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To really fucking hate our dog

207 replies

fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 07:30

Jesus.

Both dh and I are on the verge of killing him. He barks at fuck all at any hour of the night.

He wakes our own children up and also next doors as he sets their dog off.

The dog is ruining our relationship, our children’s sleep and our relationship with the neighbours

We are in despair.

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RubDubDuckies · 23/08/2018 08:39

Bark collar!! You can get non-shocking, humane ones. We had the same issue with my mother's little dog, just barked at everything and nothing for no reason. Once the collar went on, a few days later it stopped completely, collar came back off and she was fine. If he is not spayed, that might be worth considering too.

fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 08:40

They are retired and they don’t have young babies and their house is detached, so while I don’t think it will be a picnic for the poor sods, and I am sympathetic, I’m also worried about dh falling asleep at the wheel through lack of sleep.

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Agentornika · 23/08/2018 08:42

Why are you not answering the questions, if you want advice you need to give a lot more info

What breed?
Where does he sleep?
How often is he exercised and how?
What training have you done?
Is he left alone often?
Have you consulted a vet?
Have you seen a behaviourist?

If this has been going on for years, what have you done to try and rectify it?

fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 08:43

I have answered the questions! Jesus Confused

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Aeroflotgirl · 23/08/2018 08:45

First take him to the vet, to see if there are any underlying medical problems he might have, if not, i would see a dog behaviourist.

ResistanceIsNecessary · 23/08/2018 08:46

Could it be the beginnings of doggie dementia? If he's a big breed them it might be it, already.

I wondered about this. My lurcher has it, which is why he shadows me everywhere. He's always loved his cuddles but in the last couple of years it became very noticeable that whenever I moved, he did. To the point that he comes to the bathroom with me! It really does add to the ambience of having a relaxing bath when you have had to drag a dog bed into the corner of the room Grin

ResistanceIsNecessary · 23/08/2018 08:47

OP if you can share which county you are in we might be able to recommend someone for you.

ThanosSavedMe · 23/08/2018 08:49

If you’ve had him since he was a puppy and he’s always been like his, why haven’t you done something about it before now?

MissusGeneHunt · 23/08/2018 08:50

'plenty' re the exercise isn't an answer OP, and I can't see whether a vet or behaviouralist have been seen.... Difficult to help if there's no answers.

fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 08:50

He has seen a vet

There is nothing new

He is of uncertain heritage Grin

He is a twat, but he is my twat and as such will not be rehomed in the near future (plus DH would kill me, he is outnumbered by women and has masculine bonding rituals.

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MissusGeneHunt · 23/08/2018 08:53

How long / far is the daily exercise?

Then a behaviouralist is potentially your answer if you've exhausted other options. . Worth saying which County you're in if possible for recommendations.

AnnieAnoniMoose · 23/08/2018 08:54

It’ll be interesting to see if he does it at your PIL or not.

Try not to take some of the replies to heart. You’re not coming across very well on this thread, but you’re multi tasking and sleep deprivation is a nasty bastard. If you get time later, try reading the thread again and see what you can try. Personally I’d have him in my room, a) in the hope he’s happy enough then to SLEEP, and 2) so we could deal with it without going downstairs if he doesnt (easier and hopefully will stop him waking the kids & neighbours).

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ResistanceIsNecessary · 23/08/2018 08:54

I get it OP. I adore my dogs and would do pretty much anything for them. But we had to boot the senile lurcher out of our bedroom at night because he was trying to invade our bed 48548545 times every night - because the only place he wants to sleep is by the headboard in the middle of us both. Which would be fine if he was chihuahua sized, but sadly he isn't! He doesn't like being shut downstairs but DH and I were going crazy from lack of sleep.

Adaptil collars on Amazon which is much cheaper than Pets at Home. Plus book some behaviour training sessions as a priority.

Slimmingsnake · 23/08/2018 08:56

We had a conservatory put on...and a cat flap so our dog could always get out to wee....we didn't think she would be out at all barking at fuck all....so first she barked all night at nothing ,I lost count of the times I came down..in the morning there was a dead mouse on the grass....then we put garden lights up...it took us a while to realise she was barking at those...then the cat on the roof ...and so on ....we found all the glass in conservatory meant she could see the garden all night and the slightest thing set her off barking..so now we put her in a dark room to sleep ,and no more barking 😃....

starsorwater · 23/08/2018 08:56

Our dog does this if we leave her alone at night. She feels the need to be 'on guard.' In our room she doesn't. We discovered this gradually. Started off with basket of 'comfort things'- family worn teeshirts etc, long lead in our room, reassurance. She now sleeps like a log anywhere, having learnt that night time is for sleeping and not staying awake in charge of the family. We move her back in with us when fire work season starts.

AnnieAnoniMoose · 23/08/2018 08:57

Oh and I’d make DH take him out for a LONG walk before bed...good male bonding 😂

fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 08:57

I don’t really care how I come across Annie, I’m moaning about a fucking annoying dog, not trying to win lifelong friends Hmm

I go back to work soon and there is no way I can function on this little sleep! Will look st the bark collars.

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Slatternsdelight · 23/08/2018 09:00

^ bit uncalled for

What do you want? Help and sympathy or just space to have a whinge?

AnnieAnoniMoose · 23/08/2018 09:02

🤷🏻‍♀️

Ok. I was just trying to be nice in light of others telling you that you should rehome him because you’re a crap owner, when actually I don’t think you are, I think you’re just not coming across very well, but whatever....

Twistella · 23/08/2018 09:03

I've hated all my animals at varying times in their lives. Good luck op.

Frouby · 23/08/2018 09:03

Symapthies OP.

Our dog occasionally does this. It's usually when something has changed about her routine, or prior to being speyed, when she was coming into season.

What worked for us was treating it as a night waking for a naughty toddler. I worked out that she did because DH used to come down, look out of the window with her, stroke her to calm her down, then if that didn't work and she barked again, lay down on the sofa with her.

If I went down I would check to see if she was actually barking at a burglar or someone lurking around, let her out back to 'check', give her a fresh drink to settle her, then make her bed comfortable again.

So she was getting lots of fuss and attention.

So I stopped DH going down, I came down, shut the curtains so she couldn't look out, let her out for a wee with minimal fuss then just say 'bed'. If I had to come down again I just pointed to her bed looking cross.

It worked for us.

Also making sure she was really tired, so in the day a big, long walk. Then a shorter one at teatime, lots of garden time. And walking her different places as well.

It's very tough. They do learn that barking gets attention pretty quickly. Ours barks when she wants something. She's not yappy but if she thinks it's her walk time, she barks at me. If she wants fresh water (she likes it changed hourly it seems) she barks, wants some scraps from plates she barks. So for us the night time barking.was because she didn't want to be in bed, she wanted us with her.

She does occasionally bark at noise outside. We live opposite some shops so occasionally if they have workmen in at night we leave the tv on low to drown out the noise.

fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 09:03

Yeah well being told I’m not coming across well makes me feel like a teenager being told off, I don’t care how I’m coming across, I am shattered!

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fuckingdog18 · 23/08/2018 09:04

Thanks Frouby

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User12879923378 · 23/08/2018 09:06

OP just sounds like someone who hasn't had enough sleep to me

BiteyShark · 23/08/2018 09:06

If it's that big a problem then why not pay for a behaviourist to actually try and resolve the issue.