I don't think you're being unreasonable OP - you're entitled to have an opinion and feelings based on your OWN circumstances - yes it's tragic some people can't conceive (some of the best Mums I know, have been unable to be biological mothers, but are Mums in every true sense of the word, and put many biological mums to shame - some can't conceive, or adopt, or foster - but this isn't about disrespect compassion or lack of empathy, this is about YOU,and you aren't being unreasonable to be thinking of yourself, for once, instead of, but not ignorant of, everybody else's circumstances) I have two DS, I don't know whether we'll have another baby, nor be fortunate to conceive another, but I do know that, hand on heart, I have grieved for a daughter I'll probably never have, have felt sad to not know what it will be like to be a Mum to a little girl, but have been able to console myself with two beautiful, amazing boys, the dynamics of whose relationship would probably be very different if they were mixed sex - every cloud OP - but I empathise, and I say, be entitled to, and own, and recognise your feelings, don't feel guilty, it doesn't make you love your baby less, acknowledge, and work through your feelings and be proud of yourself for being honest, which in turn helps others, as well as yourself, and selfless, because this post isn't just about you, it's about your baby, and your family - over time I hope that you can recognise what a wonderful and selfless Mum you are,