To be sick of seeing this on EVERY mn thread

[beeefcake]

This is a particular problem for AIBU but it seems like no one can ask for a simple bit of advice without someone being purposefully negative and downright unhelpful.

I.e I could start a thread saying AIBU to think that celery is disgusting.

One of the first comments would be YABU because some people live under famine and would be grateful for a huge bowl of celery.

Celery is ok if it is in a soup or something. Or chopped VERY small. The strings are horrific though.

It's not as bad as the funny threads and the one poster who always twists the subject to make it about something absolutely horrific that has happened to them.

Like a thread about lies you believed from your parents when you were little and you get lots of entertaining anecdotes and then one person feels the need to say something like 'When my mum told me I was a worthless piece of shit '.

Yes that is awful but did you really have to bring it up when everyone else was in the middle of a jokey conversation. Another thing nobody would do in real life.

Yeah magic, that always kills the conversation somewhat... But I think people see the thread title and the first thing that pops into their head often just spills out. It’s bound to happen on a big forum like this.

@MagicMix actually some would I knew a girl like that. She actually killed nearly every conversation with it.

The reason is a small percentage of MNers live in metaphorical sackcloth and ashes. There is no need for them to do so but it allows them to denigrate any and all problems which they perceive to be insignificant.

duchessofsussedsex is absolutely spot on - it's just sanctimony and virtue signalling.

PS I would love celery if it wasn't so stringy. Have you ever tried to finely grate it? All string.

I've just made some celery soup

The one that stuck out today was a poor woman stuck in a violent relationship who asked if anyone had experience growing up witnessing domestic violence as she wanted to know how it might affect her own children. One total, utter, fucking cockwomble just posted...

‘No’

YANBU OP. And I get sick of it too.

I always ignore the goady fuckers though. Pisses them RIGHT off.

Looks like @GreatDuckCookery (top of this page,) is one of the posters you're referring to @beeefcake LOL!

@magicmix yep, and I used to feel sorry for them. Now they just piss me off.

GoatWithACoat

The one that stuck out today was a poor woman stuck in a violent relationship who asked if anyone had experience growing up witnessing domestic violence as she wanted to know how it might affect her own children. One total, utter, fucking cockwomble just posted...

‘No’

Charitably, that poster could have been answering the thread title only. Sometimes I see ops or thread titles a bit like this eg asserting that all women hate their bodies/have a useless partner/have suffered sexually assault where I would post that this isn't true for me, not to be smug but as a way of saying either 'no this isn't normal, you don't have to feel this way' or 'the picture isn't as bleak as you think'.

What because I have a mind of my own and don't just agree for the sake of it to fit in? Or because I don't want my arse handing to me?

Disagreeing is allowed you know. Just don't be mean or a twat about it.

@GreatDuckCookery

Calm down.

Why so angry?

Ooh anyone would think you were on the wind up there butterfly

I'm absolutely calm actually. Just sitting with a cup of tea watching the birds

You don’t have to sycophantically agree with everything, but you can at least offer sympathy if it’s needed/be tactful.
There was a thread once where the OP was saying that she’d been single for several years and sometimes found it soul-destroying, and was asking if anyone felt the same. The very first reply was something like “oh no being single has allowed me to blossom”!! I’m not saying every reply on that thread had to be “oh yes it’s awful isn’t it”, but the first poster could have at least said something like “personally I enjoy being single, but I understand why you feel that way, have you tried doing xyz”, actually offer sympathy and constructive advice.

The ones I really get annoyed by are where posters don’t seem to read the OP at all. Say for example someone posts saying that they’re having a problem with their DD/DH/whatever (being general here), and that they’ve tried A, B and C but they haven’t worked. Someone on the first page will ALWAYS ask if the OP has tried B, even when the OP says they have and it hasn’t worked. It’s like people just see a title and click on it and type off a response, without actually bothering to read the OP.

The taste is quite nice but the texture is like a stringy cucumber I find. I’m intrigued by celery soup - do you string it first?

Yep, that's why I said don't be mean or a twat toffee, you can disagree and have a different pov without being an arse.

I honestly think some people are actually frightened to disagree because of backlash they'll get.

My absolute pet hate. Someone very innocently (and you can tell this by the context so bloody clearly) the word "thick" or "dumb", because they are perfectly standard words, and someone has to jump in and hang on to that word and derail the thread.

Saw this the other day. Someone trying to be professionally offended by the word "thick"... She then got told by several people that it was clearly in a context not to be offended by... So she sulked that I thought it was frowned upon on mn to say that

Which basically means, I chimed in over something that I'm supposed to be offended by, in the hope I'll get patted on the back. I'm not sure why, but I like to follow the crowd and pretend it's my opinion, so I get "likes"

Ughhhhhhh! Shut Tup. 🙄🙄🙄

Ps... Celery is the devil's food

I know exactly the type of attention seeking poster you are referring to there Courtney555, they want the virtual back-slaps and feeling they are 'in' with the 'popular' girls. Love the oh so patronising I thought it was frowned upon on MN to say that

However celery is great cooked.

It's always the same when someone posts asking for help with their dm/mil/dsis bombarding them with stuff and hoarding by proxy. Without fail the 'dead dm who never had the chance to give her gc a barbie' top trump begins as well as it being implied that the OP is a snob because the item is second hand and she wouldn't complain if it was new. This is despite op explaining she's been given a mouldy, naked barbie which has been drawn all over, has had its hands chewed off, that op lives in in a one bedroom flat and that this is the 15th barbie her dm has given her 8 month old in the past 2 weeks.

Agree Nelly. When someone says their mother is annoying them, and someone comes along and says 'be grateful you HAVE a mother! MINE DIED 10 years ago,' that fucks me off.

Same when a frazzled mother comes on here who is at the end of her tether with her 2 'under 5' kids, and someone 'top-trumps' it with 'you don't even KNOW what struggling is! I have THREE kids under 5!!!'

Annoying.

YANBU. Despite so many supportive, constructive posters on here, I have seen some sanctimonious pricks in action. I love it when someone just tells them to fuck off

....I had 3 under 3......I just need to say it sometimes to help with the trauma.....

(That’s lighthearted btw)