DP ex stops him seeing his son

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Hello, hopefully this won't be long but we are in dire need of some advice.
My DP has a 4yr old son who he hasn't managed to see for over a year.
We've been to a solicitor but there wasn't much help they could provide. Ex has moved house, changed number, blocked us on FB, don't have any contact details for other family members. What on earth are we supposed to do?? He's painfully aware this could be the 2nd Christmas without seeing his boy. He could be dead and we wouldn't know?! What can we do wise MN!

Any advice?

What did his solicitor say?

We don't have a strong case for legal aid so could take weeks and even then they may not accept the application

You dont need legal aid or even a solicitor.

OK then what do we do?

File in court. They can trace her through various methods.

Don't have a child with him.

Are you in England /Wales?

@AnyName1 how is that relevant or helpful to the OP?

We can't get to court without a solicitor?
Why not? It's the ex that's the problem not him.
I'm/we/him are in Scotland

You can self represent in family court you just need to cover the application fee. That’s what he needs to do, the court can trace her and the child

Any indication as to why she's gone completely no contact?

To be perfectly honest, it would ring alarm bells for me about your OH's behaviour in their relationship.

Very few women are completely vicious, heartless bitches who stop their children seeing their fathers (or having any contact at all) without very good reason. The level of non-contact is particularly alarming for me - suggests she wants to get herself and her son far away and have nothing to do with your OH. Why is that?

What Spanglyprincess1 said.

I know this isn't the point of the thread but I'd tread carefully. There may be a good or potentially dangerous reason she's moved and blocked him.

There are women who would do this though. I can’t answer the ops question sadly but I wish I could.

Yes, file in court.

I also would tread carefully. Sorry to be a cynic, but I would be wary.

I honestly do not know what has happened.
Me and DP live apart but some business happened and she started phoning the police for the police to come and pick up DS
Eventually all contact stopped. Before changing her number she said if he goes to the house or approaches them in the street she will get him arrested.
Then a few days later she changed her number. He eventually went to the house but it was completely empty, carpets ripped up the lot

Didn't realise he could file in court himself will have to look into that but probably wouldn't be able to afford it ourselves

^^

I can’t believe what AlleyGee has just said! You know nothing about this man or his ex, yet you’ve basically just blamed him for the fact his ex has blocked him and stopped him seeing his son. That is so judgemental. Only on MN are all mothers saints and fathers are guilty until proven innocent.

She’s either;

A) pure evil and hates him for no reason at all
B) very unwell
C) is scared of him for some reason

How do I know nothing about him? It's not as if I have been with him for 5 minutes

Only on MN are all mothers saints and fathers are guilty until proven innocent

Not at all - mothers can be just as bad or good as fathers. But this would make me wary. I’d feel exactly the same if the genders were reversed.

What do you mean by “some business happened”?

‘Some business happened’

Might be your answer.

Seems more to it op it’s rare someone completely off the grin it sounds like she’s frightened how long have you been together?

I'm not sure of the business the exact details
All I know is he went to collect the little boy one day and exes new partner and mine had a wee scuffle