To be sick of seeing this on EVERY mn thread

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This is a particular problem for AIBU but it seems like no one can ask for a simple bit of advice without someone being purposefully negative and downright unhelpful.

I.e I could start a thread saying AIBU to think that celery is disgusting.

One of the first comments would be YABU because some people live under famine and would be grateful for a huge bowl of celery.

Celery soup is lovely and when blended really well, has no stringy bits. Also nice: cooked and blended, put in jacket spuds with melted cheese.

On the back of all this pro celery posting I bit the bullet yesterday and tried it again. Nope, still smell like cats wee and tastes just as awful as I remember it being

Even with melted cheese Whirly?

Totally

Or the ones where the Op is asking for help because her elderly DM is ringing fifteen times a day only to be told that she should be grateful she is still alive and cares enough to call her....

"I'd do anything to hear my Mum's voice on the phone again....."

Yes stressedoutpa or "maybe DM is developing dementia. Take her to GP asap!"

There was one the other day, where you just wait for the "how dare you call yourself attractive" brigade to pipe up. They really are the dullest of the dull in ruining threads.

OPs hubby had been behaving in a way suggesting he was having an affair. OP mentioned how she'd always been the "model" wife, always cooking, cleaning, raising children, holding down jobs, and that also she worked hard at the gym to keep slim and in shape.

Quite obvious she was listing these things because she was frustrated at putting the effort into areas of her marriage that stereotypically/historically/for most of the population were valued, and that it still didn't matter to the cheating DH. She felt like she'd done a lot to appease him, and it had all amounted to nothing.

Cue (ignoring the whole topic of the post) ... "Oh, you're slim are you, must be impossible for anyone to cheat on you then"

"why are slim people so entitled "

God forbid you come out with something like, I'm actually not bad looking, I've actually got a really nice figure, if your thread mentions anything to do with relationship problems.

Instantly there's a "well, I'm a size 50, and happily married, so maybe take a leaf out of my book and get over yourself".

They snark and snip at a woman that works hard to maintain a physique she is proud of, and makes her feel good about herself, and in real life, 99.9% of people would praise.

The irony of how "ugly on the inside" they are being is of course lost on them, as they bandwagon together trying to make her feel shit about one of the few things that's probably making her feel a bit better in herself.

I will heads up and admit I haven’t rt whole ft but I hate the spelling and grammar types. To be totally honest I’m the world’s worst for doing a fleeing inward cringe when I read ‘could of’ or whatever (however I soon give myself a shake and a talking to not to be a total knob), but after a long op where the poster pours her heart out about the most shocking abuse or is really struggling and some absolute cunt pops along and offers zero advice except to point out a grammatical error or a lack of paragraphing - dear god do these people have no humanity?! Does it really matter in the circumstances?!

Yes. I find that particularly unpleasant when it’s obvious that the OP isn’t very well educated.

I don’t mind bad spelling at all. But when people say ‘draws’ for ‘drawers’ I wonder where they are from?
They couldn’t be English or Irish or Scottish or Welsh (I think) because we all pronounce it drawers. Maybe it’s something to do with the accent?

Anyway to get the strings from celery you can use a peeler on them.

Celery salt is very nice in homemade tomato soup, (because it’s a bit boring otherwise)

And also I would never say it on a post. Sometimes people are in a very bad place, maybe this is there very last resort for help, and there is no way I would want to upset anyone.

There was one recently where a mum had a super bright kid who wanted to apply for bursaries / scholarships at top schools eg Eton.

I read a few fascinating articles about eton in the last years where their endowment is so big that they’re going to try and offer places at some stage in future on ability only etc etc, and already have quite a lot of bursaries etc, so what she was suggesting was not out of the question.

BUT she made the fatal error of not being ashamed of/in denial about/disapproving of her kids ability and she was rippppppppped to shrrrrrrreeddddddds.

On the contrary there was a very forthright mum who had straitened means who started a great thread about how she’d basically persuaded private schools to educate her several kids for free by being organised, proactive, and a bit pushy (in what I thought was a good way) and it was a very useful interesting thread.

(Am in a different country with great state schools cradle to grave so no skin in the game)

Just happened on my thread about how I would like Christianity to be equal to other religions in school.

Apparently in Saudi Arabia all kids are being taught to behead Christians so I should count myself lucky!

And on a thread where a brave OP expressed her jealously of people with NT children someone came and told her she should just be grateful to have a child at all.

FFS mumsnet.

Mumsnet threads so often just descend into Misery Top Trumps. It’s bloody depressing.
That NT thread/poster was unbelievable. They tried to cover their tracks by saying that there would always be someone jealous of what you (general)/the OP has, but that it came across wrong... but the damage had been done. It was still a dumb and crass comment that was unnecessary.

Ugh, I’ve just seen another “I’m jealous of people with kids” comment. So. Bloody. Inappropriate.

SAME!!!!! I've been dying to post and ask for advice about something but I know I'll just get hit with crap from some ppl and in my mental state I wouldn't be able to handle it

@3luckystars my phone changes drawers to draws all the time. It's irritating lol

The ones that descend into competitiveness about silly things makes me smile.

Someone will post with a basic question like 'How often do you change you bed linens?'. A few pages in you start to get people yapping on about how they 'don't sweat at night' then it descends into competitive non sweating type posts 'Well I levitate above my covers so don't change them weekly'.

Someone had the audacity to ask for support feeling sad they had a child with special needs and feeling a bit jealous of parents who have ‘normal’ children. Three replies in
and we get, “some people would be grateful to have children at all”

Ffs, misery trumps is being played on parents with disabled children now.

It's part of the MN culture of moralising about absolutely everything, even and especially things with absolutely no moral value whatsoever. So you can't express irritation or frustration with anything at all, even having children with disabilities, without it becoming a moral issue. If they could come up with a way of making it a class issue as well, they would.

Other things that have extreme moral value on MN include shoe/shoeless houses, cake smash photo shoots, communal changing rooms, shabby chic interior decor and cold shoulder tops.

I have not ventured onto mumsnet for a VERY long time, but have been an on-off poster for over a decade. This thread has had me in stitches, I recognise everything single thing in it-they're all part of the reason i get fed up with mumsnet and then have to have a break.

I have no idea what a cake smash is, though. I should probably be shunned for this dreadful oversight.

It's a photo shoot where a baby or young toddler gets given a cake and the photographer takes shots of them making a mess. Clearly not to everyone's taste but I didn't realise until I read MN that it's a Sodom and Gomorrah situation. And, worse, a class issue.

Cold shoulder tops? I’ve missed that one can someone fill me in please?

Well it's a seasonal one so it won't be on so much now, but over the summer there were a few threads about them with a number of posters not content to say they simply didn't like or suit them...it was more than cold shoulder tops were incredibly common (surely anything that's in fashion is common by its very nature?) and a sign of all-round terrible taste. An actual character mark, if you will.

Gods help you if you say you like Radley bags

I have a Radley wallet. It says "you are my sunshine" on it and it has the dog and a rainbow and I don't even care.