AIBU? New house with rude neighbours!!!

[netmumsuser2020]

Evening everyone.

Recently my partner and I had to move to a less expensive house because we have been going through fertility treatments and couldn't afford the rent at our old place. My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

We found a much cheaper house, £300 less in rent a month but still just as large inside (Semi-detached, 3 bedrooms) however the catch was that it isn't in that great of an area. Obviously the letting agency didn't declare this but we already knew it. That didn't bother us really, we have a good burglar alarm system and two dogs that are tiny but have big barks.

The area is quiet and we haven't seen anything of our attached neighbour, although we know they have a baby as we occasionally hear him/her crying (Not a problem) many families live on this estate and we were told most are council tenants, again I don't care about this.

ANYWAY, onto the problematic neighbours now I've done babbling. Our house is detached from theirs however we share a path that splits off to our front door and then obviously theirs. It's a pretty narrow path between our two front gardens.

Today we were attempting to move furniture in, down this narrow path and noticed the neighbours had put their wheelie bin SMACK BANG IN THE F*CKING MIDDLE of the pathway. This path is so narrow an entire wheelie bin fills it.

They're well aware we have moved in because we've seen them curtain twitching. They actually brought their bin in from the street and placed it in the middle of the path after seeing we were moving stuff in. We had left the house to collect furniture from our old house, came back and saw the wheelie bin just stood centre pathway.

Hours later, the bin was still there. We had a guy come out to measure our living room to fit laminate flooring and he had to scoot around the neighbours bin to get to our front door. I was so embarrassed.

Along with this, our 5 year old daughter nearly fell and hit her head due to trying to skim around the bin.

I know most of you are thinking 'Just move the damned thing!' But we don't feel it's our place, especially when we have literally JUST moved in.

AIBU to think this is incredibly rude and disrespectful? A childish part of me honestly thinks they placed it centre path on purpose to be awkward.

What should we do if this continues? Any advice?

Is it a bin collection day, by any chance? I would have moved the bin to allow access. Doubt they did it to aggravate you. There's no crime in touching someone else's bin. When the bin people move the neighbour's one into our parking, I always put it back while moving mine, so that they don't have to do it, just out of courtesy.

Last time I visited my DM in her council flat, I asked why the glass on her private balcony had holes in it. She told me quite calmly that it's just where the local drug dealer keeps missing the street light when he shoots. He prefers to work in the dark apparently.

This is actually true.

I would just move the bin..push it until it gets to their side. Its no big deal really. I doubt very much that its intentional..just laziness in their behalf. But if it keeps happening every week then get hubby to knock on their door and have a word with them.

Just move the bin.

My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

This I don't understand (apart from having nothing to do with the bin) how does working part time help support or paying for IVF?

That part is extremely strange. Especially since they had to actually move house to a cheaper area in order to finance it. Bizarre.

I’d say the truth is maybe not that he wanted to work part-time. Rather the decision was made for him by his employers. Some people like to put a positive spin on things

FWIW I wouldn’t be trying for a baby with only one part time income coming in.

I’m not sure how the maths works out either.

Christ almighty, some nasty horrible cows on this thread, thinking they're oh so funny and witty, all trying to outdo each other, sad people.

Just move the bin OP and don't take any shit from the NDN if they try to give you hassle over it.

Our NDN does this on bin days and we can’t get ours out, I move their bin to the side and don’t put it back as it’s a shared access path and it blocks it.

And...that’s it. We are friendly with them, and they are nice people, though a little oblivious.

Neither of us are going anywhere as we’ve both just bought the houses, so it’s just a quirk to get used to.
It’s not a big deal to us, though yours do sound a bit childish.

Hello? OP?

I live in a council flat and claim benefits, My neighbours are lovely.

Op do you and your partner often over think things and assume some form of vengeance against you is taking place?

The reasonable and normal reaction would be to move the bin a few feet either side to give you access. You could even put it back when done if you felt so strongly about it. As you'd went out the neighbours either thought you'd done or simply weren't thinking. They just brought the bin in.

Really not everything is a big deal and not everyone is out to get you.

Good luck with the IVF.

Couldnt you have dragged it forward so it was on the street then put it back after?
As if you just left it there to be petty when your daughter hurt herself. Fricken lazy. Both you and the neighbour!

Btw is "move the bin" going to be a new MN classic?

So what if the OP has gone about her post in a strange way. Maybe she has concernanf feels intimidated or has a screwed up brain from IVF drugs, some of us know that happens. But whatever, ladies, yes , the answer was move the bin, but why are there such a load of nasty catty comments on here? It's like the playground bullies have got loose.
Not justifying- just an observation.

Move the bin.

Not sure though why the reason for your move and that there is a baby crying next door is all relavant here...

Maybe she has concernanf feels intimidated or has a screwed up brain from IVF drugs, some of us know that happens

She doesn't know thr neighbout and her partner isn't taking ivf drugs. She says she's happy with thr area she lives in.

I don't think the comments are catty. It's just people can't understand the big back story to the bin blocking thr path, it doesn't seem relevant, and most folks would just move thr bin to thr side to get access. If the op was too scared to do so, or her brain a bit addled, then why wouldn't her partner.

Many of us don't understand why it's rude or disrespectful to move the bin a few feet. It's a bin.

Re-reading some of these posts, I suspect I'm the horrible bin neighbour in my street. Bit of a back story in that tenants in a flat in the house next door got the landlord (contrary to planning) to take down the front wall so they could park in the front garden. But once they had cars parked there they decided all wheelie bins would go outside my house so they could back out unimpeded. I fire them back every single time, no matter how heavy or difficult to move, with a face like a bulldog licking piss off a nettle.

We are all different but I'd tell him to support us by going back full time.