Would you be upset if your parents and both your adult DDs forgot, and five days, later still seemed unaware...

[liz70]

...that your DH and you had had your twentieth wedding anniversary? No card, no phonecall, no message, no acknowledgement whatsoever?

Just that, really.

No.

No

No I wouldn’t. I’ve never seen our wedding anniversary as something that should be acknowledged by other people. DH and I forgot our own this year (same day as DD’s 3rd birthday party so we were a bit busy!).

No. I struggle to remember the right date for my own anniversary nevermind anyone else's.

Gosh, most people I know tend to forget their own anniversaries. I certainly don't expect them to remember someone elses.

No

I struggle to remember ours let alone anyone else’s. So no I wouldn’t care.

My mum always got upset if I forgot her wedding anniversary - I mean, it's not as if I was even there! Wedding anniversaries are to be celebrated between the couple themselves IMO.

No one remembered ours, not even us!

I would be very surprised if anyone but DH and I remembered our wedding anniversary.

Nope, never remembered my parent's wedding anniversaries much less got them a card. Even a bit vague about when they got married - some time before I was born!

No. We usually forget our own. My MIL always remembers ours and sends us a card. No one else usually remembers and if they do they might send a text. I remember my sister because it's the same day as ours but a different month.

Never sent my parents a card.
Grandparents like to make a bigger thing over special anniversaries - 50th, 60th for instance - and they’ll invite everyone to a restaurant or throw a small party or something, so then they get some cards. But without putting on some kind of event I don’t think cards are to be expected, no.

No. I don’t celebrate anyone’s anniversary except my own, unless they have a party of course!

I have no idea when my mum and dad's wedding anniversary is but I've just realised I must have missed their 40th. They never mentioned it though, don't seem to celebrate it.

I've got no idea when my parents got married. Not even the year. I kind of remember my own but that might be only because we've got a photo with the date underneath.

Wedding anniversaries are for the couple only - YABVU

I have a bad memory - if I want someone to remember some date I remind them, tell them what I want to have/ have happen, then we are all happy.

Remember that thread a couple of weeks ago where the OP was threatened by her (controlling and manipulating) parents, along the lines of 'You'd better remember our special day or we will never speak to you again!' {angry].

General consensus was was that she'd be mad to send a card to her toxic parents, and in any case the anniversary was between them; nothing to do with her.

I think if you were at the wedding, then maybe send a message the first few years. But not your kids - they are (in most cases) not at the wedding day!

I wouldn't be upset.. .
. . . unless I had been reminding them about it for a month beforehand and told them I wanted a big fuss and they'd agreed then ignored it.

No, not at all. I would be really upset if dh forgot though. I don't really care about other people's anniversaries.

Gosh how funny. I’m 29, parents have been married 30 years and we send a card every year. Presents and dinner out for 25 and 30. Can’t remember what we did for their 20th as I’d have been a self-centred teen but I know we’ve always done cards as long as I can remember - drawn ones when we were kids and bought ones when we got older. Dad isn’t very well though, and they’ve gone through an epic amount of shit together. I’m of the opinion that another successful year of marriage is to be celebrated

Lol. No. They wouldn't have a clue when our anniversary is, 20th or otherwise.

We mostly forget it ourselves.

I can't even remember when my own is, much less other peoples. Sorry your feelings are hurt OP, but I imagine this is not uncommon.

Apparently Jehovahs Witnesses are big on anniversaries...what with not celebrating Christmas, Birthdays etc.

Maybe it's them buying all the cards