Would you be upset if your parents and both your adult DDs forgot, and five days, later still seemed unaware...

[liz70]

...that your DH and you had had your twentieth wedding anniversary? No card, no phonecall, no message, no acknowledgement whatsoever?

Just that, really.

Ha ha, I haven't a clue about anniversaries! You'd better tell them and throw a party ;)

We always used to get an anniversary card from DP - and have occasionally had cards from Aunts and Uncles on my side of the family. Nothing from DH side of the family but it's not expected. DC usually wish us a happy anniversary and that's more than enough.

I did send DSis a card for her 25th Wedding Anniversary and, funnily enough, I sent a card today to my aunt and uncle who celebrate their Golden Wedding Anniversary this week. I know their anniversary as they got married on the date I was due to be born, so my mum was extremely pregnant in their wedding photos. I don't usually send an anniversary card but do think 50 years is to be celebrated.

Don't know when DP got married - but then DF died when I was just three, so I wouldn't have been aware of them celebrating. My DM married my step-father when I was 12 and so I did send them anniversary cards.

So, I guess I can understand OP being disappointed if they usually get a card from other family members, but it isn't something that would bother me.

Anniversaries are for the couple in my opinion.
I can't tell you my parents' anniversary.

If it's a big anniversary and you wanted to celebrate with family, personally I'd have thrown a mini celebration for family. You can't expect them to be psychic.

My parents were married just over 40 years and the only one I remember my brother and I marking was their 25th. I would be more upset if my husband, if I had one :), hadn't remembered.

I wouldn't remember and even if I did it would just be a verbal wish.

Just to even things up I always sent my DPs a card on their anniversary. I even used to visit my DF grave on their Wedding Anniversary. Both my family and DH celebrate anniversaries. Maybe it’s a family thing. I would necessarily be upset but I’d be surprised if my anniversary had been forgotten.

*wouldn’t

DH and I always buy a card fo each other, but never really got into anything more than that. Don’t expect cards off anyone else.

What’s a DD , DH, should I know ?
Whatever they are, no, there’s enough to remember on a daily basis , keep it between you and your partner

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There you go Gotthetshirt.

Thank you , first day !

People have enough to remember with birthdays! Saying that on our 10 year anniversary my sister and bf texted which was nice

No, never have we received a card etc from anyone else for our wedding anniversary. My girls know when it is too, my Dh's birthday.

I never forget my parents anniversary and took them away or a special one. I’m arranging for a card and money towards their drinks to be delivered to the hotel they’re due to stay at this time.

I always forget my sister’s though 🙈

No I woulden't care, it is between me and dh, maybe parents might remember, but I would not expect the wider family to be bothered.

No, only DH and I celebrate our anniversary. Nor do we mark anyone else's.

I would only know or acknowledge significant anniversaries like 25 or 50 and even then only because the couple may mention it or arrange a party. My parents had a 25th celebration - my DH and I were on holiday during ours and raised a glass to each other, our DDs weren’t aware that it was that’s particular length of time. We don’t mark our anniversary between us usually - it’s running joke that I can never remember the date !

We exchanged cards last week for the first time ever, I saw that he'd got something from the newsagent's a couple of weeks ago so at 5.58am on the day I was down outside the same shop! That was 50 years!

We used to remember our parents' anniversaries when they were alive, but our children never remember ours. It's our Ruby wedding next year, but I don't suppose they will have a clue, unless we mark it in some way. I always remember their anniversaries though. Our parents always remembered ours too.