To Have Walked Out of Restaurant about Wagyu Beef

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DP & I have recently returned from holiday with his DCs.

On the last evening we went out for a meal at a lovely restaurant.

DP & his son (13) both ordered Wagyu beef steaks- 150 gms. The restaurant only had 1 x 150 & 1 x 130 gm steaks left. DP said that’s fine.

When they arrived DSS started crying & shouting it wasn’t fair for DP (he’s 15 stone) to have the bigger steak.
After 5 minutes I got up and left.

DP thinks I should have been more understanding. I said ‘ personally I would have picked up the offending steak & put it in the bin’

and DSS has learned the valuable lesson that actually he doesn't always come first.

id have said something, no bloody way any 13yo would embarrass me in a restaurant

Why didn't DP give his son the bigger steak? That would be the 'understanding' thing to do.

bollocks is it! he's 13, the steak he got was big enough and an adult/his DAD is the one who gets the bigger of the 2

Your DP needs to step up and parent properly. Children should stop behaving like that by the time they're about six, surely?

Only toddlers cry over their food, IME, unless there are undelying issues, which the OP has already confirmed there aren't. I'd also have left, & be wondering why this behaviour is tolerated by his father (and mother).

How was the rest of the holiday?
Whats his and the other child's behaviour like in general?
I wouldn't put up with my own 9yo behaving like that, it would be eat it or don't, sent away from the table if not.
With a step child I would have done the same as you, I cannot abide spoilt children.

Dear lord, what on earth was he thinking excusing a teenager crying because he's disappointed? Does he over compensate with him for everything?

Wow, how many 13yos get to eat wagyu steak at all?

It's really important for kids to have the resilience (and good manners) to accept with grace that the world doesn't revolve around them. What will happen to this boy when he doesn't get what he wants with something that actually matters like a job, or girlfriend or.... well, real life in general.

Yanbu but if this was enough to make you walk out then I'd wonder whether step-parenting him is really for you. If 20gms worth of steak causes untold woe for a 13yo boy then that's one thing but his step-mum walking out is quite another.

I really feel for you OP, my 11 year old NT DSS will cry at the drop of a hat if something isn't going his way. Granted he is younger but to be honest I don't see his behaviour changing any time soon, if anything it has become worse as he has got older. He cries if he loses at a game, if we serve food that he's decided he doesn't want, if he falls over, basically anything! He doesn't seem to have learned to process his emotions. We were taken out for dinner recently by his grandparents & he cried when his dinner came because it wasn't quite what he was expecting, & he wouldn't try it.

It's very difficult as a step-parent, & for my DH too actually. We've always had the same rules at our house, we feel that consistency is key. It is very different from his house where he is allowed to do what he wants when he wants, & is allowed to have whatever he wants too (his mum says she doesn't want to deprive him of anything or make him upset). We thought that he'd adapt to 2 different sets of rules since he has grown up with them from the age of 4, but that hasn't happened. But we will continue to be consistent!

Your DH thinks this acceptable behaviour from a 13yo?!
The boy spoilt everyone's meal and was rude. I would have walked out too.

I would of left with my younger children if one of them started kicking off over the size of part of their meal. I can’t believe a 13year cried over steak. It’s not like he got the kiddies chicken nugget and chips meal instead. Spoilt sod.

Sounds like a right brat, I'd be embarrassed too. I guess you could have cut a slice off the bigger steak but was the 20 g size difference that noticeable?

Maybe guess the weight of a steak is the new guess the weight of a cake

At 13, he should know better! ...and his father should't find excuses for such behaviour. What a spoilt brat

Is the wagyu beef relevant??

Who is 15 stone? DP or the 13 yr old?

If he hasn't learnt how to cope with disappointment without having a tantrum by the age of 13, now is definitely the time to start. If my child had behaved like that I would have given him one warning and then taken the meal off him.

Thanks all.

I have never had Wagyu beef myself- I tend to order the cheapest thing on the menu !

I definitely think they are spoilt - we had to leave a festival whilst we were away because they were in a bad mood because we had to walk 15 minutes when they wanted to go by car.

I have older boys & I would be appalled by this behaviour and tbh they know how to behave.

DP thinks everyone doesn’t understand his DS - his sensitivity. I think just call it for what it is - bad behaviour.

I don’t think DP should have had the smaller steak & panda to DS. Tbh that would never entered my head

What did your DH do?

Wagyu is much more expensive than regular beef, I'm guessing OP was illustrating that this was an expensive treat that the DS should have been appreciative of.

Wagyu is much more expensive than regular beef, I'm guessing OP was illustrating that this was an expensive treat that the DS should have been appreciative of

I took it as that too.

I guess most boys of 13 won't have even heard of wagyu steak. It was very rude of him to make a fuss.
I would want to how him a 20g piece of meat at home so that he realised what a small thing he was making a scene over.

Oh, apparently the 20g difference equals about a fiver, it's so expensive.

Is sensitive the new spoilt? If his that sensitive over meat maybe he should go vegan

Does he behave like this in school and with friends? He needs to learn how to function socially, sensitive or not. Your DH is doing him no favors by allowing this behavior.