To be upset my friends have met up without me?

[creamandpink]

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Boo boo, feel v sorry for me today.

dont deserve friends?? wow

I just cant imagine a scenario where id be expected to invite ALL of my friends to every bloody kids playdate.
I have friends without kids, or with grown up kids. I meet up with them seperatly to my children in most cases.
I have friends with kids. We dont all go to the same meet ups.

This misunderstanding can be cleared up by saying ''hi [Friend With Kids] i'd really to go with you next time you go on a kiddy day out - i love to see the little buggers playing together - let me know next time!''.

This thread has shown that it's a normal/common reaction to think that a childless person wouldn't care that much if they were left out of kid centered outings. It's not out of maliciousness. (i would rather see my childless mates for nice meals and drinks out because it's nice to NOT do kiddy things sometimes and most of my friends with kids are harder to pin down for evenings out and will only do it once in a blue moon.)

If the real reason you're being left out is because they don't want to spend time with you then the child/not child is a red herring.

I feel like I have found my people 😥 I feel as though i’m Always the excluded one and even when I do make a friend 9/10 it’s me making first contact. I lost a lot of confidence when my supposed best friend ditched me 2 years ago.Another friend lied to me. Also a woman at work who I didn’t particularly want to be friends with said ‘I don’t socialise with people from work’ Yet constantly arranged nights out with other colleagues in front of me 🤔 Made me feel like crap.

I don't have kids, not through choice, it just never happened for me. I would not be expected to be invited to a day where a group of friends take their kids out to a kids focused activity. I wouldn't be upset by this at all.

Other people's behaviour is rarely about you and the quicker that we accept this the happier we will all be. Very, very few people make decisions that knowingly or wilfully upset others.

It is also your own responsibility to look after your own happiness and social life. You have to adapt to change. This might sound harsh but you will be the one that continue gets hurt if you don't.

When all of my friends started having kids, I made proactive efforts to make new friends - playing on a sports team. I have dogs and made so many friends out walking the dogs its untrue. I haven't ditched my friends with kids, I see them frequently but recognise that our lives are a little different now and we need to respect and work around that. There is so much you can do to broaden and enrich your life, you just need to embrace change and go with it.