To be hurt and humiliated that I did not receive a farewell gift from colleagues

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Just that really. Left my old post on Friday for a new post starting on Monday and I received nothing from my old colleagues. I wasn't expecting a party but a card and a small token would have been appreciated.
I know this is a first world problem and I shouldn't let it get to me but it has. I also realise that they don't have to so anything but I always thought it was nice to be nice (which they weren't obviously )

It is not humiliating

Good luck in your new job!

That's shitty, did they know it was your last day, do they usually get someone a leaving present. I didn't get anything either, miserable fuckers, congratulations on your new job, don't worry about it, you're best off out of it, if you see anyone from your old job don't mention it.

Have you completely left the building and gone elsewhere, not just a department move?

That’s pretty bad not to get a card and a bunch of flowers. I’m not surprised you’re put out.

Is it the norm there to do a leaving gift? How long have you been there? Is your new post in the same company?

I get it. I contributed to so many gifts in the weeks up to my own leaving. When I left I got nothing. Not even a card. I wasn’t happy.

I got a tea towel as a leaving present in my last job!

How long had you been there? I agree it’s a bit rubbish. Even in my last job I was there for 1yr with a gap for medical leave and they still did a morning tea for me . I’m one of those people that would happily slink out the door though so I did find it uncomfortable

I had this a couple of years ago. I had worked for the same company for 6 years and was the only one in my department that got made redundant. All I got was a handshake. I felt really shit.

That is shit, no need for rude unthoughtful behaviour.

I’d love a teatowel gift! So practical

Need more info - have you left the organisation or moved to a new role in the sand place?

That is shit. It's the lack of thought that's so hurtful. Onwards and upwards, hopefully your new colleagues will be nicer.

I think you're right to be a bit miffed, we spend a lot of time with people from work and a card would've been nice.
Good luck in your new role

Pretty crappy tbh, especially if like me you're always giving to collections etc.

Not humiliating at all! Just shows you made a wise move in leaving.

Was there anyone you would have liked to stay in contact with or were particular friends with? All to often no-one takes the iniative to organise stuff, particularly if the manager has a large number of people or is particularly flaky.

It is absolutely showing them in a poor light, not you.

Hope your new job is fantastic!

Do they normally do it for others? If yes,then it's a bit shit.

Just wondering, when you were there were you the usual organiser for sorting out leaving gifts and card signing?

I have just left somewhere after 6 years and got fuck all as well. I donated a minimum of £5 to every other bugger that left but nothing for me. Oh well..... I will learn at my new job though not to be so generous.

I was totally pissed off when I left my old job of 10 years, having seen some wonderful leaving gifts. People usually contributed about a fiver each.
I got a £16 shower gel :/ with the receipt in the bag.

It was end of term and it felt like they forgot I was leaving, so it was an afterthought. And I was leaving due to bullying from line management (teaching).

Not nice.

I know how you feel Flippy This is quite hurtful. It happened to me years ago. I had been working at a sports centre for 6 years since it had opened in fact. Many people had left over the years and received cards and gifts. I was made redundant ( so not leaving of my own volition) , I did not even get a card saying sorry you are leaving, or good luck in the future. I was even told when I went in to return my uniform that they had a gift for me , but it was locked in safe and they could not get to it. They invited me out for their Christmas meal a few months later, and nothing materialised. Rise above it, these people are not worthy of your upset. Good luck in your new position.

Erm, this is going to sound dreadful, but I'm wondering if this is the other side of a recent thread were a manager posted asking if it was alright not to do a leaving gift for someone in their office. They were told they weren't unreasonable based on the post

I would be a bit miffed but it depends on the culture of your workplace/team.
Ive changed teams loads of times but never got a card or gift until this last move which was strangely the team I spent the shortest time with. The one I was with the longest , several years in fact , moved my things lock, stock and barrel while I was on holiday and when I came back was simply told "you're on x team now". Not even a text message as a heads up and no fond farewells even though I was a popular team member. The team that gave me the card and gift was one I knew least as I rarely interacted with them . Folk are strange and its not worth worrying about it.

What Holymountain said. This often happens if you are the usual organiser!

We do gifts for birthdays, babies and marriage but if someone leaves we don't. They are leaving the team. Not going to see them again so why spend money on them? We have discussed it and it was unanimous to stop doing leaving gifts. The only leavers we have done in recent years was emigrating to Oz with the same company.

Some people are natural organisers of leaving etc cards but others are completely oblivious. You might just have been unlucky in being in a team full of the latter type of person.