AIBU to think she was a self a self righteous interfering busybody?

[NutElla5x]

Probably get flamed by all the 'rules is rules' people here but here goes.So me and my mum are in Morrison's underground car park yesterday looking for a parking space.My mum,who has a blue badge, due to the fact she has terminal cancer, is driving.She drives past the disabled parking bay(space for less than a dozen cars) which is full,so stops directly at the end of this bay which happens to be a parent and child bay and says 'I'll stop here'.This bay used to be a disabled bay and has has room for about a dozen cars and has only one car in it-a people carrier with a man in the driving seat and a kid/kids in the back.I tell my mum she can't really as it's for parents with kids now and she's like 'Well I've always parked here' LOL and I'm like 'Well you can't now,but if you want to risk a fine it's up to you'.Anyhoo as we're merrily bickering away-engine not even switched off- yet a woman approaches the car that the bloke and kids are in and shouts at my mum 'It's for people with kids!' then shouts the same again before we've even had the chance to respond.Well excuse me but no-one shouts at my mum like that,so I lost it a bit and a full on argument ensued,where I pointed out to her that there were so many mother and child spaces free(just behind us,in the lane next to the full disabled bay there was another double bay for them with lots of spaces free too),and that my mum was disabled and her parking there wouldn't affect anyone and if she wanted to risk a fine what the hell did it have to do with her! I did call her a couple of names-an interfering cow (which she is)being one of them,and it wasn't my finest moment but I don't understand why she would start shouting at an elderly person in such an aggressive manner for,in my mind,such a trivial thing.AIBU?

This is the bit I don’t understand. Why not just quietly explain that your Mum was disabled and that unfortunately the disabled bay was full.

It would have been far more effective, the woman would have had the wind taken out her sails, been embarrassed and probably apologised.

Instead you screamed names at a woman in front of her children, mortified your ill mother and caused an entirely unnecessary and unpleasant scene

You could have resolved it better and quicker with a few quiet words.

This ^ in spades.
Of course YWBU.

I mentioned I thought it was a bit far fetched in one post and have only repeated that in response to what you said to me not to keep implying you are "lying".
Why did you say what you did to me? You need to calm down a bit I think.

You belittled my mother in laws illness and the shit life she has now by saying her horrendous traumatic experience was a bit far fetched, well done. I hope it's got some steam out and you feel better now. Hopefully no one ever doubts what you tell us about your poor mother.

we have never struggled to get a disabled space. I am also a mother and a childminder and very rarely get a parent and child space. Yes disabled people are entitled to park wherever they want but I think claiming that there are loads of P&C and no disabled spaces is a bit far fetched.

Well we often struggle to get a disabled space in this city and there are plenty of p&c spaces free that we use.

HTH

I mentioned I thought it was a bit far fetched in one post

Are you rethinking that now?

Based on her recent responses, I can totes imagine a "frank and open" exchange with someone who made a mild enquiry in the car park.

Well we haven't, as I said disabled people or the people driving them CAN park wherever they like.
HTH

Based on her recent responses, I can totes imagine a "frank and open" exchange with someone who made a mild enquiry in the car park.

Frank and open, or a screaming bitch fight!

I always believe a blue badge trumps people with children everytime

Off topic I know, but I was reading that some bus companies are trying to resolve the issue of buggies v wheelchairs by having a designated buggy space and a dedicated wheelchair space.

I can’t reconcile this. Are they saying if the wheelchair space and the buggy space are both full, then they won’t let the wheelchair on? Is that fair enough? I can’t decide

NutElla5x your attitude in recent replies speaks volumes. Nice as pie when you're getting sympathy but a nasty piece of work at any perceived sleight against you.

I'm starting to wonder myself whether your retelling of the event is as inflated as what you've inferred from Timeisslippingaway's post.

You belittled my mother in laws illness and the shit life she has now by saying her horrendous traumatic experience was a bit far fetched, well done. I hope it's got some steam out and you feel better now. Hopefully no one ever doubts what you tell us about your poor mother
You need to calm down and stop taking things completely out of context.Of course I'm not belittling your mother-in-law-as you well know.If what you say is true I feel for her,as I do about any human being who is suffering.But I think you need to think before casually and sneakily insinuating that people like me and my mum are liars because when the boots on the other foot you might find it as nasty and frustrating as I do.

I was reading that some bus companies are trying to resolve the issue of buggies v wheelchairs by having a designated buggy space and a dedicated wheelchair space
Where I live, all of the bus companies have put up signs saying that the space is legally protected and if a wheelchair user wants to use the space then the buggy user must move.

Don't forget that even if it is a PITA, buggies can be folded down.

Wheelchair users do not have the same option.

😂😂 aw I can't even think of a decent reply for that one, all my brain can think is HYPOCRITE!
I'm sure the woman in the car park and I won't be the last ones to feel the wrath of NutElla5x

Oh and I have actually posted about my mil before so I didn't make it up for the purpose of your thread as you implied a couple of times.

NutElla5x your attitude in recent replies speaks volumes. Nice as pie when you're getting sympathy but a nasty piece of work at any perceived sleight against you.
Wrong.I've taken in a lot of what people have said on here,slights and all because I know I'm not perfect-far from it,but one thing I'm not is a liar and I resent being alluded to as one,ESPECIALLY in such a sneaky way.

What sneaky way? I wasn't sneaky about anything. I blatantly said I thought it was a bit far fetched as I have never experienced this anywhere I have been and I am out a lot with kids and a disabled person! I am proably in a car park at least onve a day and not just where i live. What is it you found so sneaky? I disagreed with you.

"I'm just surprised that there were more parent and child than disabled.. I can NEVER get a parent and child space, but there is always loads of disabled spaces free.
Me too actually.I've never noticed how many they hadbefore.Thenagain I've not been to Morrison's for ages, and don't really look out for parent and child spaces anymore anyway as my kids aren't little anymore."

Here is your response to someone who said nearly exactly the same as I did just withought the words far fetched.

I use the 'Parent and Child' spaces with my 85 mum quite a lot.

She is not disabled because she can walk the minimum distance unaided but she needs to open the car door as wide as it will go in order to get in and out. She simply cannot squeeze through a narrow gap when another car is parked up close.

We had some snooty woman comment to us that these spaces are for parents and children and my mother said "I'm the parent and my daughter is my child"

You need to calm down

Talk about post and kettle

Yep Timeis I already 'explained myself ' once-though fuck knows why I should need to-she,as I recall, had nothing else to say on the matter but then you came along and questioned my integrity yet again,and then ignore me when I pull you up on it,so obviously I'm going to get a bit frustrated.

My biggest pet peeve are ignorant people using parent and child when not needed - especially as these spaces are often few and far in between. It literally boils my blood (although this might also be due to the fact I'm 37 wks pregnant, hormonal and have a non walking 1 year old to cart around) HOWEVER even I cannot feel annoyed at blue badge holders as think they take priority.

Haha *2010Aussie I mighty never have met your mother but I love her!

I don’t see where you’ve been called a liar. Could you tell me in which post. Ie the time stamp or quote the post.

You sound pretty angry actually. I get it. It’s shit having a terminally ill parent. But it isn’t fair to take it out on strangers on the internet, who either care for disabled people or are disabled themselves.

2010Aussie
In fairness your mother should get out of the car then you park properly like dh and I used to do before I got my B.B.

NutElla5x

Ignore you when you "pull me up" ? When did I ignore you I've answered you every single time.
Oh and "pull me up" ffs really, that also tells me a lot about you.