AIBU to think she was a self a self righteous interfering busybody?

[NutElla5x]

Probably get flamed by all the 'rules is rules' people here but here goes.So me and my mum are in Morrison's underground car park yesterday looking for a parking space.My mum,who has a blue badge, due to the fact she has terminal cancer, is driving.She drives past the disabled parking bay(space for less than a dozen cars) which is full,so stops directly at the end of this bay which happens to be a parent and child bay and says 'I'll stop here'.This bay used to be a disabled bay and has has room for about a dozen cars and has only one car in it-a people carrier with a man in the driving seat and a kid/kids in the back.I tell my mum she can't really as it's for parents with kids now and she's like 'Well I've always parked here' LOL and I'm like 'Well you can't now,but if you want to risk a fine it's up to you'.Anyhoo as we're merrily bickering away-engine not even switched off- yet a woman approaches the car that the bloke and kids are in and shouts at my mum 'It's for people with kids!' then shouts the same again before we've even had the chance to respond.Well excuse me but no-one shouts at my mum like that,so I lost it a bit and a full on argument ensued,where I pointed out to her that there were so many mother and child spaces free(just behind us,in the lane next to the full disabled bay there was another double bay for them with lots of spaces free too),and that my mum was disabled and her parking there wouldn't affect anyone and if she wanted to risk a fine what the hell did it have to do with her! I did call her a couple of names-an interfering cow (which she is)being one of them,and it wasn't my finest moment but I don't understand why she would start shouting at an elderly person in such an aggressive manner for,in my mind,such a trivial thing.AIBU?

they were probably shoutimg as you were in the car and they were outside so you could hear. it was a total overreaction and probably embarassed your mum!
Having said all that I wish all the gery best to you and your muk xx
Angry expression on her face said different,plus car window's were open.Thank you for the good wishes though,that's very kind x

I love a good car park slanting match. Can you sell tickets next time?

so I lost it a bit and a full on argument ensue

This is the bit I don’t understand. Why not just quietly explain that your Mum was disabled and that unfortunately the disabled bay was full.

It would have been far more effective, the woman would have had the wind taken out her sails, been embarrassed and probably apologised.

Instead you screamed names at a woman in front of her children, mortified your ill mother and caused an entirely unnecessary and unpleasant scene.

You could have resolved it better and quicker with a few quiet words.

Honestly. I have two kids under four. Getting them in and out of the car is difficult and the extra space makes my life so much easier

I’d more than happily give the space up for the OPs Mum. Or any disabled person. Anyone who wouldn’t is a fucking twat. Anxious

^^This. I have three under 5. Would give a parent child space to a blue badge holder ANY day. What kind of selfish prick wouldn't??! ANXIOUS.

Anxious2niteaaah
Just because it used to be the disabled bay doesn't mean she's entitled to park there now, and having terminal cancer doesn't give special privileges to flout parking rules

I realise from reading on here that when some women become mothers they become precious and entitled but your post beats them all.

How you can seriously imagine that a parent is more deserving of a parking space than someone with cancer is beyond my comprehension. Let's hope it will never be you in that position.

P&C spaces are a courtesy and people with a disability and a blue badge are fully entitled to park in them if disabled bays are full.

Why does it never work when I try to highlight a post? Do you have to asterisk each line separately or something?

When highlighting a long post I take all the paragraphs out then highlight as a single block of text. Its the paragraphs that prevent it all highlighting.

You might be made of stone, but not everyone is

I'm not made of stone. And believe it or not, I have similar stressors in my life to the OP. I just don't express myself by shouting and name calling. And actually I believe this is true of most people.

Disabled trumps parent and child. If all the disabled bays are full you can park there and display your blue badge no problem.

If the disabled spaces are full, I'll park in a parent and child space, whether DS is with me or not. My need to get my wheelchair out to actually be able to leave my vehicle trumps the needs of someone who can use their limbs and park elsewhere.

My mum also has terminal cancer and a disabled badge. We always use P&C if no disabled bays available.

Thank you to the people responding to Anxious' callous post.I tried hard not to let it get to me and responded in a very calm and collected manner I thought.....see I'm learning lol.Now Im off to visit my mum,if she's still talking to me!

The mother and baby parking spaces are there for a reason for parents who have to travel with babies, toddlers, prams/careers, baby change bags and all the other crap they need to carry so the closer spaces make it easier for them..

Aw, poor them.

I’ve had 3 children and used P&C space for all the reasons you state and they were a godsend.

However, I was far more able to use a normal space and walk to the store than my father who has a blue badge for terminal cancer.

are you really as lacking in empathy and understanding as you sound?

Aah thankyou MrBeans

I add formatting to each paragraph rather than take them out.

Some things are worth shouting in the street about. This isn't. You'll never cool off a situation with this 'no one shouts at my mum' attitude.

Yanbu for parking there if all the disabled bays are full. Yabu for yelling and name calling though.

I don't think the OP was being unreasonable. I would have nothing to say if someone shouted at me other than ask them not to shout. Shout at my mum however and I would see red. She is very physically disabled and has dementia and I know I would lose my rag at the sort of person who would shout at her.
Exactly this.I see it as bullying behaviour ,which I can't abide,especially when directed at my own loved ones.All the best to you and your mum Nootka,my Dad had dementia so I can really empathise, and then to have to cope with a disability on top must be so hard.Respect x

You didn't help matters by losing your cool, but I understand why you responded the way you did, it was your protective instinct kicking in.
Terminal illness & blue badges trumps people who choose to have children. No-one chooses to be ill/disabled.
@Anxious2niteaaah - your self entitlement just because you choose to breed is breathtaking.

Not rtft but with a blue badge your mum can definitely park in mother and baby. Its the law. That stupid twat daring to shout at you should know this and can fuck off.

Yes Nutella you need to asterisk each paragraph unfortunately!

Some things are worth shouting in the street about. This isn't. You'll never cool off a situation with this 'no one shouts at my mum' attitude.

Agreed-I’d have ignored her, parked there anyway and gone in to explain to the customer services/security where we’d parked.

Yes - a blue badge supersedes a P and C parking space. I have a blue badge for my DS2 who has autism and often park in P and C spaces if there isn't a disabled bay available.

I think I would have probably reacted in the same way!

Some people feel better from having a go at others - cheeky cow!

Some things are worth shouting in the street about. This isn't. You'll never cool off a situation with this 'no one shouts at my mum' attitude.

I disagree. Call out these twats so next time they don't pick on someone less robust than OP.