To really fucking hate our dog

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Jesus.

Both dh and I are on the verge of killing him. He barks at fuck all at any hour of the night.

He wakes our own children up and also next doors as he sets their dog off.

The dog is ruining our relationship, our children’s sleep and our relationship with the neighbours

We are in despair.

Juells

I have a spaniel. I am with him 24/7 and have been since he was 8 weeks old. He gets a 2 hour walk every day without fail, plus 30 mins a day of training. Plus toys, treats and games. He will STILL do things for attention like stealing a sock or a slipper to get me to chase him! I literally could not do more for him or give him more attention and he is a very happy little dog but he has the intelligence of a toddler and is so used to attention that not having for any for a minute drives him to seek it out. If anything he has been overindulged.

Of course dogs do things for attention, it doesn't mean they're neglected, just means they'd like to be fussed over right now as opposed to when the owner has a moment.

Exactly!!!

I find Victoria Stillwell has good advice on barking dogs. Mine went through a phase of barking at the back door in the middle of the night. We used to get up and let him out but he didn’t even really need a wee, just was bored and wanting attention (took him to vet to rule out anything really wrong).

So we started ignoring him. For the first few nights he barked and barked but quickly got the message that we weren’t interested and hasn’t done it for years now.

TomHardysNextWife same here, we have 2 elderly cats and various issues with both of them, loud wailing day and night etc - sleep deprivation is the norm in our house! Its truly exhausting

It sounds a very difficult situation: I suggest taking him to a rehoming centre and putting him up for rehoming but explain about the problem. Someone else will take him and have the time his problem needs to work it through.
Sleep deprivation is very hard.
It sounds as if this would be the best situation for you, your family and the dog.

The saying 'There are no badly behaved dogs, only badly behaved owners' is sadly true, even if you don't realise you are not looking after your dog properly. It's not hard to train a dog not to bark, but you have to put in the time and the consistency. Do you even want him? It might be a better idea to hand him over to the RSPCA and they will find a home that works better for him. Tell them about the barking - be honest - and they can work on it.

Our neighbours dog is like this.
They think that shouting 'Stop it' !! over and over again and repeatedly shouting her name is the way to deal with it.
They are morons who shouldn't have a dog. I've never blamed the dog. AIBU to really tucking hate our neighbours?

Our dog used to bark randomly at night time. Just one or two barks but enough to wake us up. He sleeps in the kitchen. Our kitchen door was double glazed with glass panels top and bottom. When we replaced the door we got a solid panel at the bottom. No more barking. We think he must have been seeing cats crossing the garden through the glass panel.

Silly question but have you checked for fleas? Our dog went through a phase of suddenly barking/howling in the night and turns out he had loads and he was being woken up itching and barking because he was frustrated and itchy! He was only two days overdue for his spot on treatment but fleas seem to be getting more and more resilient!

I am puzzled about why repeated posts about booking sessions with a behavourist are being ignored.

If it's not a physical problem then it's a behaviour one. Putting a calming or bark collar on is only putting a plaster on the problem because it's not getting to the root of WHY is he barking.

I'm not surprised they're being ignored.

Put a muzzle on him

Put a muzzle on him

No don't do that it's beyond cruel. Finding out why he's barking is the obvious solution surely?

Put a muzzle on him

Muzzles don't stop dogs from barking. It might reduce the noise but it won't stop it. Plus it will stress the dog out even further - and it doesn't address the problem of why the dog is barking. Any decent owner would want to get to the bottom of this and address the root cause - instead of leaving a dog muzzled for an entire night which would be hugely cruel.

Op do you have a behavioural assistance as part of the pet insurance, either a hotline or $$$ for bringing a specialist in?

Have you had dogs before?

If you hate him so much and he is ruining your life, have you considered offering him for adoption? It sounds like you can't live with this dog ...

On another thread about cat causing problems everyone was saying "give it a better home!", "she deserves so much better" - i.e. basically, get rid of her. I'm surprised no one thought about it here - are dogs so much more precious than cats?

'he's out loads' - do you take him out, or do you let him until the garden loads?

It sounds like he is out, but nobody is with him from the way you worded it. If that's the case, take him for walks. He'll be bored.

BloodyDisgrace I’ve seen plenty of posts on this thread saying ‘rehome the dog’.

Errr... there are masses of posts saying the dog should be rehomed?

SoyDora
I’ve seen plenty of posts on this thread saying ‘rehome the dog’

I haven't seen plenty. I've seen 5. Out of 194 posts, I counted.

I suspect OP is so twatted by this situation that the 90% posts saying "spend £££" (seriously?! hundreds of pounds?? what if this family doesn't have this money?) on training is going into deaf ears. And then they give her some shit for not responding to it "oh yes, thank you, haven't thought about this one, booked a lovely woman for £1000 a week, good recommendations, hopefully she'll do the job".

Perhaps, the only solution is to get rid of the fucker. He's probably a good decent dog otherwise, and will find his best ever mate in another human (who has time and money to help) and make someone very happy.

Perhaps, the only solution is to get rid of the fucker.

Why such callous language?

I also think that when people get a pet, they should factor in the case where they can't cope/it's too much problem, so the pet gets rehomed. Sad, I know, but there's away out of any situation.

When our kitten caused my DH allergy, he got antihistamins plus puss is kept out of the bedroom, but I said early on "if you, dearest, develop any side effects to the medication, or it's not working, then, I'm afraid, we will rethink it and maybe give the puss up for adoption". Luckily it didn't come to that and the cat is much loved by my husband. But we didn't rule the drastic option out.

Why such callous language?

Because the dog is driving them mad. They can't sleep and thus endanger themselves daily if they drive, for example, and in any case sleepless nights are not doing any good for their health. I feel for that family and their neighbours.

Also, I use such words liberally not meaning any aggression

There are definitely some posters in this thread who should never own a pet. Some of the suggestions here are just cruel. I'm willing to bet this is something that can be sorted if there's a will to do it rather than just give up on the dog.

Why such callous language?

Because the dog is driving them mad.

Dogs don't bark all night unless something is wrong in the environment. There could be foxes in the garden, or lots of other explanations. Muzzling etc. is just cruel.