Would you be upset if your parents and both your adult DDs forgot, and five days, later still seemed unaware...

[liz70]

...that your DH and you had had your twentieth wedding anniversary? No card, no phonecall, no message, no acknowledgement whatsoever?

Just that, really.

Nope. We often don't remember ourselves, and I have to think a moment to know how many years it is. (Next will be 32 so it doesn't seem to have done us any harm)

I can see why you might be upset as it is your 20th but people just don't pay attention to wedding anniversaries really.
My husband and I have both decided not to celebrate ours - we both think it's a bit silly and personally I don't want another card etc that I'm not really bothered about - it's just tat. A 10 minute out on the balcony without the children is a treat for us.
It's lovely if I get a personal wish but I don't expect it from anyone.
That said (we are only at 15 years at the moment), when it comes to our 25th and big ones after that, we'll let everyone know that it's coming up and hopefully they'll organise a little something. It would be our responsibility to pay though imo.

Nope. I don't expect our anniversary to be remembered by anyone except us. I don't remember my parents either

Tomorrow will be our 31st we just get each other a card,

Not at all

We're only 3 yrs into our marriage and we both forgot it ourselves this year. It's only when my DM rang to wish us a happy anniversary and received a card from PIL that either of us remembered.

We both found it a bit strange to have received a call and a card tbh. A nice gesture of course, but I didn't think it was something other people celebrated outside of the actual married couple, not unless it was a big milestone anniversary and a party was being held.

Absolutely not. This is between the couple only

@liz70

Welcome to MN, where your birthday, your spouses, Valentine's Day, Christmas, Mother's Day, your wedding and Anniversaries mean zilch and you should never even hope for a text or FB message from anyone else acknowledging a day that's special to you. 🙄

Most people I know are aware of the big anniversaries of their parents and grandparents. We gave a lovely card and gift to my husband's grandparents for their 60th anniversary but I guess we're just weird. 😐

Both sets of parents are divorced so it would be hella awkward if we sent them cards for their former anniversaries.

Yes, I think it’s a nice gesture and we sent a card celebrating their ten years to our DS and his wife.
DH is actually very good about keeping track of anniversaries and birthdays and he bought the card.

No. I wouldn't care only as pp said if you had made big deal about it and people didn't show up.
I totally forgot my own anniversary.
I like making a big deal out of big bday and anniversary.. Otherwise I can't remember my own jet alone anyone's else's

Oh god no. I am lucky if my husband remembers let alone anyone else!

Not one bit.
Pretty self involved to expect anyone but your spouse to remember your wedding anniversary

Me too - last anniversary I gave DH a card but none in return. Not the first time. And certainly none from any family or friends. But I do understand why you feel upset about it, OP.

We had our 20th anniversary a couple of weeks ago. I’ve got an aunt whose really good at cards for everything, so we got one from her. We had a card from my SIL as we saw them a few days before. Nothing from anyone else, and I wasn’t expecting anything. I did post it on Facebook and got a load of lovely good wishes- maybe do that if you’re feeling in need of acknowledgement?

Hahahha. No one cares about anyone else’s anniversary OP. I don’t even remember ours. YABU.

All the people saying no one cares about other people's anniversaries don't speak for everyone, only for their own lack of care.

The greeting card industry must be selling to everyone but the majority of mumsnetters though.

No it's not their anniversary, it's yours.

It's a couple thing. Not for everyone else. As long as your DH remembered that is all that matters.

I've never found that people celebrate other couples' anniversaries. However, my parents often appear a bit wounded if they don't get an acknowledgement. I send a text - it's their anniversary so I feel it's for them to celebrate but do it to keep the peace.

No, I thought you were going to say birthday! Wedding anniversarys are for the couple to celebrate surely, not family?

I remember my parent's anniversary date better than my own.
But I was born on one of their early anniversaries, so not much excuse there.

@liz70 any thoughts on the comments posted?

@MrsMozart

Exactly, lass! Ours was a few weeks ago, no-one remembered. I don’t remember anyone else’s.

This thread makes me feel sad. So many people who dont care enough to remember their own anniversary. So many people that dont know when their parents anniversaries are. The world is a regular crapfest at the best of times - why would you not want to celebrate love surviving? (and I'm speaking as one staring down the barrel of a divorce!) x

I tend to remember if a big one is coming up for someone in the family, because that's a lovely thing for them.

I know my parents as it's also DHs birthday and know my sisters as it's Sept 11th.

Why would I expect others to remember my and my husband's anniversary ? Birthdays are the only dates that my family remembers - I wouldn't have a clue when anyone's wedding anniversary is. Move on !