Anyone else NOT get the birth they wanted?

[MischaB]

Found out today I may be developing preeclampsia. I've had a complicated pregnancy but have been told throughout I can go to MLU and try a water birth. Had my heart set on it (or at least trying).

Most important thing is if course that baby gets here safe and I would do anything to ensure that happens. It doesn't change my disappointment however regarding childbirth options. For some reason, a smooth birth that I had SOME control over was what I was holding on to and I hoped it would go my way. I felt I deserved it after all the worries and complications we have had.

AIBU to be disappointed that childbirth isn't going to be how I imagined? I'm not naive, I always knew that it could result in a number of ways, I guess I'm just sad and mourning my whole pregnancy as I feel like a lot of precious moments have been stolen by worry.

Did anyone else experience similar?

that you have been thro that lists no-one should ever have to know that suffering, how awful, and to all that have suffered like this. I have heard and do know personally same situation of someone in our circle.

I breed, and amongst litters it is awfully common and so sad, thankfully not so common for human babies.

Thee is a time in your life when giving birth and how you are treated and supported through that is huge, and can have long-lasting effects, and serious ones at that like PTSD, including on the partner trying to support and going through it also.

I'm not keen to downplay the impact impending birth and subsequent experience has on mother, father and those around them.