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AIBU? New house with rude neighbours!!!

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netmumsuser2020 · 05/09/2018 23:09

Evening everyone.

Recently my partner and I had to move to a less expensive house because we have been going through fertility treatments and couldn't afford the rent at our old place. My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

We found a much cheaper house, £300 less in rent a month but still just as large inside (Semi-detached, 3 bedrooms) however the catch was that it isn't in that great of an area. Obviously the letting agency didn't declare this but we already knew it. That didn't bother us really, we have a good burglar alarm system and two dogs that are tiny but have big barks.

The area is quiet and we haven't seen anything of our attached neighbour, although we know they have a baby as we occasionally hear him/her crying (Not a problem) many families live on this estate and we were told most are council tenants, again I don't care about this.

ANYWAY, onto the problematic neighbours now I've done babbling. Our house is detached from theirs however we share a path that splits off to our front door and then obviously theirs. It's a pretty narrow path between our two front gardens.

Today we were attempting to move furniture in, down this narrow path and noticed the neighbours had put their wheelie bin SMACK BANG IN THE F*CKING MIDDLE of the pathway. This path is so narrow an entire wheelie bin fills it.

They're well aware we have moved in because we've seen them curtain twitching. They actually brought their bin in from the street and placed it in the middle of the path after seeing we were moving stuff in. We had left the house to collect furniture from our old house, came back and saw the wheelie bin just stood centre pathway.

Hours later, the bin was still there. We had a guy come out to measure our living room to fit laminate flooring and he had to scoot around the neighbours bin to get to our front door. I was so embarrassed.

Along with this, our 5 year old daughter nearly fell and hit her head due to trying to skim around the bin.

I know most of you are thinking 'Just move the damned thing!' But we don't feel it's our place, especially when we have literally JUST moved in.

AIBU to think this is incredibly rude and disrespectful? A childish part of me honestly thinks they placed it centre path on purpose to be awkward.

What should we do if this continues? Any advice?

OP posts:
thebeesknees123 · 06/09/2018 08:58

The above 2 comments are irrelevant

Juells · 06/09/2018 08:59

If someone came from abroad there'd be a certain measure of sympathy for the fact that they weren't sure how to fit in, there was a cultural problem. I'm not sure if this thread is genuine or not, but it's not easy to move from a naice area to a rougher one, particularly if there's aggression from neighbours. If, as suggested, she called round to the neighbours they'd hear her accent and call her a stuck-up bitch, snobby cunt, blah blah blah.

All in all though, I find it a bit hard to believe that they didn't just move the bin.

BeenThereDone · 06/09/2018 09:00

This has to be a troll

chocolatemademefat · 06/09/2018 09:01

Move the bin. And accept that coming on this site will get you slated. If you hadn’t given details you would’ve been accused of drip feeding and because you did explain your situation you’re slated for that too. You sound like decent people trying not to cause a fuss in a new neighbourhood - on here you have to be in your face warriors. Geed luck with the IVF.

Fitzsimmons · 06/09/2018 09:05

This can't be real, surely?

ThePants999 · 06/09/2018 09:06

Coming soon to a thread near you: "I've NC for this but I've been around for ages - cancel the cheque, penis beaker, move the bin etc"

trulybadlydeeply · 06/09/2018 09:07

Cancel the cheque, OP.

Just move the bin to the side - am assuming there is a reason why you are having to wait for your partner to do this (mobility issues?) which I appreciate must be frustrating for you not to be able to do it yourself, but once he has moved it to the side just knock on the neighbours door, say it's lovely to meet them, you look forward to getting to know them, and that you just put the bin to one side as you will now be needing to use the path.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 06/09/2018 09:10

If they heard her accent they’d call her a snobby cunt, Juells? Shock
What sort of hellholes are you familiar with, that people would react like that to a new neighbor introducing themselves?
Or are you just assuming all council estates must be like that?

thenorthernluce · 06/09/2018 09:12

We seem to be turning into a nation of people who seethe inwardly, vent their spleen online but do absolutely fuck all to address whatever is bothering them.

The bin is in your way. Either move it to the side, or be bold and knock on their door, introduce yourself and ask where bins are stored as you’re new here, not aware of convention and need to use the path unimpeded. It’s not rocket science!!

YeTalkShiteHen · 06/09/2018 09:23

I'm not sure if this thread is genuine or not, but it's not easy to move from a naice area to a rougher one, particularly if there's aggression from neighbours.

Even by the ridiculous overreaction standards on MN, putting a bin on a path could literally never be described as aggression. Rude, maybe, arsey, maybe, but aggressive? Pfft.

If, as suggested, she called round to the neighbours they'd hear her accent and call her a stuck-up bitch, snobby cunt, blah blah blah

Well that’s a massive leap from absolutely nowhere! I lived on a council estate for 7 years most recently, wasn’t til we moved to a new build “naice” estate that I ended up with a dickhead for a NDN!

Have you ever been to a council estate Juells?

thebeesknees123 · 06/09/2018 09:28

Can you imagine the reverse? I have new neighbours moving in next door. I looked out the window and didn't like the look of them so I placed my bin directly in their path so I could watch their annoyance trying to get round it or having to move it and have a laugh. WIBU?

Of course, OP, that's absolutely fine to introduce yourself to your new neighbours in this way.

Failingat40 · 06/09/2018 09:29

Blimey the vipers are swarming on this thread aren't they!!

Op your username and mention of the 'council tenants' is enough to start a war in here. It's not about you, or the bin. Just go knock on the door and offer them a fag and some cider say hi.

And as for @mimibunz, you are a prize dick head with that comment! Shock
How can you “suffer from infertility” if you already have a child? I’m actually infertile. No amount of ivf is ever going to change that. Sounds like you suffer from entitlement.

IfIWasABirdIdFlyIn2ACeilingFan · 06/09/2018 09:30

Alternative theory: they’re giving you the bin. It’s part of a new “adopt a poor council bin” scheme. When decent people with money move in to a dirty poor council area they try and get the decent people with money to adopt the poor council bins. It’s to get them away from the poverty and squalor of being a council bin. Statistically the outlook for poor council bins isn’t good. With your care and support this poor council bin stands a chance at being a decent bin for people with money. You’re doing a good thing OP.

hollyjollychristmas · 06/09/2018 09:37

I don't understand why people need to be so rude on here. OP I hope your IVF journey goes well and this move will be worth it. It does sound weird, they must have known you were moving in and that the bin would be in the way. I would go and say hello and introduce yourselves, hopefully once they have met you they will be a bit more respectful. If not, just move it next time as they had their chance!

Juells · 06/09/2018 09:41

What sort of hellholes are you familiar with, that people would react like that to a new neighbor introducing themselves?

I live in one right now Grin

That's not fair, most of my neighbours now are Indian or Eastern European, and very nice. But when I first moved here in the early noughties it was very rough - not that I'd have knocked on doors to introduce myself, it's flatland. I wouldn't have dared walk my dogs after dark. There are still some locals at the far end of the street and their children are nightmares - I just noticed a few days ago that they've scratched all the bonnet of my car, just swirly scratches dug in deep. They rove in gangs of children aged between four and twelve, all armed with sticks to hit and break things as loudly as possible. The most polite of the parents is the local drug-dealer, and although he's polite he still tried to strangle my next door neighbour because the NDD had told his own child not to play with the drug-dealer's son. Huge fight, police, hysterical wife crying on street. He gives me a very polite salaam whenever he cycles past me on his way to a drug-drop, even though he knows I'm the one who called the cops. Doesn't bear a grudge...

All human life is here... Grin

BastardGoDarkly · 06/09/2018 09:42

We're never going to find out what happened to the bin now Sad

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 06/09/2018 09:43

Oh. Ok Grin

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 06/09/2018 09:45

Juells that sounds awful! Bin shenanigans would be the least of your problems!

DastardlyAndMuttley · 06/09/2018 09:47

Bin them off op, inconsiderate twunts.

gamerwidow · 06/09/2018 09:51

OP you should have just moved the bin, I know it was inconvenient to do so but to leave it there made it even more inconvenient. So much more inconvenient it is laughable, seriously who forces a contractor to wedge themselves round a bin or leaves it there to cause their DD to have an accident.
However your reasons for moving and infertility have nothing to do with this issue and PP are incredibly cruel to challenge and question you about this. It is none of our business and you should ignore all the nastiness about this.

Passingwords · 06/09/2018 09:53

Perhaps OP has binned the thread

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 06/09/2018 09:55

Wow poor you having to live alongside REAL LIFE POOR PEOPLE! Move the bin.

5000KallaxHoles · 06/09/2018 09:58

I'm a rude neighbour - our bin is currently disrespectfully still out in the street having been emptied 10 minutes ago! How shocking of me - but I'm socially acceptable in having my bin there because we own our home.

You're getting flamed for a) the incredibly convoluted backstory to establish that although you're living in a "poor"area you're not actually that sort of people snob routine, and b) labelling neighbours you've not bothered to speak to as "rude" because they've left their bin out is bloody ridiculous.

As my mum would say "you've got a tongue in your head - use it"

Juells · 06/09/2018 09:59

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha

Juells that sounds awful! Bin shenanigans would be the least of your problems!

It's actually not that bad - it's the 'rough' street in a handy neighbourhood, so everything is within walking distance, with nice parks and college grounds nearby for dog-walking. But I wouldn't tangle with the parents of the roving children, no matter what damage they've done to my car, even if I'd seen them in the act. I moved here from a very rural area, so I can sympathise with the OP. It's a culture shock if you suddenly have neighbours you're afraid of. To pretend that there's never cause to be afraid of neighbours is a bit disingenuous, there are plenty of threads on here proving the exact opposite - like a current thread where the OP's neighbour mutters about her being a fat cunt in her hearing :(

Gottagetmoving · 06/09/2018 10:03

Firstly, I would have used a polite approach and asked them nicely if they would please move the bin because it was causing a problem. How they reacted would then determine my next move.
If necessary I would then tell them to move it. If they didn't, I would.
I can't see why this would be such a dilemma for you.