AIBU? New house with rude neighbours!!!

[netmumsuser2020]

Evening everyone.

Recently my partner and I had to move to a less expensive house because we have been going through fertility treatments and couldn't afford the rent at our old place. My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

We found a much cheaper house, £300 less in rent a month but still just as large inside (Semi-detached, 3 bedrooms) however the catch was that it isn't in that great of an area. Obviously the letting agency didn't declare this but we already knew it. That didn't bother us really, we have a good burglar alarm system and two dogs that are tiny but have big barks.

The area is quiet and we haven't seen anything of our attached neighbour, although we know they have a baby as we occasionally hear him/her crying (Not a problem) many families live on this estate and we were told most are council tenants, again I don't care about this.

ANYWAY, onto the problematic neighbours now I've done babbling. Our house is detached from theirs however we share a path that splits off to our front door and then obviously theirs. It's a pretty narrow path between our two front gardens.

Today we were attempting to move furniture in, down this narrow path and noticed the neighbours had put their wheelie bin SMACK BANG IN THE F*CKING MIDDLE of the pathway. This path is so narrow an entire wheelie bin fills it.

They're well aware we have moved in because we've seen them curtain twitching. They actually brought their bin in from the street and placed it in the middle of the path after seeing we were moving stuff in. We had left the house to collect furniture from our old house, came back and saw the wheelie bin just stood centre pathway.

Hours later, the bin was still there. We had a guy come out to measure our living room to fit laminate flooring and he had to scoot around the neighbours bin to get to our front door. I was so embarrassed.

Along with this, our 5 year old daughter nearly fell and hit her head due to trying to skim around the bin.

I know most of you are thinking 'Just move the damned thing!' But we don't feel it's our place, especially when we have literally JUST moved in.

AIBU to think this is incredibly rude and disrespectful? A childish part of me honestly thinks they placed it centre path on purpose to be awkward.

What should we do if this continues? Any advice?

Sorry TAWDRY

Not Tweedy

I apologise unreservedly Tawdry. Been up half the night with the dog working his ticket.

Have you thought about employing someone to move the bin?
Perhaps a poor person who could do with some pocket money?

Why would you have had to drag the bin down a “huge long path and then several steps” when actually a foot or two to the left or right to get it off the path and into their garden would have been perfectly sufficient?

Nuke the bin from orbit, it’s the only way to be sure.

@SchadenfreudePersonified
I wrap my body in the plastic. It keeps me warm (very very hot) and the rain doesn't bother me.

When I sweat, I catch it in a cup and make tea with it.

But if she touches their bin, she might catch the poor.

Oh problems, problems. What to do?

Move the bin and pop round and say hello? That was a long post to tell us your neighbour left a bin in your way.

Move the bin.

if the ndn is malicious he is enjoying watching you squirm and set yourself up as a pushover.

Start as you mean to go on. Stand your ground. But be reasonable with it.

Osirus Yes, I’m serious! And I’m going to double down on it.

Mistakes - you are a shining example to Lumpenproletariat everywhere. I salute you.

Oh OP how embarrassing for you. This is a well known poor person / council tenant initiation ritual, they are trying to welcome you.

You’re meant to get IN the bin, and DP wheels you up and down the street while you holler an n dubz song of your choosing. Then you return the bin with an offering of lambrini and monster munch. Then you will be accepted.

Oh for goodness sake give the op a break ! What is wrong with people.
And op avoid AIBU it is not worth the grief !
Hope you are happy in your new home and that IVF is successful for you.

But if she touches their bin, she might catch the poor.

This is a very valid and justifiable fear mistakes.

However, I'm pretty sure that Marigold make an extra-heavy duty glove for people to use when paying their cleaner cash-in-hand (because obviously you don't want to - you know - touch them) - perhaps these would be appropriate?

On a serious (and nasty) note, my DH's friend once worked in a house (joiner) and the cleaner there gave him a cup of tea when he had his lunch. The Master of the House returned and went off it - bawled out the cleaner and broke the cup so that no member of his family would accidentally use it in the future.

You couldn't make it up.

How's bin-gate going OP?
Did you have to hire staff?
You know your not alone don't you.
rhetorical
You know you aren't alone though I hope.
Working class ppl and stuff. I feel your rain.

Move the bin

But if she touches their bin, she might catch the poor.
Oh problems, problems. What to do?

That's the best comment I've read in ages 😂

Where's the bin now Op? You do seem to have had a baptism of fire with the vipers nest, aka AIBU

Jeeze, HRTFT but you're all being a bit mean.

I'd have moved the bin to the side but managed to knock it over at the same time to spill the contents over their garden. Start as you mean to go on

Eh?

Yes, I'm sure OP should have nudged the bin aside but why is hardly anyone thinking this is really a bad sign because the neighbours did it deliberately?

Normal behaviour when meeting new neighbours is offering them a cup of tea, introducing yourself, asking if they need a hand shifting the furniture, not trying to be obstructive and antisocial.

OP have you actually gone and knocked on neighbours door, introduced yourself and mention to them about still moving in and would it be alright to keep the passage way clear until the move is finished.

Maybe start off on a good footing with people you will be sharing a passage way with for god knows how long than be so passive aggressive.

You could have alternatively moved the bin 2 foot to the left or right depending on which side their front garden was. I assume there is a front garden as it appears to have a very long path to get to the front door.

Wouldn't your partner working full time a) help to fund your ivf treatment faster, and b) support you better because you wouldn't be worrying about the extra financial stress of part time wages.

To be honest a wimpy partner who can't man up to shift a wheelie bin is not going to be much support unless you are both trying to fight your way out of the world's largest wet paper bag.

And if you are renting why are you paying for laminate flooring to be put down?

Maybe ask Mumsnet to move your post to another topic as in WWYD?
Have you moved the bin and said hi to your new neighbours yet?
Do you have cleansers in your new cheap home?

I've done IVF many, many times and really can't see how a part-time partner would be any more supportive than a full time one. What on earth is he doing to 'support' you!?!?

Why are you paying fot laminate flooring in a private rented house?

netmumsuser2020 I mentioned it as a talking point because I'm new to this forum and thought it was about making friends/chatting.

OP you won’t get that with Aibu I’m afraid, it’s a nest of vipers in here and they’ve been out in force on this thread I’m afraid.

Vipers - you should be ashamed of yourselves, poor OP just put out a chatty post and it seems like she’s got a lot going on without problems with her new neighbour and a load of bitchiness adding to it. It’s really vile to have a go about infertility in the way that some PPs have.

OP, just pop round to your neighbours and have a chat, say you don’t mind us moving your bin do you? And good luck with your ivf.