To be sick of seeing this on EVERY mn thread

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This is a particular problem for AIBU but it seems like no one can ask for a simple bit of advice without someone being purposefully negative and downright unhelpful.

I.e I could start a thread saying AIBU to think that celery is disgusting.

One of the first comments would be YABU because some people live under famine and would be grateful for a huge bowl of celery.

I hate this too - it's part of the whole twitter/social media thing where everyone has to be angry and take offence all the time and virtue-signal by constantly trying to be the first to be outraged at that imagined offence It's a total pain in the arse and sooooooo boring.

I have a family member who calls themselves trans/non-binary and I had to unfollow them as their twitter feed is just constant righteous rage, on that topic but also every other form of PC right-on offence that can possibly be taken. Oh bore off!

It's extra crap as there are genuine situations where it does make sense to defend some wronged minority etc or point when someone is being inconsiderate, sexist or whatever. But any reasonable points are drowned out by all the outrage and make any kind of inclusive stance look totally nuts.

And of course the "so outraged" brigade never seem to mind being fucking rude, offensive arseholes themselves.

I predict there will be a backlash when everyone gets bored of it.

And agree with a PP that if you acted like this in a RL conversation you would quite clearly be a twat, yet it's normal online.

The family ones have affected me most - I've posted about my abusive dad and narcissistic mum in the past. We are talking criminal levels of abuse and neglect. Actual convictions involving jail.

I get all the
"But she's your MUM / he's your DAD, one day they'll be DEAD, how could you be so HEARTLESS, blood is thicker and water blah de blah"

Comparison is the thief of joy, indeed

No it definitely isn't the same at all, but some people will use the existing situation to shut down anyone who objects.

I think judging by stuff I've seen online there are actually a large bunch of people who aren't that intelligent - or they may be but have no common sense.

the posters who throw the N word around like confetti

I have never seen this but just did a search on MN for that word and there are over 500 instances! That's really shocked me - I would have thought MN would delete a post like that.

If you don’t like the celery, leave it on the side of the plate.

The thread at the moment with the dd doing an access course and working part time hours that aren't really changing conducive with her course has hauled a whole load of delights out saying "well I managed to work for 36 hrs straight whilst studying for 53 degrees and raising a family and I survived". The poor girl needs to pass her course to get into further education and all this people spouting their tripe are not considering all the variables in being human.

I think it's actually got better in the last year or two, or maybe I'm just inured to it. The one that really bothers me though is when someone with an obviously batshit crazy narcissistic family member posts on AIBU trying to get their head round family member's most recent crazy-making behaviour and a whole bunch of people come on and go "you don't really like her, do you " as if there is the slightest chance that after years of having your head messed with you would be like "oh no, we get on great, I can't wait to find a way to stop her stealing weird things from my house and starting fights between my kids so we can carry on our long and happy friendship together." You know?

@karyatide

You sound lovely OP

'You seem like hard work' for daring to disagree with family / friends or having an opinion of your own.

What right have you got saying celery is disgusting? I like celery. I think YABU and if you don't have anything nice to say don't bother. Don't look at celery if you don't like it!

Now I have recognised it as a thing, though, it’s so funny!

Sometimes posters get so het up you can actually visualise them getting redder & redder & frothing at the mouth outraged. Then they implode & the thread gets deleted & I have to go back to actually doing stuff.

Always one or two hoiking their twisted knickers up whilst clutching their pearls.Quite amusing really

The Smugy McSmugface ones are equally annoying. The thread from the poster whose friend has buggered off back to the UK whilst they were on holiday together has produced some classic responses.

There are the:

What's wrong with you, think about your friend you selfish person, they must be having a mental health crisis

coupled with

What's wrong with you I backpacked alone across South America with a baby and a toddler, stop being so pathetic

All the OP wanted was a bit of support and some help in how to organise transport to the airport at the end of the holiday bearing in mind she doesn't speak the language of the country she is in.

i hate it, posters can be so vile.

mumsnet was the place that first introduced me properly to feminism, but also i find that ironic that it can be filled with (mostly) women just tearing each other down and being vile, nitpicking OPs post, arguing etc.

That attitude is so bizarre; if any of these people gave these responses in real life they wouldn't have a single friend left.

Perhaps they actually do and then wonder why they have so much time to themselves to post on MN. Some of the joy vacuums are extremely prolific posters.

There is a similar thread running at the moment giving a wealth of examples

Yep. There was a thread the other day where an OP was upset about her husband, whose attitude towards her had completely changed and she felt neglected, only for someone to say, well her husband had been dead 25 years so the OP should think herself lucky to have a living husband at all. confused

Lolol. That gave me a laugh. 😂😂😂

“Dr, dr. Help! My husbands beats me up and cheats on me with teenagers.”

“Well, at least you’ve got a husband. Some women are ... spinsters.”

Totally agree. There’s always going to be a zillion people with more of a problem then whatever you care to start a thread about. The world is a shit place for too many. That doesn’t mean though that you have to justify everything you want to let off steam about or have your head handed to you on a plate for expressing a hatred of celery.