Daughter given to family friend at school gate without permission

[Becklington]

Hi
I found out that a new teacher in my daughter's first week at primary school, at school pick up time, gave her to a friend of ours. Our friend, who the teacher does not know at all, thought she was meant to pick her up. The school asks that any parent emails or tells them in person requests for a different person picking up. Clearly this had not happened. I am really upset as a stranger, to all intents and purposes, picked up.our daughter. Our friend said she had to be quite insisting to get her to come with her as my daughter is very shy but the teacher let her go. Clearly she came to no harm but I have lost all faith, trust and confidence. I am wondering if I should report this breach of basic safeguarding...any thoughts please?

Unless the teacher has met the friend before*

I would definitely clear that point up first

I think you were testing the system

So presumably your friend is on "the list" of people permitted to pick your daughter up?
Seriously OP?

Just delete this thread it's all bullshit.

Was the message to your friend not to do the pickup delivered in the inimitable style of your posts, op?
No wonder they didn’t understand a word of it.

Sorry to be unclear but to hopefully clarify.
I had meant she is a stranger to the teacher in that's he had never met her.
I am concerned that a stranger in that a adult without permission to pick up etc could get hold of my daughter and then bump into my husband in the playground. That's it. I hadn't expected such hostility. I was just wondering if people thought it was unreasonable to consider reporting this breach or if it was unreasonable as a mistake.

As a teacher if some one on the designated pick up list comes to pick up a child they can go... I don't keep track of certain days! (Tho would if asked!).

After your update yabvu in blaming the school! Ridiculous

No. She's new to school.

poison have you honestly not heard that saying before?

'Gey your own house in order's basically means, sort your self out before criticising others

So it's what the second week of term I think?

And you haven't thought to inform the new to the school teacher who can pick up your daughter?

There you go again. She’s new to school... So why did the friend think she was supposed to pick her up?

The key phrase here is " friend thought it was her turn"

That's makes us all think she has done this before, making it a non-issue.

Stop changing the story

So your friend often picks up your daughter but wasn't meant to on this day, however, as your husband wasn't there she thought she had her days wrong- and how is any of this the schools fault??

This is very confusing!

Hang on. She thought it was her turn to pick dd up. So will she be picking her up?

I was going to agree with you, but it sounds like this person does have permission to collect? If she's on your named collection list. The teacher hasn't done anything wrong.

Your dh was on the yard but not at the classroom where the drama of the stranger demanding your dd was unfolding? Surely he noticed! Or he wasnt there?

I don't understand the confusion op. It's very clear. I forgot to pass on about a friend doing a pickup once. We shared days but she covered when I was poorly. Dd's teacher refused to send her with my friend as it wasn't her day and he wasn't aware of the pickup. That's safeguarding!

Was the message to your friend not to do the pickup delivered in the inimitable style of your posts, op?

I was thinking the same ~ hardly surprising that neither the teacher or the friend knew what the arrangements were, and the husband didn't know what time to be there to collect her!

What is the schools usual procedure? That would help us to know if they have got it wrong.
Our school have a list. If you are on the list you can pick up any day. So if your friend was on the list at our school then your issue and be with the friend, not the school. If your friend was not on the list then I would complain to the school, yes.

But it depends what the system at your school is.

She got her weeks mixed up. She was meant to go the following week once she's settled etc

So friend sometimes picks daughter up.

In fact it should have been Dad doing it.

Friend turned up to class and forced teacher to hand over daughter.

In the playground they bumped into Dad so friend gave child to Dad.

Dad has only just mentioned it.

Should you report teacher?

So is the friend on the designated pick-up list or not?

I don't think this is the same as a situation where the person is 'unauthorised', if you would otherwise be happy for them to collect. You're really talking about a scheduling issue.... You can't expect school staff to keep up with your collection diary.

I think you’re blaming the school, when the blame seems to lie elsewhere tbh!
Why was friend there? Where were you? You’re not answering any of these questions!