Can’t believe what a cf my colleague is!!!!

[LondonElle]

Long story short, I have a work colleague with four children who was struggling to make ends meet, I recently upgraded my 7 seater vehicle and after seeing her struggling to get her kids to school in the rain on bikes and on foot I decided to gift her the car instead of selling it ( car wasn’t worth loads but I estimate I would have got about £500/ £1000 for it )
So she’s thrilled and happily uses the car to do her shopping/ school runs etc
6 weeks later she invites me around for a bbq... I see the car isn’t in the driveway so ask about it and she tells me they have sold it to buy a top of the range bbq and to book a weekend break!!! I was speechless and still am!!!! I know there’s nothing I can do but I’m shocked how cheeky she is and I’m not too keen to maintain this friendship any further..... I think she could tell by my face I wasn’t very impressed...!! Do I say something?!

OMG!

I can't really think of what you could say that she couldn't deflect back, but I would have to say something. She was of course not obliged to keep your donated vehicle, but she has just used it for cash. What a cheek.

Top CF-ing right there.

I think I would just drop her now. I don't think this is a friendship that can be salvaged.

Oh she’s no longer a friend, I think she knows she has upset me l, I can’t be bothered to talk to her anymore.

Jeez. Talk about a brass neck. Did you speak to her at all after the barbecue incident? How are you stopping yourself from asking her why she took the car from you, sold it for crap then bought another new car??

I don't think you were ever her friend. She didn't do anything with the intention to hurt you. You gave her something and she took it. Maybe a bit inconsiderate and tactless but I've been in the situation where I didn't want gifts and felt awkward refusing. I wouldn't have sold it but I have waited and passed them on. I am not saying that this is the case here. But I think that if the friendship was real you wouldn't be this upset. It is not as if she asked you for the car. It was your idea.

Some people just lack in common courtesy. Unfortunately this kind of thing is becoming the norm, but OP people like you are rare. Don't change. 💐💐

That's so shitty of her.

A lesson learnt for you. Expensive lesson though.

I’d be pissed off with this too. The OP should have had the new bbq and weekend away if the car wasn’t needed.

I'm gobsmacked OP, if she knew she was getting a car then she should have refused your kind offer.

I hope karma gets her and her "new" car is as faulty as fuck.

Good grief . I would be telling everyone what that cheeky bitch has done and I would be point blank refusing to speak to her. She has behaved monstrously.

I do not think that there is anything legally to be done - it was a gift, after all, but I do so wish there was. A solicitors letter would spike her guns. It may not be legally wrong but morally it is breath-takingly awful.

As an aside, I dont feel that the word “cheeky’ is enough here. Cheeky always implies, in my mind anyway, a sort of low level mischief. Not something of towering rudeness which is verging on criminal as is the case here.

Does everyone know now op?

You need to ask her for money from the sale. Say you gave it to her on assumption she had no other options but since apparently her money worries are over, you’d like your money back. Even if it’s not likely you’ll see the money, she’ll sweat a little.