I have an 11 year old who starts secondary school on Tuesday.
He has a smart phone and, what I consider, a fair amount of freedom.
He goes to the skate part about 10am and is home by 6pm. I check in with him several times a day. He constantly pushes for me freedom, I constantly feel like he's taking the absolute piss so I've set out some rules for when he starts secondary school.
1- no phone in the morning. He can have it as he leaves the house.
I got so sick of seeing him in his pants playing on his phone, having not got dressed, had breakfast, packed his bag etc etc etc
2- if me and his dad are working, he comes immediately home after school. This will never be negotiable.
3- if he's allowed to go to the skate park after school he is home by 5.
4 - when he gets in it's no phone. Dinner and home work and then phone if it's all done.
5- in the winter when it's dark, cold and wet, he goes straight home after school. Every. Single. Day.
If he gives me grief, nags, begs or pleads or is late, he's grounded for a week.
He's now in his room crying his eyes out because of how unfair the rules are. 