Asked to leave Gym cafe lounge for breastfeeding ?!

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I was at the gyms lounge / cafe as we’d been for a family swim. Big mainstream private gym. DH was with me.

Baby needed a feed but there were lots of people on all the sofas, which are next to main entrance, so I went to a back bit where there were lots of empty sofas and only one lady sitting texting.
I fed baby with my back to the wall, under a blanket thing and DH was opposite me. Baby was super quiet. No crying , no squeaking, nothing.

A weird man came up to us and asked us to leave as there was an ‘adults only sign’. DH said no as the baby was being quiet and surely sign didn’t apply. Man insisted so DH told him to get staff to settle the matter. Man came back with a bloke who worked there and the staffer apologised but said we had to leave as it was adults only. I said it was ridiculous and clearly because I was breastfeeding. I pointed out that the baby was literally silent. The staffer said he appreciated I probably had wanted privacy but I couldn’t sit there.

The other seating area was a)full of people and I would have had to share a sofa to feed my baby and b) next to main entrance so in full view and I feel a bit self conscious there.

The ‘adults only’ area is right at the back so very quiet and discreet.

We left .

AIBU or are they?

All men...?

Because it's inconceivable that (ex-)breastfeeding mothers might think the OP is blatantly in the wrong. 😂

@Primal I belong to a gym (not a DL) and the swimming pool is adults only after 7 pm. Precisely why I joined and I'd leave if that changed.

Wow another entitled mother claiming she was kicked out for breastfeeding
Yay.
Not really the case though is it OP. You were just asked to move somewhere else because you were in the wrong area.
The rules apply to you too but you lot always seem to find something to complain about.

I resign. I think you are all men.

OMG! How did I not notice? What with all the giving birth, periods and breasts and stuff I assumed I was a woman. I feel so foolish...

Before we had kids we went to an adults only gym. It was bliss. But DLs was also bliss as a parent as it is so set up for children.

@Soup Clearly an easy mistake to make...

@themuttsnutts you really do t like men do you??? Nasty horrible unreasonable things men!! 😂

*don't

@themuttsnutts

“I resign. I think you are all men”

A very weak statement to try and justify your arguments. For what it’s worth I am female. I also do support bf when there is a genuine case to answer and there is genuine discrimination. This doesn’t appear to be the case in the OP’s particular situation. She was not discriminated because she was breastfeeding and her thread title was misleading.

You took a child into an adult only area. You were ejected. The end.

YABU

I will never leave my totally adult only gym. Other people's children annoy me, as do entitled women who think the world revolves around them

@Soup Clearly an easy mistake to make...

As was trying to pee standing up. It didn’t go well and I now have to clean the bathroom... dammit!

Just proved your a man there soup

Rotten aim

😂

DH will be extremely miffed when he finds out I’m a man.

I don't understand why you don't get it was an 'adults only' area and think it doesn't apply to you. You ABU

This reminds me of the poster who parked in a car park, breastfed her baby then went shopping. Came back late to a parking fine and thought she shouldn't have to pay because she'd spent some of the time she was parked BF and she was being 'discriminated against'.

If there had been a 'breastfeeding women only' sign and a man had walked in, everyone would (quite rightly) complained. Because he didn't belong there.

I don't think OP is coming back!

I just had a wee and checked well whoda thunk it I'm not a man

I have periods, gave birth 3 times, have a fantastic pair of knockers but hey, I’m a man. I’m a bloody miracle.

I think you are all men

Most definately female (because if im not i would like to hand back my current period from hell if its all the same to you ) and my DP says yes he is a man but a rather decent one who supports breastfeeding formula feeding and any other way mother's need support but he still thinks OP was in the wrong (and now can I go away and let him drink his coffee in peace because he's a bit scared of mumsnet)

I think you are all men
Damm, shall have to inform the hubby

But what a come back ( or rather lack of) when you know you’ve lost the arguement

“You’re all men, ner ner”

*I highly doubt adult only spaces were designed for people dealing with infertility or bereavement.

No, but they WERE designed for people who want some time away from children and babies. What's so hard to understand about that?*

I really have no idea what is so hard to understand about this fact and why people can’t understand that people without kids (who can’t have them) may not wish to see them in the adults only area. The one place that should be childfree.

The utter stupidity of the “all men” comment.