AIBU to think she was a self a self righteous interfering busybody?

[NutElla5x]

Probably get flamed by all the 'rules is rules' people here but here goes.So me and my mum are in Morrison's underground car park yesterday looking for a parking space.My mum,who has a blue badge, due to the fact she has terminal cancer, is driving.She drives past the disabled parking bay(space for less than a dozen cars) which is full,so stops directly at the end of this bay which happens to be a parent and child bay and says 'I'll stop here'.This bay used to be a disabled bay and has has room for about a dozen cars and has only one car in it-a people carrier with a man in the driving seat and a kid/kids in the back.I tell my mum she can't really as it's for parents with kids now and she's like 'Well I've always parked here' LOL and I'm like 'Well you can't now,but if you want to risk a fine it's up to you'.Anyhoo as we're merrily bickering away-engine not even switched off- yet a woman approaches the car that the bloke and kids are in and shouts at my mum 'It's for people with kids!' then shouts the same again before we've even had the chance to respond.Well excuse me but no-one shouts at my mum like that,so I lost it a bit and a full on argument ensued,where I pointed out to her that there were so many mother and child spaces free(just behind us,in the lane next to the full disabled bay there was another double bay for them with lots of spaces free too),and that my mum was disabled and her parking there wouldn't affect anyone and if she wanted to risk a fine what the hell did it have to do with her! I did call her a couple of names-an interfering cow (which she is)being one of them,and it wasn't my finest moment but I don't understand why she would start shouting at an elderly person in such an aggressive manner for,in my mind,such a trivial thing.AIBU?

Perhaps the pp who said that before me ignored your response or perhaps she didn't feel the need to reply as she didn't get an isult flung at her.

I don’t see where you’ve been called a liar. Could you tell me in which post. Ie the time stamp or quote the post.
Nope you can wade through the posts yourself if you're bothered (which you're not) because I'm off for a bath then a early bed.Goodnight.

Thought you might ignore me now. Once again the hypocrisy shines through.

Op, you really aren’t covering yourself in glory by randomly lashing out at time, who definitely didn’t call you a liar, sneakily or otherwise.

I wonder if you actually regretted the post you made doubting time’s post about her mil was genuine and your aggression might be because you’re embarrassed. Or maybe you’re just a bit aggressive. Who knows?

Anyway, enjoy your bath and I’m so sorry about your mum.

I'm guessing the woman who shouted at you hadn't seen a disabled badge. I'm surprised all the disabled spaces were taken and there were plenty of parent and child. I have never experienced this, ever.
Here you are saying that because the woman may not have seen evidence of my mum's illness it excused her of aggressively confronting her.Then because you have different experiences to us when it comes to parking,you imply that what I'm saying is not true.

You're right,it's our fault for not waving it under her big fat interfering nose I'm sure.And you're at least the second person who's 'voiced' fake surprise at the lack of disabled parking spaces.Why not just come straight out and call me a liar,because it's obvious that that is what you are implying
My response which you ignored.

Actually we have to use the disabled bat a lot as my mother in law is in a wheelchair and only has 1 arm and no legs, we have never struggled to get a disabled space. I am also a mother and a childminder and very rarely get a parent and child space. Yes disabled people are entitled to park wherever they want but I think claiming that there are loads of P&C and no disabled spaces is a bit far fetched.
Your response to another poster,again doubting the truth of my post because your experience is different.How arrogant.

YWAU. Oh I've just invented a new acronym You Were ALL unreasonable.

I think it's a ridiculous to get into slanging matches with people over something like Thais. It's really pathetic. Regardless of whether you could or couldn't park there and regardless of the other drivers ridiculous behaviour you reaction was a massive overreaction. I don't understand why some people have so little self control.

Of course she should have parked in a P&C parking space and the woman was being ridiculous.

No able-bodied person with small children 'needs' a special parking space - it makes life easier that's all. Life with small children is a sea of small irritations and inconveniences but that's what you choose when you have babies. If a P&C parking space helps then that is great but it's not all that important really - you can generally find a way to manage,

If you have a disability that limits your mobility for example, being near the store is vital. If you have a walker or a wheelchair you need more space. My parents are very elderly now and have limited mobility. Dad uses a walker and mum has stick. Dad has a BB but regardless of that if there are no spaces available near the shop in the village they simply cannot shop. Full stop.

There is no equivalence between the two circumstances.

Yes, you probably shouldn't have shouted but I don't really blame you. Hope the silly cow thinks twice next time.

Everyone is getting ragey now. Maybe it's time to step away from this thread.

@NutElla5x

I didn't see your response or I would have replied. Still think you wbu to shout and scream at the woman who made a mistake and am now doubting she was as aggressive as you say. I wasn't aggressive towards you and look at the way you reacted to me.
As an adult you can just go around screaming and insulting people that day they don't entirely believe what you say in a non aggressive manner. Grow up.

*Can't, not can

Still doubting my account then Timeisslippingaway yet if I doubt yours you don't like it and accuse me of aggression.Jesus talk about hypocrisy and victim mentality
I'll await your apology for lying about answering all my posts then shall I?

*IrianOfW Thank you.I wouldn't even mind so much but, like I said, the fact that she was already parked up and (as hard as it clearly is for some to believe)there was an abundance of p&c spaces free,so us parking there was affecting no-one,least of all her! Some people just like the sounds of their own voices too much I'm sure.

I don't think you were that unreasonable. You didn't want your mum to get a fine not knowing she could park there. Parking is a stressful time hence a bit of bickering. Next time I'm sure will be fine as now know.

The woman was a busy body and you have an ill mum so told her to do one. Fair enough. You weren't swearing or anything.

Hate car parks!

IrianOfW Thank you.I wouldn't even mind so much but, like I said, the fact that she was already parked up and (as hard as it clearly is for some to believe)there was an abundance of p&c spaces free,so us parking there was affecting no-one,least of all her! Some people just like the sounds of their own voices too much I'm sure.
Forgot to highlight

I don't think you were that unreasonable. You didn't want your mum to get a fine not knowing she could park there. Parking is a stressful time hence a bit of bickering. Next time I'm sure will be fine as now know.

The woman was a busy body and you have an ill mum so told her to do one. Fair enough. You weren't swearing or anything.

Hate car parks!

Exactly this.Some posters are exaggerating now and making out I was screaming at the woman.I wasn't, I was just putting my point across in an elevated voice lol.I just think I may have too much Italian/Irish blood in me and not enough British.I will be adding 'a stiff upper lip' to my list for Santa

I’ve encountered this exact senario before. I was the parent with children. I asked politely if the other person could park elsewhere as the other spaces don’t leave enough room to get children out of the car seats. She politely explained she was disabled and they were all full. I apologised and made do in another space by passing kids into the front seat. Neither person was angry.

Just saying, not every misunderstanding has to end in a row!

I don't think parent and child spaces are legally enforceable. Anyone can park there so the whole argument was pointless.

Where are these places where all the blue badge spaces are full but the P&C spaces are empty? I can honestly say I've never seen it this way round.
Always tonnes of blue badge places empty and P&C full.
One car park I know used to have loads of blue badge/P&C spaces so either one could park in there. Seemed to work and there were always a few free spaces.

Apologise to a for? Victim mentality, I think perhaps that's you. Everyone remembers things differently and I'm saying perhaps you exaggerated your claim that she was aggressive like you are now yo me. I however do not remeber my mil having her 2 legs and arm cut off any differently than it happened as you seem to think. You are clearly a self ritious bitch and you think it's ok when someone disagrees with you slightly to start insulting them. You can ram your apology up your arse, I will be waiting for yours to me though.

notfromstepford

Watch yourself, you will probably get a bit of abuse from OP for doubting her.

Shared spaces is an awful idea. Makes it even harder for disabled people who need them to access them!

Some posters are exaggerating now and making out I was screaming at the woman.I wasn't, I was just putting my point across in an elevated voice

You were the one that said you ‘lost it a bit’ and were confrontational and shouting. 😌

You were the one that said you ‘lost it a bit’ and were confrontational and shouting
Yes I was shouting but not screaming because I was angry,not hysterical.