AIBU? New house with rude neighbours!!!

[netmumsuser2020]

Evening everyone.

Recently my partner and I had to move to a less expensive house because we have been going through fertility treatments and couldn't afford the rent at our old place. My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

We found a much cheaper house, £300 less in rent a month but still just as large inside (Semi-detached, 3 bedrooms) however the catch was that it isn't in that great of an area. Obviously the letting agency didn't declare this but we already knew it. That didn't bother us really, we have a good burglar alarm system and two dogs that are tiny but have big barks.

The area is quiet and we haven't seen anything of our attached neighbour, although we know they have a baby as we occasionally hear him/her crying (Not a problem) many families live on this estate and we were told most are council tenants, again I don't care about this.

ANYWAY, onto the problematic neighbours now I've done babbling. Our house is detached from theirs however we share a path that splits off to our front door and then obviously theirs. It's a pretty narrow path between our two front gardens.

Today we were attempting to move furniture in, down this narrow path and noticed the neighbours had put their wheelie bin SMACK BANG IN THE F*CKING MIDDLE of the pathway. This path is so narrow an entire wheelie bin fills it.

They're well aware we have moved in because we've seen them curtain twitching. They actually brought their bin in from the street and placed it in the middle of the path after seeing we were moving stuff in. We had left the house to collect furniture from our old house, came back and saw the wheelie bin just stood centre pathway.

Hours later, the bin was still there. We had a guy come out to measure our living room to fit laminate flooring and he had to scoot around the neighbours bin to get to our front door. I was so embarrassed.

Along with this, our 5 year old daughter nearly fell and hit her head due to trying to skim around the bin.

I know most of you are thinking 'Just move the damned thing!' But we don't feel it's our place, especially when we have literally JUST moved in.

AIBU to think this is incredibly rude and disrespectful? A childish part of me honestly thinks they placed it centre path on purpose to be awkward.

What should we do if this continues? Any advice?

Bloody council tenants with their bins. Bet those bins get all the benefits going. Not satisfied with that they want the paths too. Entitled council bins!

Ah everyone is ganging up on you. Don't mind them. Move the bin in the morning. But if you're looking for chats and friends, don't post in aibu, it's sometimes very aggressive here.

I mentioned the IVF because you mentioned it! The whole backstory to the post just seemed designed to let us know that you’re only in a ‘less desirable ‘ area because of that! It felt snobbish and actually quite offensive

OP. Don't get upset by these comments. You should have put this on 'chat'.
I don't understand all the aggression about your comment - moving to a less nice area. Pay no attention to these posters. I understand your post.

Just get your husband to move bin tomorrow. And maybe say 'hi' to the neighbours.

Good luck with your IVF

Just move the ruddy bin. IVF is irrelevant.

I wish you great luck with the IVF.
As regards the bin, move it out of your way

it is a bit weird you had to justify why you live in a poor area filled with council tenants. what does that have to do with your neighbour?

It's so we all know she doesn't belong there, with these rough people, don't you know?

Actually, I kind of get it. Council estates can be the loveliest of places, but there is always the odd dickhead who likes to think they rule the roost. Not easy to handle if you are not used to it, sometimes not easy to handle if you are.

netmumsuser2020 I mentioned it as a talking point because I'm new to this forum and thought it was about making friends/chatting....

Basically AIBU is where people go to sound off/debate/argue, it's got some advantages as find out what people really think, helps work out what you really think because your ideas will be challenged, can learn a lot BUT if you want a gentler introduction to the site you would be better off in a different area of the site.

If you go to the Talk menu and you go to the top right-hand menu you can get a list of all the topics, including some that are not obvious from the general Talk categories.

If you continue to post on AIBU then need to be a wee bit tougher! Although if anyone gives you a really hard time, other posters will always come along and be supportive.

In terms of making friends/chatting on MN it's actually perfectly possible, have made some very positive connections, but easier to do in areas that are unified by common interests like pets. Although the Doghouse can be a pretty tough arena too, but mainly because posters passionate about dogs/have decided opinions on how to live with them.

How long is the "huge long path"?

Put the bin on the pavement until you are done. Move it to their side of the path.

You might want this thread moved to Nethuns. There are no friends on AIBU. Only vipers.

On the bin, I would move it, but there may be 'unwritten' rules about where people put bins. Have a look at the surrounding houses, work out where the majority put theirs, copy them. If the neighbours are the kind of people who get pissed off at this kind of thing, then they're like that anyway and will find something else to be annoyed about if you don't move it. As my gran used to say may as well be hanged for a sheep as a lamb - whatever that actually means!

I get it. I’m sorry you aren’t getting the replies you expected. Infertility sucks.

Just , seriously move the bin!

marylou1977, Yea fertility sucks we get that. But this has nothing to do with it!

Infertility! Oops, sorry now that was I sensitive 😬 Genuinely got that wrong. But still my argument stands, infertility has nothing to do with the bin scenario.

Insensitive - obviously having a bad day and don't proof read before hitting the post button.

I lived next to a council tenant once...never again

Can't you just move the bin into their front garden?

You lived next a Council tenant felt? Just the one? Not all of them?

Move the bin a few inches into their garden so its just off the shared path, dont put it back in its rightful place for them. If they are being wankers by not moving the bin you look like a pushover, if it was a gebuine error they won't care you've moved it

No need for the whole back story it is totally irrelevant to this post especially that a different neighbour has a baby who cries... yeah babies do that as I'm sure you know.
Why not just move the bin off the path you don't need to wheele it anywhere? How long exactly is this path?
You get cf neighbours everywhere not just council tenants!
Perhaps the bin men put the bin there?

Move the bin then cancel the cheque...
IVF is an arse and lots if people on here have been through it. Post on that in he right section and you'll get lots of support. There are also dedicated forums that you probably know all about.
It's just your post, this very post was about... a bin!

So basically....

We've just moved house and our new neighbours have put their bin in the way on our shared path.
AIBU to move it?

No, YWNBU to move it. Maybe pop round and introduce yourself and say you moved it to move your furniture in. Ask what day the bins go out and if there's a particular place you should leave yours.

So it's been over 24 hours.

Has the bin been moved?