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AIBU? New house with rude neighbours!!!

167 replies

netmumsuser2020 · 05/09/2018 23:09

Evening everyone.

Recently my partner and I had to move to a less expensive house because we have been going through fertility treatments and couldn't afford the rent at our old place. My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

We found a much cheaper house, £300 less in rent a month but still just as large inside (Semi-detached, 3 bedrooms) however the catch was that it isn't in that great of an area. Obviously the letting agency didn't declare this but we already knew it. That didn't bother us really, we have a good burglar alarm system and two dogs that are tiny but have big barks.

The area is quiet and we haven't seen anything of our attached neighbour, although we know they have a baby as we occasionally hear him/her crying (Not a problem) many families live on this estate and we were told most are council tenants, again I don't care about this.

ANYWAY, onto the problematic neighbours now I've done babbling. Our house is detached from theirs however we share a path that splits off to our front door and then obviously theirs. It's a pretty narrow path between our two front gardens.

Today we were attempting to move furniture in, down this narrow path and noticed the neighbours had put their wheelie bin SMACK BANG IN THE F*CKING MIDDLE of the pathway. This path is so narrow an entire wheelie bin fills it.

They're well aware we have moved in because we've seen them curtain twitching. They actually brought their bin in from the street and placed it in the middle of the path after seeing we were moving stuff in. We had left the house to collect furniture from our old house, came back and saw the wheelie bin just stood centre pathway.

Hours later, the bin was still there. We had a guy come out to measure our living room to fit laminate flooring and he had to scoot around the neighbours bin to get to our front door. I was so embarrassed.

Along with this, our 5 year old daughter nearly fell and hit her head due to trying to skim around the bin.

I know most of you are thinking 'Just move the damned thing!' But we don't feel it's our place, especially when we have literally JUST moved in.

AIBU to think this is incredibly rude and disrespectful? A childish part of me honestly thinks they placed it centre path on purpose to be awkward.

What should we do if this continues? Any advice?

OP posts:
IWantMyHatBack · 05/09/2018 23:11

Sorry.. But.

Move the fucking bin Hmm

Claireshh · 05/09/2018 23:11

I would have moved the bin!

TheBigFatMermaid · 05/09/2018 23:12

Yes, just move the damn thing!

Honestly! Don't confront, don't debate or discuss, because that gives drama where it may well be wanted but certainly isn't warranted.

Wheresthel1ght · 05/09/2018 23:13

Move the bin. Letting your child have a near miss accident because you are too prim to shift a bin is pretty stupid!

Singlenotsingle · 05/09/2018 23:13

Move the bin. Either they don't know you're trying to get past, or they don't care.

Hiphopopotamus · 05/09/2018 23:14

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GerdaLovesLili · 05/09/2018 23:14

Why didn't you move it? It's wheelie-bin, not stonehenge.

PatriciaHolm · 05/09/2018 23:16

Er - you know this is mumsnet not netmums, right? Looking at your username.

Just move the sodding bin. There's no need to be so ridiculously passive aggressive about it.

BlackStar7 · 05/09/2018 23:17

They sound like dicks for putting it there when it's clear you're moving in. Maybe they're watching you to see what you do. Possibly laughing at you trying to get round it?? So if just move it without saying anything. No drama.

netmumsuser2020 · 05/09/2018 23:17

Sorry for mentioning that I had to move from a house and uproot my daughter to fund IVF. Infertility is something that my partner and I LOVE struggling from :-)

OP posts:
BlackStar7 · 05/09/2018 23:17

*I'd just move it

netmumsuser2020 · 05/09/2018 23:19

My partner is gonna go out and move it tomorrow morning if it hasn't been moved. The reason we didn't initially is because the path is so long that we'd have to drag their bin down this huge long path and then down several steps and we felt they should've done it. I hope they genuinely just didn't realise we needed access and have done it out of habit (The house we're in was vacant for months)

OP posts:
IfIWasABirdIdFlyIn2ACeilingFan · 05/09/2018 23:19

Oh come on!! You move the bin! They’re testing you! This is where you set the standard for the rest of your neighbourly relationship. You can either forever be the wimpy neighbour getting walked over or you show them from the start you won’t be bullied by moving the bin. You know what you need to do. I actually can’t believe youve all been shimmying round it all day! Grin

steff13 · 05/09/2018 23:19

Well, that was a super weird thing to do. But I would have moved it, probably so it was directly in front of their front door.

AornisHades · 05/09/2018 23:21

Knock on their door, introduce yourself with a smile and ask where's the best place to move their bin to while you use the path.

IfIWasABirdIdFlyIn2ACeilingFan · 05/09/2018 23:21

Sorry for mentioning that I had to move from a house and uproot my daughter to fund IVF. Infertility is something that my partner and I LOVE struggling from :-)

Yeah but it’s not relevant, so....

SilverySurfer · 05/09/2018 23:22

Can you explain why you didn't just move the bin and then none of the situations would have occurred?

netmumsuser2020 · 05/09/2018 23:23

I can't believe I've actually offended people by mentioning I'm going through something as hard as IVF. I think the people complaining need to get a grip because this is not a journey I'd wish on anyone. I mentioned it as a talking point because I'm new to this forum and thought it was about making friends/chatting....

OP posts:
esk1mo · 05/09/2018 23:24

it is a bit weird you had to justify why you live in a poor area filled with council tenants. what does that have to do with your neighbour?

my rudest neighbours were pensioners who owned their home.

SabineUndine · 05/09/2018 23:26

They probably wanted your attention.

Asterado · 05/09/2018 23:26

I have a feeling that if you’ve literally just arrived and you’re already bitching about a wheelie bin and how rude your new neighbours are, it isn’t your neighbours that are going to be the problematic ones.

Good luck OP. You’re going to need it.

esk1mo · 05/09/2018 23:28

your username is also a weird choice ..

MyDoctor · 05/09/2018 23:30

Just move it, then introduce yourselves with a tin of sweets or something.

IfIWasABirdIdFlyIn2ACeilingFan · 05/09/2018 23:30

Actually OP, that poster didn’t just mention your IVF. They mentioned you insisting you weren’t poor. It’s you that has only chosen to focus on the IVF part of the comment.

BookWitch · 05/09/2018 23:31

The long back story about why you have moved house is just to point out that you are better than everyone else, because they are (gasp) council tenants?

Move the bin.

My friend is having hideous problems with a complete wanker of a neighbour. And he drives a porsche. Next time I see her. I'll point out that it could be worse, she could be living next to a COUNCIL TENANT.

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