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Original poster

To really fucking hate our dog

207 replies

fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 07:30

Jesus.

Both dh and I are on the verge of killing him. He barks at fuck all at any hour of the night.

He wakes our own children up and also next doors as he sets their dog off.

The dog is ruining our relationship, our children’s sleep and our relationship with the neighbours

We are in despair.

OP posts:
endofthelinefinally · 23/08/2018 07:31

What training have you done with him?

RJnomore1 · 23/08/2018 07:32

Oh my get your hard hat on.

Been a long night I take it?

Original poster
fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 07:32

Very long

Seriously, I cannot cope. No one can.

OP posts:
ButFirstTea · 23/08/2018 07:33

Where does he sleep? Is he in pain? Is there a dog in heat nearby? How much exercise does he get?

ThanosSavedMe · 23/08/2018 07:33

This is not going to end well for you op

TeddyIsaHe · 23/08/2018 07:33

You need to see a behaviourist asap then. Good training can do wonders, but it’s as much training you and your family as it is the dog. Getting angry with him is going to do nothing, you haven’t taught him the way you want him to behave, so what do you expect to happen?

OliviaBenson · 23/08/2018 07:34

What are the dogs triggers? What training has he had?

Banana8080 · 23/08/2018 07:34

Get a proper trainer in

bakingdemon · 23/08/2018 07:34

How long has this been going on?

WombatStewForTea · 23/08/2018 07:34

Assuming this is a new behaviour..

  1. vet check to rule out pain
  2. get a good, accredited, force free trainer in. Not cheap but if you love your dog it's worth it
YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 23/08/2018 07:35

Does he have a crate?

How much exercise does he get? Not just walks but play and brain training as well.

Is it dark downstairs where he should be sleeping?

What breed and how old?

What have you tried so far?

WhoWants2Know · 23/08/2018 07:36

How long have you had the dog? It's not normal behaviour, but with such strong feelings I assume it's best to rehome it.

Original poster
fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 07:51

It didn’t start well either Thanos!

He’s seven.

OP posts:
shoesaregood · 23/08/2018 07:59

I assume he gets plenty of exercise? If not, up the walks and the play - a training session or brain game exhausts mine.

Has he always barked at night, or is this a new behaviour? If the latter, then I’d suggest a trip to the vet. If the former, what’s changed? Is his bed in a new place? Or is the bed new? Ours point blank refuses to sleep at night unless his crate door is locked (just closed is not good enough) and he has a blanket over the crate. It took us a while to work out what he wanted 🙄

You could try a session with a behaviourist. What’s his training like generally?

mummymeister · 23/08/2018 08:00

So has this just started or have you had 7 years of it?
is there something where he sleeps that only he can hear that sets him off like the noise from a boiler or a freezer. we changed fridge when I was little and my dog hated it and never settled its only when we accidentally turned it off at the plug that we realised it was the problem.

get a good trainer involved. its worth the investment. the dog will also be picking up on your anxiety and also you wont be showing the love during the day which will also make the dog anxious.

Original poster
fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 08:01

Nothing has changed. He’s like a naughty kid and does it for attention.

OP posts:
OliviaBenson · 23/08/2018 08:02

Are you going to answer the questions well meaning posters are asking you op?

Ticcinalong · 23/08/2018 08:03

Must have been a trigger if he is 7 years old and hasn’t always done this.
Any changes in the house? New baby etc? Have you changed err the dog sleeps?

Is he neutered or entire?
How much exercise does he get?
Does he have plenty of mental stimulation, games, toys etc?
Has he had any other changes in behaviour or routine?
Is he otherwise healthy?

We can help if you talk.

GertrudeCB · 23/08/2018 08:04

Where does he sleep?
Has he seen a vet ?

TheOxymoron · 23/08/2018 08:04

Oh please don’t mention crates.
Pop me a message over.

mummymeister · 23/08/2018 08:05

So, he has been like this for 7 years? Just trying to work out if this has always been the same or just happened.

he isn't a naughty kid. he is a dog. you cant reason with a dog. you cant put a dog on the naughty step.

You have two choices: do something about it - spend the money, get the help or get him rehomed. clearly you aren't happy, your family isn't happy and neither is he.

Almostthere15 · 23/08/2018 08:05

Do you just need a rant op or are you looking for help? People have asked about his exercise/conditions that might help

If the behaviour is entrenched it'll be harder to fix, but it's not impossible but we need more to go on.

If you just need a moan, well that's up to you but usually dogs are barking for a reason

SoyDora · 23/08/2018 08:06

If you answer some of the questions on the thread people can try and help you.
Or did you just want to rant?

Runninglateeveryday · 23/08/2018 08:06

Where does he sleep?

GloGirl · 23/08/2018 08:09

Well he might be doing it for attention but that's because he needs the attention. He could be really stressrd/distraught with separation anxiety.

Or if it's new, could it be rats or mice he's reacting to?