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To Have Walked Out of Restaurant about Wagyu Beef

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WaguBeef · 14/08/2018 13:28

DP & I have recently returned from holiday with his DCs.

On the last evening we went out for a meal at a lovely restaurant.

DP & his son (13) both ordered Wagyu beef steaks- 150 gms. The restaurant only had 1 x 150 & 1 x 130 gm steaks left. DP said that’s fine.

When they arrived DSS started crying & shouting it wasn’t fair for DP (he’s 15 stone) to have the bigger steak.
After 5 minutes I got up and left.

DP thinks I should have been more understanding. I said ‘ personally I would have picked up the offending steak & put it in the bin’

OP posts:
DarlingNikita · 14/08/2018 15:09

we had to leave a festival whilst we were away because they were in a bad mood because we had to walk 15 minutes when they wanted to go by car.

They aren't being done any favours, are they?

prunemerealgood · 14/08/2018 15:10

lol user, let's tell the neurologists and psychologists who study the teenage brain that they shouldn't be pandering to this sort of nonsense! Grin

Nikephorus · 14/08/2018 15:13

whilst we were away I didn’t do ANY activities with them
How is that a good thing? It says to me that you don't enjoy spending time with DSS. Yes, let them have some time together but if you're keeping yourself totally separate it just gives the impression that you don't care.

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 15:14

prunemerealgood Flowers

I really hate name calling of children, whatever their behaviour it’s so unnecessary.

Iamoutragedetc · 14/08/2018 15:15

Well done, OP, the child sounds like a total nightmare. Your DP needs to get a grip.

BrokenWing · 14/08/2018 15:15

ds used to cry and get upset when things didn't go his way, luckily my dad sorted that one out early on.

With ds, my pfb, I used to think my dad was over the top and we had a few heated discussions about it. He loved ds to bits but was always beating him at board games, not letting him win, not letting the football into the goals etc and upsetting him, but the tears eventually turned to determination to get one over on grandpa. (thanks dad, miss you Sad). It had the same effect on my eldest dniece too, and you can see a positive difference between their resilience and my other nephews who my SIL kept at arms length from nasty grandpa.

In the workplace I regularly see young apprentices who cant stop the tears if they make a mistake and its pointed out to them as positively as possible as a development opportunity. Your dh is doing his ds no favours condoning behaviour like.

Kokeshi123 · 14/08/2018 15:17

Little Prince should be grateful he's getting any wagyu, that stuff costs $$$$$.

What an embarrassment. No, this is not normal teenage behavior. Pouting a bit when things don't go his way, sure. But crying publicly over a few grams of steak?

livefornaps · 14/08/2018 15:19

Lol @ nasty grandpa.

Kids these days need to learn to get a grip.

Why is he even so fussed over food, anyway?

EthelThePiratesDaughter · 14/08/2018 15:19

Your SS sounds like an absolute brat.

It'll do him the world of good to not get what he wants all the time.

Who paid for the steaks in question? You/your DH and not the 13 year old brat, I assume?

WinnieFosterTether · 14/08/2018 15:21

I wouldn't have walked out of the restaurant. It sounds as though you created a bigger scene that the teen.
Also, it's all very well PPs saying they wouldn't accept it and would walk but most parents would know where a tantrum like that came from and respond accordingly.
imo you need to manage behaviour. Walking away from it just turns the focal point from his behaviour to your emotions.

alligatorsmile · 14/08/2018 15:23

I'd tell the lad that if he wants a bigger bit of steak he can get a job and pay for it. But I'm a bit of a cowbag like that. Prolly do it with a smile and make a joke of it though.

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 15:25

I wouldn't have walked out of the restaurant. It sounds as though you created a bigger scene that the teen.

How is quietly getting up and leaving causing a bigger scene? Confused

Eliza9917 · 14/08/2018 15:26

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Tue 14-Aug-18 15:07:17
I don't know - the war years rationing prioritised children if anything, as they're still growing. Your 'DP' could have given up the extra 20g steak - or sliced off a bit to make it equal.

DSS is a bit of a brat but I don't think much of your DP either quite frankly.

It's that kind of treatment that made the little treasure like this in the first place.

EthelThePiratesDaughter · 14/08/2018 15:26

Next time he has a tantrum like that, just take out your phone and start filming him.

MortyVicar · 14/08/2018 15:28

whilst we were away I didn’t do ANY activities with them

How is that a good thing? It says to me that you don't enjoy spending time with DSS. Yes, let them have some time together but if you're keeping yourself totally separate it just gives the impression that you don't care.

OP can't win, can she?

Someone says that it was miserable going on holiday with her dad's gf, because his attention was on the gf. OP says she consciously kept out of the way so that the DCs could have dad's undivided attention, and apparently she looks like she doesn't care.

They obviously did some things together or the OP wouldn't be posting about the meal.

OP I get the walking out. With 20/20 hindsight there may have been other ways to deal with it, but in the moment you'd had enough. Given that this is not an isolated example, I suggest having a long calm talk to DP now that the holiday is over.

Aprilshowersinaugust · 14/08/2018 15:31

I agree with a op that the ds needs guidance - all the way to McDonald's the ungrateful little fooker.
And then to his room for his behaviour.
I would have walked out too.
Is your df generally a Disney Dad?
Did he expect to be given the bigger one?

OliviaStabler · 14/08/2018 15:49

So he was allowed to carry on crying and having a strop in public for 5 minutes? No one said anything to him?

MakeItStopNeville · 14/08/2018 15:51

So, it was the last night of a presumably fun holiday for him, where he’d spent the week doing loads of fun activities one on one with his Dad. He’s 13 and hormonal and heading home to his Mum the next day? I’m guessing his overreaction had absolutely nothing to do with the steak, Wagyu or not.

MakeItStopNeville · 14/08/2018 15:52

Not that that’s helpful for you OP! Grin Sorry! Blush

DameDoom · 14/08/2018 15:55

Crikey - there is some worrying parenting going on when children's tantrums and demands are being constantly, as it would seem here, being so easily given into.
A child in my class had accidentally miscalculated fairy buns that were brought in to share as a birthday treat. Instead of 30, there were 28. He gave them out and two children were sitting without a bun. Said child apologised and without any adult prompting another suggested we halve all the buns and the extra could be put out for the birds. This was deemed an excellent idea by the rest of the class who were more than happy. They are 10 and 11 with a high percentage of SN.

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 15:57

DameDoom that’s really lovely!

HouseworkIsASin10 · 14/08/2018 15:59

My child had major tantrums at 3, not 13.

Behaving like a toddler should be reprimanded. I'd have left too, how embarrassing.

Lethaldrizzle · 14/08/2018 15:59

Storming off is just another form of tantrum.

Cath2907 · 14/08/2018 15:59

My 7 year old wouldn't behave like this (and were she to we would leave the restaurant immediately - all of us!)

I think you need to have a serious discussion with your DH about expectations. I wouldn't want to eat out with a kid who would embarass me in public.

prunemerealgood · 14/08/2018 16:03
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