AIBU to think she was a self a self righteous interfering busybody?

[NutElla5x]

Probably get flamed by all the 'rules is rules' people here but here goes.So me and my mum are in Morrison's underground car park yesterday looking for a parking space.My mum,who has a blue badge, due to the fact she has terminal cancer, is driving.She drives past the disabled parking bay(space for less than a dozen cars) which is full,so stops directly at the end of this bay which happens to be a parent and child bay and says 'I'll stop here'.This bay used to be a disabled bay and has has room for about a dozen cars and has only one car in it-a people carrier with a man in the driving seat and a kid/kids in the back.I tell my mum she can't really as it's for parents with kids now and she's like 'Well I've always parked here' LOL and I'm like 'Well you can't now,but if you want to risk a fine it's up to you'.Anyhoo as we're merrily bickering away-engine not even switched off- yet a woman approaches the car that the bloke and kids are in and shouts at my mum 'It's for people with kids!' then shouts the same again before we've even had the chance to respond.Well excuse me but no-one shouts at my mum like that,so I lost it a bit and a full on argument ensued,where I pointed out to her that there were so many mother and child spaces free(just behind us,in the lane next to the full disabled bay there was another double bay for them with lots of spaces free too),and that my mum was disabled and her parking there wouldn't affect anyone and if she wanted to risk a fine what the hell did it have to do with her! I did call her a couple of names-an interfering cow (which she is)being one of them,and it wasn't my finest moment but I don't understand why she would start shouting at an elderly person in such an aggressive manner for,in my mind,such a trivial thing.AIBU?

I have to justify a lot of my child's behaviour, and a lot of mine as his parent. Why is is ok for your need to be beyond question and not mine

What has that got to do with you asking why people are parked in certain places?

@Timeisslippingaway yes it's strange, I think there's a lot of projection happening on this thread. I couldn't see you being so irrationally scapegoated though without offering some support...or rationality! There's a lot of the pitchfork/mob mentality on this thread :(

Sorry Yetalk, p&c spaces v disabled is never a good discussion.

pippitysqueakity aye you’re right. Sadly people think that being a parent means their wants become needs and that they trump the needs of people who need access to disabled facilities.

Every single time.

Mummyoflittledragon - unfortunately it's not practical for me to hold up the traffic stopping in the roadway so my mum can get out. She needs assistance getting in and out of the car, so I would have to run round to help her.

We try as far as possible to park in a quiet bit of the car park where there is a space on the passenger side but that often gets taken. I then have to move the car to somewhere where there is a space.

I just get a bit fed up with parents with children having 'special treatment' whereas my mum who is frail and unsteady on her feet but not disabled, is expected to cope with the general car park bun fight.

2010Aussie
I really think your mum should get an assessment for a B.B. then because you’re going to get abuse and possibly a fine. I got a B.B. recently. It took me a long time (several years) to take the decision to get one and now that I have it I wonder what all the fuss in my head was about.

I understand your frustration at not having adjustments for your mum. However, it is for you / her to seek them out and see if she is entitled to a B.B. In the assessment she will be asked to walk a certain amount, asked what (if any) walking aids she uses, step by step description of how she gets in and out of the car and a lot of other activities. Eg shuffles bum, pushes on this, hooks her foot there, you do x etc.

As for my comment, there are pick up and drop off points at my local supermarket I was thinking at one of those.

Timeisslippingaway
I’m flabbergasted as to why you are receiving so much bile. I asked the op to explain where you called her a liar and she quoted loads of posts, where you said nothing nasty.

NutElla
As for how you are speaking to Time and calling the poster with a family member, who had sepsis and lost limbs arrogant. Words fail me. I can but assume you are very angry because your parent is dying. Yes it’s shit, however, I hope in time you will take a step back and realise no one called you a liar or was arrogant. They spoke from personal experience and used innocuous comments such as “a bit far fetched”. A bit far fetched simply translates as “perhaps it isn’t systematically this way”.

"No, my anger is not with my condition, it's with people like you who accost the disabled when they have to use a P&C space. Whether you see my blue badge or not, you are NOT the parking police and you have NO RIGHT to ask anyone why they have parked there."

Quite.