WIBU to post Dsis her kids back and ruin her holiday?

[Santasjinglebelle]

WTAF to do?
Agreed to have niece (8) and nephew (7) over to stay for a while so Dsis and hubby can attend destination wedding/ first holiday without kids in tow.
Last time they were here I put them both in pyjamas pants as I know that they're prone to accidents and I just don't have the time or energy (or inclination to be frank) to keep up with the additional laundry.
Dniece pipped up earlier to tell me me that neither of them will be wearing pyjama pants this time round as their mummy told them not to.
Thinking they must have misheard, I call Dsis to get her to speak with them. Dsis proceeds to berate me for wanting to "humiliate" her children. Apparently pyjamas pants encourage bedwetting by infantilise slow developers - better to let them feel uncomfortable in their own piss and learn the hard way.
Before I could get out any kind of response she fobbed me off with some shite about a dodgy line and hung up!!
WTF am I supposed to do? They went to bed at 8pm and used the toilet first but I've just changed nephew's sheets! Another 8 nights of this makes me want to weep.
No other relatives near enough to pawn off on, niece is adamant, nephew does what his sister says and Dsis not answering phone anymore.
Hubby's response (he was joking) "try Easy jet." But now I'm seriously considering this, WIBU?

What has your BIL said about this? They’re his DCs too!

Friday night's sheets were also soiled (both)

So they both pooed the bed? And she thinks there is no problem!!

No liquids after 4pm

Apparently that's disgusting and I could just have stuck them in the machine ffs.

Well, it is disgusting. But, frankly, so's her behaviour!

I feel for you OP - it is hard work having all that bedwetting.

However, as a previous bedwetter until I was around 10, I know how mortifyingly embarrassing this will be for the kids, even if they don't admit to it being.

I'd have been absolutely crushed if I'd been put in pyjama pants, though I'd have been OK with a mattress protector.

Much of the issue is with biofeedback - pyjama pants are just too comfortable to allow kids to realise that they've wet the bed, while a mattress protector gives you the feedback of being cold & wet.

The most important thing is giving feedback during the act of wetting the bed though, and a bedwetting alarm was what got me dry, relatively quickly.

Much of the issue is with biofeedback - pyjama pants are just too comfortable to allow kids to realise that they've wet the bed, while a mattress protector gives you the feedback of being cold & wet.

The OP is not their parent and its not her job to sort this out though. She was doing their parents a massive favour by looking after the kids for 8 days and thought she had a solution (which as far as she was aware was fine when they stayed before). Her DSis dropped off the kids having instructed them not to wear the pyjama pants without warning the OP and then refused to pick the phone when OP called to discuss it.

She should have discussed it in advance and come to an arrangement that worked for everyone or stayed at home and looked after her own kids, including changing their sheets every night if that's how she wants to do it.

It isn't the kids fault that their DM has acted like an arsehole, true, but the OP found a solution that they and she were happy with so they're fine.

OP's DSis isn't happy but she engineered a crap situation for her kids and the OP so she deserves it if you ask me.

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Her DSis's AIBU

AIBU? I CANNOT believe it. My DSis said she would look after my two DCs for 8 days while me and DP went on a holiday. When I came back she presented me with bloody mountains of sheets to wash and a bill at the local laundrette. All this when I was so tired when our plane got delayed so it turned into nine nights. All that holiday and now I'm just so exhausted. And my kids seem okay on the surface but I bet they're traumatised. She's always been a selfish SOB. It'll be some time before I ask her to look after them again.