AIBU to think she was a self a self righteous interfering busybody?

[NutElla5x]

Probably get flamed by all the 'rules is rules' people here but here goes.So me and my mum are in Morrison's underground car park yesterday looking for a parking space.My mum,who has a blue badge, due to the fact she has terminal cancer, is driving.She drives past the disabled parking bay(space for less than a dozen cars) which is full,so stops directly at the end of this bay which happens to be a parent and child bay and says 'I'll stop here'.This bay used to be a disabled bay and has has room for about a dozen cars and has only one car in it-a people carrier with a man in the driving seat and a kid/kids in the back.I tell my mum she can't really as it's for parents with kids now and she's like 'Well I've always parked here' LOL and I'm like 'Well you can't now,but if you want to risk a fine it's up to you'.Anyhoo as we're merrily bickering away-engine not even switched off- yet a woman approaches the car that the bloke and kids are in and shouts at my mum 'It's for people with kids!' then shouts the same again before we've even had the chance to respond.Well excuse me but no-one shouts at my mum like that,so I lost it a bit and a full on argument ensued,where I pointed out to her that there were so many mother and child spaces free(just behind us,in the lane next to the full disabled bay there was another double bay for them with lots of spaces free too),and that my mum was disabled and her parking there wouldn't affect anyone and if she wanted to risk a fine what the hell did it have to do with her! I did call her a couple of names-an interfering cow (which she is)being one of them,and it wasn't my finest moment but I don't understand why she would start shouting at an elderly person in such an aggressive manner for,in my mind,such a trivial thing.AIBU?

Timeisslippingaway I think claiming your mother-in-law has only 1 arm and no legs is a bit far fetched.

As everyone has already said, your mum was entitled to park there.

In any case, she was there with her child - YOU. You will always be your mum’s baby and should have said so to interfering woman.

Your mum was right, right, right and should be basking in her rightness. 🍾

NutElla
Some people are born that way you know. I don’t see why it is far fetched.

You were vu to tell your mother not to park in a p&c space. But I see that you have admitted this.

I have a B.B. Not had it long. Although I have in all honesty needed one for several years but not applied before as my health fluctuates and I saw it as “giving in”. It really pisses me off when people park in them when they don’t need them. I absolutely would park in p&c spaces if they are closer. I don’t use walking aids and on a bad day a few metres makes the difference between getting to let alone from my destination.

Idiot parents think they have the right to park in disabled spaces at school pick up for example and when the car park is crowded there is then no space for me. I was just pulling in to the gp surgery for an appointment the other day and a man stopped in the only disabled space to drop his wife off. He arrived seconds before me then parked in a normal space. Just why? You have legs, which work properly. Use them. At school there is plenty of space to park on the road only a few meters away!

So no, there are not enough disabled spaces either in small car parks or small shopping areas. The only place I know, where there is an abundance of B.B. spaces are in city shopping centres and these are useless for me as I would need an electric wheelchair most of the time and when I’m that ill I’d be too ill to shop in any case. Driving would be enough of a challenge!

YABU for having a slanging match with someone in a public car park. You could just have politely pointed out that your mum was disabled and the disabled spaces were full.

YABVU for saying that an adult with their mum should be allowed to use a parent and child parking space! You know full well it’s intended for people with car seats, buggies and other bulky child items who need extra space to fully open the doors and wrangle kids and equipment into the car. It’s just selfish to park there if you’re both adults.

YANBU for a disabled person parking in a parent and child space when the disabled spaces are full.

There are very rarely free disabled spaces where I live. Yesterday I had to go home without something I needed as I couldn't park and in a normal space I can't get my wheelchair up the side of my car.

NutElla5x That was really rude of you.

Even on non-council ground, banning disabled people from parking in P & C spaces would have implications under the Equality Act 2010

Maybe if we all did the same these people would think twice before opening their big traps and making suffering people feel worse than they already to

I wish more people thought that way. It completely took away my Mum’s independence in her last months while she was still able. She was crushed by the comments (which were more regular than people would expect) because even after rounds of chemo, radio, a massive op and having bladder and bowel removed she “looked” ok. But she wasn’t, and these shitty horrible bastards who felt the need to have a go absolutely crushed her.

@NutElla5x

Harsh and insulting words but my mother in law contacted sepsis after being left untreated for kidney stones and she almost died. He 2 legs and arm certainly died though and they all had to be removed. She now has prosthetic legs but no arm yet sadly, she can't go far on her legs though so is mainly in a wheelchair. It has been a horrendous time for her and the whole family. It just happened at the beginning of the year. Don't be a dickhead in future!

*contracted sepsis

Sainsbury's spaces that are for families also state or blue bagged holders

YeTalkShiteHen I'm so sorry I didn't realised your mum had already passed.I am sorry for your loss and even sorrier for the fact that your brave mum's last few months on this earth was made worse by twatty ignoramuses who were probably too stupid to pass their exams/tests that they needed to become traffic wardens or police officers so they decided to take their frustrations out on the weak and/or vulnerable.The one very good thing is that your mum was lucky to have you by her side.Imagine how much worse it must be for those who have no-one who is there for them : (

SoupDragon Care to elaborate,or do I just bung your post down with with the pointless and meaningless pile?

@Timeisslippingaway I feel sorry for your mother-in-law if all that is true.But why should I believe your story when you don't believe mine?

SoupDragon Care to elaborate,or do I just bung your post down with with the pointless and meaningless pile?

I think she's referring to your response to Timeisslippingaway, who confirmed that her MiL did indeed have triple amputations.

Cross post!

@NutElla5x

I thi k what you said to me is a bit more extreme and insulting than me saying I've never experienced there being to disabled spaces and plenty of parent and child spaces.
You just told me you don't believe that my mother in law suffered that horrendous ordeal because you are pissed about a parking space. Please do get a grip. I didn't comment on your mother's awful illness, I would never dream of saying something so awful to someone. Guess we got a glimpse of you in the car park there eh?

SoupDragon Care to elaborate,or do I just bung your post down with with the pointless and meaningless pile?

Yes, your post saying ^claiming your mother-in-law has only 1 arm and no legs is a bit far fetched is unbelievably rude and bitchy. You should be ashamed of yourself. Offensive doesn’t even begin to cover it.

You can stick this post wherever you like.

HTH.

And don't you even bother trying to come across as the 'poorme' hard done by one @Timeisslippingaway when you are exactly the type of person that perpetuates these situations with your horrible snideness.

I think she's referring to your response to Timeisslippingaway, who confirmed that her MiL did indeed have triple amputations
Yes I gathered.And I'm just trying to convey how frustrating it is when people so casually call you a liar on here.

@NutElla5x

Oh there it is again. At no point have I been poor me. It happened to my mother in law not me.
All I was doing was pointing out that I've had experience of needing both types of spaces. I didn't see you saying me being a childminder or a mother far fetched, you chose to pick out the example of my mil. Not sire I know what situation you mean, this one online or your situation in the car park?

Like I said you didn't chose to call me a liar about anything else. Why did you chose to call me a liar about my mil?

And don't you even bother trying to come across as the 'poorme' hard done by one

This one sentence speaks volumes. Said with such acid behind it as though you know me personally and have argued with me before. Haha maybe you have and are still holding a grudge because really my post did not deserve you bitchy response, either of them.

*Timeisslippingaway you haven't said the words but you seem-albeit in a sneaky way- intent on calling me a liar about the lack of disabled places,which is really infuriating because if there were disabled places available do you not think we would fucking well use them?

but you seem-albeit in a sneaky way- intent on calling me a liar about the lack of disabled places

She didn’t. She was relating her personal experience.