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AIBU? New house with rude neighbours!!!

167 replies

netmumsuser2020 · 05/09/2018 23:09

Evening everyone.

Recently my partner and I had to move to a less expensive house because we have been going through fertility treatments and couldn't afford the rent at our old place. My partner also wanted to work part time for a few months to support me through IVF.

We found a much cheaper house, £300 less in rent a month but still just as large inside (Semi-detached, 3 bedrooms) however the catch was that it isn't in that great of an area. Obviously the letting agency didn't declare this but we already knew it. That didn't bother us really, we have a good burglar alarm system and two dogs that are tiny but have big barks.

The area is quiet and we haven't seen anything of our attached neighbour, although we know they have a baby as we occasionally hear him/her crying (Not a problem) many families live on this estate and we were told most are council tenants, again I don't care about this.

ANYWAY, onto the problematic neighbours now I've done babbling. Our house is detached from theirs however we share a path that splits off to our front door and then obviously theirs. It's a pretty narrow path between our two front gardens.

Today we were attempting to move furniture in, down this narrow path and noticed the neighbours had put their wheelie bin SMACK BANG IN THE F*CKING MIDDLE of the pathway. This path is so narrow an entire wheelie bin fills it.

They're well aware we have moved in because we've seen them curtain twitching. They actually brought their bin in from the street and placed it in the middle of the path after seeing we were moving stuff in. We had left the house to collect furniture from our old house, came back and saw the wheelie bin just stood centre pathway.

Hours later, the bin was still there. We had a guy come out to measure our living room to fit laminate flooring and he had to scoot around the neighbours bin to get to our front door. I was so embarrassed.

Along with this, our 5 year old daughter nearly fell and hit her head due to trying to skim around the bin.

I know most of you are thinking 'Just move the damned thing!' But we don't feel it's our place, especially when we have literally JUST moved in.

AIBU to think this is incredibly rude and disrespectful? A childish part of me honestly thinks they placed it centre path on purpose to be awkward.

What should we do if this continues? Any advice?

OP posts:
PurpleTigerLove · 06/09/2018 00:34

Move the bin . Forget about them

WiddlinDiddlin · 06/09/2018 02:10

Sorry YWDBU because you have posted this without the required diagram of the houses and shared path and exactly how much path was left by the offending bin, how long the path was and how far you would have to trek to return the bin to any of the available safe positions.

Pft.

steff13 · 06/09/2018 03:38

I was having trouble picturing the path and exactly where the bin was...

stevesmithsmum · 06/09/2018 03:50

we'd have to drag their bin down this huge long path and then down several steps and we felt they should've done it

But they didn’t. So get some exercise and move the bin yourselves. Don’t be so precious.

Rebecca36 · 06/09/2018 03:50

You haven't offended anyone op. Honestly. On here often people just say what comes into their head, me included, but no criticism intended. Quite honestly I can't imagine moving house to a rougher neighbourhood in order to fund IVF, nor would I want my husband to go part time but it's your call.

It could be your neighbours may have just been thoughtless. Move the bin and when you see them, be pleasant and see what happens.

Good luck with the IVF. I'm glad you do have a child already.

Stormzyandme · 06/09/2018 04:16

Move it.

alardi · 06/09/2018 04:43

Diagram, or it never happened. Wink

BasiliskStare · 06/09/2018 04:49

@alardi Grin

pref in colour

alardi · 06/09/2018 04:52

Bit of animation wouldn't go amiss, too... :)

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 06/09/2018 05:04

So every hostile replies! Odd.
I think knocking on the door and saying “hi, just wanted to introduce ourselves (big smile and bit of a chat) oh yes, and where is best for me to put your bin? (Big friendly smile)” don’t get into a passive aggressive bin game with them.

mimibunz · 06/09/2018 05:28

How can you “suffer from infertility” if you already have a child? I’m actually infertile. No amount of ivf is ever going to change that. Sounds like you suffer from entitlement.

Anastassiabeaverhausen · 06/09/2018 05:37

Are council tenants even allowed bins? I thought they had to dig holes in their backyard and bury it.

steff13 · 06/09/2018 05:54

How can you “suffer from infertility” if you already have a child?

Secondary infertility happens to about 12% of women.

serbska · 06/09/2018 06:08

Move the bin. Fucks sake, why are people so helpless at life?

serbska · 06/09/2018 06:10

How can you “suffer from infertility” if you already have a child?

Secondary infertility happens to about 12% of women

Debatable if it’s worth uprooting your existing child and moving somewhere shit to put all your spare cash into trying for another child though. Count your blessings the older generation would have said.

Alicatz66 · 06/09/2018 06:11

I just read this early morning without glasses ... I read it as "nude neighbours " !!!!
Disappointed it was about a bin Grin

FurryDice · 06/09/2018 06:17

I know it’s totally against the rules, but sometimes I just wish we could yell: ‘TROLL! TROLL IN THE DUNGEON!’ Like we were in a Harry Potter.

That would be fun.

pinkdelight · 06/09/2018 06:21

"we'd have to drag their bin down this huge long path and then down several steps and we felt they should've done it"

Why not just wheel (not drag) the bun a very short way to where your paths split and leave it there? You're making life incredible hard for yourself.

pinkdelight · 06/09/2018 06:22

Bin not bun. Greedy autocorrect!

franchesco · 06/09/2018 06:23

Welcome to mumsnet, OP.

There are areas good for making friends, but as a PP had said, AIBU is not one of those areas Grin

GnomeDePlume · 06/09/2018 06:28

On the whole I tend to assume that people do things because of not thinking rather than out of some overwhelming desire to be rude.

You have crap going on in your life, other people have crap going on in their lives. They cant see yours, you cant see theirs. Yours doesnt trump theirs.

Following the above personal rule I have managed never to fall out with a neighbour. Probably mostly luck I accept but the above helps.

Just move the bin

steff13 · 06/09/2018 06:31

Debatable if it’s worth uprooting your existing child and moving somewhere shit to put all your spare cash into trying for another child though.

Actually, it's a very personal decision, and I don't know that it is debatable. Or, at least it shouldn't be. It's not a choice I would have made, but it's not my place to judge whether it's a choice the OP should have made.

steff13 · 06/09/2018 06:32

I just wish we could yell: ‘TROLL! TROLL IN THE DUNGEON!’ Like we were in a Harry Potter.

This is what I say when I report a suspected troll.

susien777 · 06/09/2018 06:51

I would just knock on their door, introduce yourself and ask them if it's ok to move their bin while you're moving furniture in.
If they say no do it anyway, at least you'll know what kind of neighbours you have.
Good luck with the IVF too x

Monty27 · 06/09/2018 06:58

Bin gate Wink
Couldn't someone move it?
Don't get it.
It's just a bin and your new neighbours probably wouldn't have cared less.
Seriously. Don't look down on others no matter what your personal issues are.
Good luck. I hope you get happy Flowers

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