To be upset my friends have met up without me?

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Boo boo, feel v sorry for me today.

Sorry this happened.

I think a lot of people would be upset by that.

Don’t worry I had the exact same thing last week. Work girls who I spend every lunch with, everything was fine, then last Saturday they go out for dinner and drinks but didn’t mention anything to me?? Even knowing I have them all on snapchat and was laying in bed alone having to watch them enjoying their night out?

Needless to say I have found a reason to have lunch out everyday instead of being with them this week.

Don’t let it get to you, they're clearly c**ts

How come? was it something they thought you may not be interested in? Id be upset too unless it was something they knew I was totally uninterested in

It was a mummy meeting but just makes me feel so out of it.

More info needed.

YANBU, have you said anything to them? I'd definitely feel hurt too.

I absolutely hate things like this. I would hate to think I would ever exclude anyone in this way. It's bitchy, and it's bullying. You're better off without them as 'friends'!

How many friends; how long have you known them / they known each other; what type of meet-up?

As a single childless woman I get left out of pretty much everything. I'm sorry this has happened OP.

Oh what a shame try and not take it too much to heart ask them about it? I can be a bit passive aggresive if it happens to me though and usually act like a 5yrold and ask where my invite was

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Is this a regular meet up? I can understand why you'd feel hurt.

When you say it was a mummy meeting what do you mean? Were they going to a baby group or something and maybe that's why you didn't get an invite? I would just ask them outright!

I can understand why you are hurt, but equally I think they are entitled to meet up if they have a joint interest. If you knew they were meeting beforehand would you have still been hurt?

No, not a baby group, just a day out with the kids

Yes, worst, I would

This kept happening to me and my “friends “

Safe to say we are no longer friends

Do you have kids as well? If not, maybe they thought it was something you wouldn't be interested in.

My best friend does this regularly. She even met up with some long lost mutual school friends recently, close to where I live, but 'forgot' to tell me until it was too late. It does hurt and has made me re-examine her importance in my life.

YANBU. I had a group of friends who I met at uni. I invited them to my wedding but only one of them came. Since I had the kids ive made the effort but they haven’t really, last year they invited me to one meet up which I went to, and we were all friendly and chatting etc, but since then they’ve gone back to excluding me. Presumably they think I have no desire to meet up with childless friends, nothing could be further from the truth! It’s very hurtful, I think when there is a group of friends then all of them should continue to be invited if it is a group meet. Excluding one person is very unfair.

You're really not giving enough info for us to say if it's unfair of them or not...
You say it's a 'mummy meeting', whatever the fuck that is Do you mean they've taken the kids out for the day & you are childless so aren't invited? If so then I think you're being a tad unreasonable as I would never think to invite a friend without kids to a day out like that-mainly because when I was childless I would rather have pulled my fingernails out than participate in such an event.

I can see both sides of this.

On the one hand, it is really hurtful when people you thought were friends meet up without you.

On the other hand, there must be a reason that they met up without you. Maybe that's something to reflect on?

And I say that as someone who often gets left out due to social awkwardness.

This happened to me recently - I had a group of friends who I invited to everything, including Christmas dinner, birthday lunches out, we were in a craft group together, etc etc.

I realised I hadn't seen them for a couple of months which was unusual and then suddenly photos from a fantastic party at one of their homes popped up on social media. The whole group were there except me and my DP.

I unfriended on fb and haven't seen any of them since. I felt really hurt and left out, and I don't know why they did this to me.

It's a horrible feeling.

I'm sorry this happened, it's hurtful.

You have to let it go, though, and accept that sometimes people will leave you out. I have a group of "Mum" friends whom I've met through my DCs and like any friendship group, some people are closer than others. Sometimes we do things as a large group (everyone's invited); other times, just two or three meet up.

I just did this myself over the weekend, organised an activity with two other families from the group - not to be unkind, but because we're closer friends and our children are as well.

I wouldn't ditch them unless it happens all the time.

Do you have kids as well? If not, maybe they thought it was something you wouldn't be interested in.

That doesn’t make it any less hurtful or wrong. It’s awful being the only one not invited because you haven’t managed to have a baby.