AIBU? New house with rude neighbours!!!

[netmumsuser2020]

Evening everyone.

Recently my partner and I had to move to a less expensive house because we have been going through fertility treatments and couldn't afford the rent at our old place. My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

We found a much cheaper house, £300 less in rent a month but still just as large inside (Semi-detached, 3 bedrooms) however the catch was that it isn't in that great of an area. Obviously the letting agency didn't declare this but we already knew it. That didn't bother us really, we have a good burglar alarm system and two dogs that are tiny but have big barks.

The area is quiet and we haven't seen anything of our attached neighbour, although we know they have a baby as we occasionally hear him/her crying (Not a problem) many families live on this estate and we were told most are council tenants, again I don't care about this.

ANYWAY, onto the problematic neighbours now I've done babbling. Our house is detached from theirs however we share a path that splits off to our front door and then obviously theirs. It's a pretty narrow path between our two front gardens.

Today we were attempting to move furniture in, down this narrow path and noticed the neighbours had put their wheelie bin SMACK BANG IN THE F*CKING MIDDLE of the pathway. This path is so narrow an entire wheelie bin fills it.

They're well aware we have moved in because we've seen them curtain twitching. They actually brought their bin in from the street and placed it in the middle of the path after seeing we were moving stuff in. We had left the house to collect furniture from our old house, came back and saw the wheelie bin just stood centre pathway.

Hours later, the bin was still there. We had a guy come out to measure our living room to fit laminate flooring and he had to scoot around the neighbours bin to get to our front door. I was so embarrassed.

Along with this, our 5 year old daughter nearly fell and hit her head due to trying to skim around the bin.

I know most of you are thinking 'Just move the damned thing!' But we don't feel it's our place, especially when we have literally JUST moved in.

AIBU to think this is incredibly rude and disrespectful? A childish part of me honestly thinks they placed it centre path on purpose to be awkward.

What should we do if this continues? Any advice?

Move the bin.

They were probably indoors in their pyjamas twitching the curtains and saying "Dave! You left the bin in the path again!" "Shit. Shall I go move it?" "No! Not in those pyjamas! They'll look down on us!" "What are they doing?" "No idea...why don't they just push it aside?" "Why are they out there talking about the bin?" "0h, they've gone in now. What's that clickety noise? Almost like someone typing on a keyboard?"

So.... has the bin been moved?

If only there was a way to move a wheelie bin...

I would put those big number stickers on it , you know the flowery ones or even better , decorate it completely with a roll of sticky back plastic like they do on Blue Peter .

You’re being told to get a grip because the moving to a poor area and having to go through ivf is nothing to do with the ‘problem’

There is a hell of a lot of support on this forum for all types of people but when you act like a jerk you’ll will get called out on it.

As others have said, move the damn bin

I hope all goes well for you re the ivf

Move the bin.

Effort t move the fucking bin - too much.

Effort to write a thread - OK

I hear you, OP. I once had a similar experience moving in. Shift their bin and be polite but assertive.

People on here are bloody nasty. You can’t tell someone that they don’t have infertility! Or that they should stick with one kid! Goodness me! How rude.

I know what op means... I live in a mixed area. Some people are professional older people, some are slightly scarier people that look like they might smash up your car if you complained! Guess which ones are the inconsiderate ones that have parties, swear in street, drop cigarettes in street, get pissed and have arguments loudly on their driveway. I would be scared to ask them to move a bin to be honest.

Just move the bin

Move the bin

How can you “suffer from infertility” if you already have a child? I’m actually infertile. No amount of ivf is ever going to change that. Sounds like you suffer from entitlement.

Are you serious?

We suffer from infertility but with the help of IVF we had a child. We can’t have a second child without further IVF - we are still infertile!

Debatable if it’s worth uprooting your existing child and moving somewhere shit to put all your spare cash into trying for another child though. Count your blessings the older generation would have said.

How can being infertile be “debatable”?

You don’t have to act on it of course, but being infertile is not “debatable”. You either are or you aren’t.

Is the bin still on the path?

First reaction, move the bin.

Second reaction, if the bin is so far down the path with steps etc... I don’t quite understand why the neigbourgs put it there (bar to be a pain). So I would ask, where are the bins (yours and NDN) normally living? Where do you take the bins in bin day?
If there is no logical issue for the bin to be there and nothing else has happened, then you have an obnoxious NDN who will probably make your life quite hard.

my rudest neighbours were pensioners who owned their home.

Same.

The IVF shit was completely unnecessary back story. Stick to the facts: your new NDN moved their bin in the middle of your shared path and you decided not to move it and struggle on past it all day instead.

Move the bin and put it right outside their front door. Knock on the door and say your bin was blocking my path. Don't let them know you're a bit of a wet lettuce.

I would move the bin to the first part of the path that isn’t shared.

Then I’d either ty to catch them outside and say ‘oh I’ve just moved your bin off the shared path as it’s in the way.’ And I’d invent a talking point like where the doctors is of what time the shop shuts.

In the long run, it’s going to be faaaaaarrrrr better if you aren’t at war with your next door neighbours.

I grew up in a council house, I’ve bought an ex council house in a row of both private and council tenants and BY FAR the worse noisy inconsiderate bastard cunty neighbours were NOT the council tenants

Move the fecking bin and perhaps if your partner hadn’t gone part time to support you, you would have had to uproot your daughter to proceed with IVF

@Tawdrylocalbrouhaha

I can just imagine my DH fly kicking it onto their side of the path and onto their front garden.
I would probably shuffle round it normally.
I'm sure there's a middle ground of just moving it out the way tbh.
I would not be trying to weave my sofa and children round a bin rather than shifting it a foot to the side off the path.

Move the bin the other way- away from their house, not towards it, if that makes you feel better.

For heaven's sake, don't risk your child getting hurt just to make a point of principle. Or pull the bin into your garden so that they have to come and ask for it (apologies if these solutions have been suggested - too lazy to read full thread before sticking my oar in)

Is it definitely their bin? Do you think it could be the bin to your property that they’ve been using while the house has been empty and now they’ve thought, crap best put that back?

Tweedy

Are council tenants even allowed bins? I thought they had to dig holes in their backyard and bury it.

You're thinking of personal body waste Anastassia

Council tenants only get their bins emptied every five years because they are expected to use and re-use their clingfilm (use this versatile plastic stuff to replace the plug you lost when you filled the bath with coal), newspapers (wonderful saved up for winter and wrapped around the body in the home you are too poor to heat - also make a lovely tablecloth/carpet), tin cans (rinsed and dried these can be used for as a matching "tea" set when the local communist association drop in to distribute leaflets and pitchforks), jam jars (wonderful flower vases) etc.

Re-use and re-cycle, that's my motto!