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To Have Walked Out of Restaurant about Wagyu Beef

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WaguBeef · 14/08/2018 13:28

DP & I have recently returned from holiday with his DCs.

On the last evening we went out for a meal at a lovely restaurant.

DP & his son (13) both ordered Wagyu beef steaks- 150 gms. The restaurant only had 1 x 150 & 1 x 130 gm steaks left. DP said that’s fine.

When they arrived DSS started crying & shouting it wasn’t fair for DP (he’s 15 stone) to have the bigger steak.
After 5 minutes I got up and left.

DP thinks I should have been more understanding. I said ‘ personally I would have picked up the offending steak & put it in the bin’

OP posts:
YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 13:29

I’d have walked out too.

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 13:29

Understanding of what?

arethereanyleftatall · 14/08/2018 13:30

You did fine.
Utterly unacceptable behaviour from the ds. I wouldn't have tolerated that as a parent.

cardibach · 14/08/2018 13:30

Understanding of what?
The 13 year old should know better. Also, 20g of meat is very little, so the difference between the steaks would have been barely noticeable. Not that that matters.

PolkerrisBeach · 14/08/2018 13:30

A 13 year old crying and shouting? For real?

MissusGeneHunt · 14/08/2018 13:30

I don't think I would have walked out, but DS's reaction would have been met with a bloody stern one from me... Massively out of proportion....

mimibunz · 14/08/2018 13:31

I would have done the same. A 13 should know better than to behave in such a way. Does the kid have form for bad behaviour?

Frogscotch7 · 14/08/2018 13:32

Yanbu. I would have asked the other DC if they wanted to come with me though.

ShutUpBaz · 14/08/2018 13:32

I would have walked out too.

I don't believe any 13 year old would cause a scene like that in a restaurant unless there was an underlying issue. Is that what your DH means by understanding.

20g is probably one bite of meat so it seems like a load of drama over nothing.

Seeingadistance · 14/08/2018 13:33

I commend you on your restraint!

DarlingNikita · 14/08/2018 13:35

I'd have left too. Fuck that for a game of soldiers but I hope you took your nice dinner in a doggy bag

What does your DP think you should have understood precisely?

SnowyAlps · 14/08/2018 13:36

I would have sent his back and told him he could have nothing. But I appreciate it’s harder being as he is a step son. Personally your dp should have taken control and reprimanded him.

9amTrain · 14/08/2018 13:38

What a spoilt brat!

MamaHechtick · 14/08/2018 13:42

Unless there are other issues YANBU, I wouldn't have that behaviour from a 4 year old let alone a 13 year old.

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 13:42

Is there an underlying issue OP?

BlessedBeTheFruitCake · 14/08/2018 13:43

That is over the top for a NT 13yo.

Original poster
WaguBeef · 14/08/2018 13:43

No underlying issues but does cry if he’s losing a board game etc.

DP said ‘he’s just disappointed he didn’t get what he wanted ‘

It is difficult because he is my step son but tbh 13 & crying about 20 gm of steak nearly tipped me over the edge of saying something back.

OP posts:
IceCreamFace · 14/08/2018 13:45

Does he have any emotional or behavioural issues? Definitely doesn't sound like normal 13 year old behaviour!

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 13:45

DP said ‘he’s just disappointed he didn’t get what he wanted ‘

If he’s NT (as it appears he is), at 13 I wouldn’t just have walked out, I’d have taken him with me! Absolutely appalling behaviour.

FilledSoda · 14/08/2018 13:46

I would be disgusted at a 13 year old behaving like that , his df is obviously letting him away with it.

IceCreamFace · 14/08/2018 13:46

To what extent is he actually capable of controlling his emotions? It sounds very odd for a NT child (even a spoiled child!).

Penfold007 · 14/08/2018 13:47

Why didn't DP give his son the bigger steak? That would be the 'understanding' thing to do.

Topseyt · 14/08/2018 13:47

It was your DP who needed to understand, not you.

He needed to understand that his 13 year old DS was being a horrid spoilt brat and that he should have been clamping down on the behaviour, not fannying about trying to be understanding.

I'd have been tempted to walk too. A 13 year old acting so babyish is pathetic and unattractive.

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 13:47

Hang on OP, are you banned from commenting on your DSCs behaviour?

LagunaBubbles · 14/08/2018 13:47

DP said ‘he’s just disappointed he didn’t get what he wanted

Yes and we all have to learn to cope with disappointments in life, your DP wont be doing his son any favours if he gives him everything he wants and lets a 13 year old throw a tantrum without dealing with it.