF? She wears heels every single day, every day! And I've seen her run into the playground wearing these heels!!! Shas 3 kids, one has just started reception and from what I know she is divorced.
She makes everything look so easy. Her kids always look immaculate with best hair and clothes. Oh and packed lunches for all 3 and my DS has told me that she puts notes on little napkins for them and sometimes they even bring in homemade goodies rather then the soggy cheese sandwiches I give to my kids. I've been told she is doing a degree in law AND she's a freakin school governor and she just looks gorgeous every single day!!!! How? And why am I feeling like this?
Most of the other mums say nasty things about her because apparently she's not very friendly and even I see she just brings her 3 DDs and then leaves without talking to anyone. But my DS is friendly with her oldest DD and from what he tells me her DD is really kind and not like other typical 10 /11 year old girls so this mum must be doing something right?
I want to say hello to her because maybe she's lonely? Or maybe I am? To make it worse, DH knew exactly who I was talking about when I mentioned her to hin and he said all the dads at school drool over her which made me wonder if he does too? I've only had 2 children and I am only 29 but I look older then this other mum who has a good 10 years on me. I am normally not like this, why does this mum make me feel so inadequate? She doesn't come across as stuck up, more just not wanting to get involved but then why does she make such an effort to look so good if she doesn't care what others have to say about her? Why does she affect me this way? I now feel paranoid about letting my husband go to the school in case he sees her and thinks how unattractive and lazy I am compared to her AND the heels!

Help!!!!

OP posts:
AHoleInTheWorld · 21/09/2018 16:47

@SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst

"This thread truly is the gift that keeps on giving."

That it is. Grin

Hernamewasl0la · 21/09/2018 17:19

Mumsjudge? Really? After you apparently judged a woman based on her choice of footwear?

Poolofjoy · 21/09/2018 17:27

Is this for real?!

Rumplst1llskin911 · 21/09/2018 20:50

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Sunflowerr · 21/09/2018 20:59

What a lovely message.

I hope you are the lady's partner and not someone pretending. If so, she's a very lucky woman.

Fuzzyend · 21/09/2018 21:02

And that told you OP!

giveyourselfashiny3 · 21/09/2018 21:05

What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man.

OP is a moron.

Your lady is a beaut and they're all jealous.

I'm glad she doesn't want to be friends!!!

Fuzzyend · 21/09/2018 21:07

Or is that you OP?????

giveyourselfashiny3 · 21/09/2018 21:08

If it is....she's still a moron.

But I hope it's the guy.

Newbienew90 · 21/09/2018 21:14

Rumplst1llskin911
I thought thus lady was divorced and no longer with the father father of her children?

Newbienew90 · 21/09/2018 21:16

I think op is having us all on

RonniePickering · 21/09/2018 21:19

Well this is embarrassing.

Fuzzyend · 21/09/2018 21:24

Certainly has a rather feminine turn of phrase for an 'intimidating' man"

Poolofjoy · 21/09/2018 21:30

I so hope that this is the partner of the lady op is talking about. And I hope she feels suitably embarrassed. As a nearing 6 ft blonde with ridiculously large norks, I am often on the receiving end of ‘the stares’. Fuck them, quite frankly. I live for my family and I’m very grateful and extremely happy in the life I lead. The opinions of starters means not one jot.

Bluntness100 · 21/09/2018 21:36

Yeah, I'm not sure about that if I'm honest.

Hernamewasl0la · 21/09/2018 21:43

Now we all need is for op to log back into her original account so she can start an argument with herself

iamyourequal · 21/09/2018 21:43

I think this whole thing is a fabrication.

Yabbers · 21/09/2018 21:48

MyOtherProfile
Mine were lucky if they got a scrunched up bit of kitchen roll

Her “napkin” is indeed a bit of kitchen roll!! 😂

sunsunsunsunsun · 21/09/2018 22:08

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SunnySkiesSleepsintheMorning · 21/09/2018 22:09

Oh for fucks sake. I have no words. 🤣

BlancheM · 21/09/2018 22:14

Of fucking course 🤣

Sleepykate · 22/09/2018 07:44

This is so clearly not real.

Emmageddon · 22/09/2018 11:01

Oh bugger has the message from Gorgeous Mum's DP been deleted?

BaconAndAvocado · 22/09/2018 11:38

Is this a joke?

If not, I'm sure a few sessions with a therapist will answer your questions OP.

Newbienew90 · 22/09/2018 11:54

Oh bugger has the message from Gorgeous Mum's DP been deleted

Yes it was a troll. Probably the op.