To do a runner?

[ladyface69]

And move to Wales??

So here it is. I'm a qualified NHS professional with lots of options career-wise. No children, no debts or mortgage.
But I really don't want to stick around with my OH, he has made it clear over the last 5 years that he isn't going anywhere in life and (I have posted previously about this) when I try to break up the relationship will turn on the charm and wear me down until I agree to stick it out.
There is a recruitment campaign for the NHS in wales at the moment and they will pay relocation costs (not a lot, but enough to tidy up my current rental property, pay a bond on a new one, maybe hire a van to move my stuff). There are jobs that I could do now, some are 6 or 12 months fixed term; so if I didn't like it I could come back easily.
My parents have a holiday cottage in Snowdonia that I could do the changeovers for if I moved up there.
It's not like I'm moving to new zealand or australia, I could technically come back for a weekend visit and lots of my friends regularly come to wales for breaks, so I wouldn't be totally isolated.

plus - Wales!

Am I mad??

No, you have simply spotted your escape route.

Mad would be not to take it.

Good luck

Go! And good luck

YANBU. As long as you actually like the idea of living in Wales why not go for it. Either way you need to get away from your OH. The relationship is dead and you need to make that unequivocally clear for him. Can you not move out earlier? How do you know he won't follow you to Wales?

You're not in the least bit mad. Go for it!

Go for it!

Brilliant idea, go for it.

It would be a dream come true. I love wales, some of my happiest memories are there. I would love to learn more about the local way of life for my area (have just spent 2 hours finding properties that I could afford and researching local hospitals, commutes, local interests etc)
He won't follow me to wales - he has neither the means nor the impetus to take himself anywhere, which is why he's riding my coat tails through life.
I've found this GORGEOUS house
www.rightmove.co.uk/property-to-rent/property-74787500.html
and this one is also very attractive
www.rightmove.co.uk/property-to-rent/property-67357766.html

What are you waiting for.... go!

Fantastic plan, go for it! I grew up there and love going ‘home’ to visit

Go, if you hate it you can move back but you’ll have made the break from your deadend relationship.
If I was qualified for anything I’d come with you

Go!!!

Go!! Now!!! Apply and run like the wind!

That first house!! I’d move for that. It’s like something out a bloody fairy tale

Right, I'm writing my CV today :)
There's two jobs out at the moment I could do - I'll try and apply for those whilst I'm at it
Does anyone know what loss of earnings would be going from 37.5 to 22.5 hours per week? The best looking job that seems to be similar to what I'm doing now is only part time :/ I guess I could always work bank shifts...

Nonibaloni
I know. The roses. The fireplace.

Do it! You only live once.

Not mad at all!
Sounds completely perfect as the next step

Go!

Enjoy your new life lass. Look forward to reading the updates

Omg that house!!

Go and have an amazing adventure

*Does anyone know what loss of earnings would be going from 37.5 to 22.5 hours per week?"

It's a 0.6 fraction, so multiply the FT salary by 0.6 for the pro rata. But your take-home won't be hit as hard as you'll be paying less tax.

That whole house costs the same to rent as a grubby bedsit in Wembley.

You'd be mad not to take the opportunity. What's that quote about the unloved life? Good luck in your new adventure, the excitement from you is papable through the screen.

Unlived life that should say.

Just go!

That first house is lovely!

What banding are you and where on the scale? I'm top of band 6 and dropped from 37.5 to 22.5 hours and I'm about 800 poorer a month!