To Have Walked Out of Restaurant about Wagyu Beef

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DP & I have recently returned from holiday with his DCs.

On the last evening we went out for a meal at a lovely restaurant.

DP & his son (13) both ordered Wagyu beef steaks- 150 gms. The restaurant only had 1 x 150 & 1 x 130 gm steaks left. DP said that’s fine.

When they arrived DSS started crying & shouting it wasn’t fair for DP (he’s 15 stone) to have the bigger steak.
After 5 minutes I got up and left.

DP thinks I should have been more understanding. I said ‘ personally I would have picked up the offending steak & put it in the bin’

No 13 year old should carry on that way, I agree, and I can quite see why OP would have nothing to do with such behaviour.

That said, had I been in that situation, I would have offered, before the food even arrived, to split the difference with whoever was going to get the smaller portion. It was a holiday, supposed to be fun, it would seem the kind and fairest thing to do. Now the end of the holiday, at the very least, has a sour taste, no doubt caused by the spoilt child's behaviour, but easily avoidable nonetheless.

And OP, by avoiding all activities during the holiday, are you sure you did not come across as standoffish?

I agree that name calling isn’t on. I also agree that for his own sake his parents need to get on top of it.

He’ll get eaten alive at school or work if he’s never shown how to manage his emotions and behaviour. (Again referring to a NT child)

Bugger me!!! I've just looked up the price of the meat!!!!

Panda huh?

Lying fuckwit.

Completely off topic, I love your name YeTalkShiteHen

@UpOnTheDowns well you just made this thread

So what was the outcome, Op

Because generally toddlers learn that such behaviour doesn't bring anything, so why is he still doing it?

That said, by 13 I'm sure that there were certain things I couldn't actually cry about iyswim & I'm pretty sure that a disappointment with a meal would be one.

If it really isn't forced, I'd be concerned.

He needs taught how to control his emotions not normal behaviour for a 13yr old.

Yea I would have walked as well OP .

Shame you had to leave your own food though / What did you order ?

You stropped off because the child had a strop, how very mature. Did you want the big steak as well?

I have kids of a similar age and if they were in that restaurant, they would have pissed themselves with laughter and be forced not to record it and make it viral. Crying at that age should be for actual physical or emotional pain.

So ops ss isn't the only brat around then

I'd have binned the steak...... if my kids acted like that

i don't think an adult should necessarily get portion priority over a (growing) teenager - certainly not simply by dint of being an adult. That's a bit of a throwback to earlier times or the 'penis portions' oft-lamented on here.

Of course making a scene in the restaurant was not on, but I suspect there's something else going on here.

Is he perhaps hormonal?

I remember a phase around this age of requently feeling horribly hard done by, and seriously overreacting!

I wouldn't be buying wagyu steak for a 13 year old whatever their behaviour was like. Completely wasted on them.

I can’t believe the sense of entitlement from this child.

He’s on holiday
Been taken to a restaurant
Has chosen the most expensive dish on the menu
Isn’t happy so has thrown a toddler tantrum.

Spoilt and entitled.

As someone posted earlier. There are many kids in the U.K. living on the breadline. They don’t get holidays. They don’t get taken to fancy restaurants.

His dad needs to get a grip and teach him that sometimes we n Ed to be grateful for what we are given.

I’m a SM to 2 kids aged 10 & 13. The younger SS always wants the most expensive steak on the menu when we go out. But you know what? He doesn’t always get it as my OH doesn’t want to raise an entitled child. And there’s no way he wound throw a fit as he knows that behaviour would not be tolerated.

This is the behaviour you get when you pander to their every whim. I would have told his that as you and your DP earn the money to pay for said steak he will eat the smaller one. If he cried I would have taken it away from him. He was being a brat

13 year old brains aren't wired for putting stuff in perspective like that. They're around the very least empathetic time of their lives. It's only going to wind a parent up to try to impress on them that people are living in poverty.

Well if your dp says you should have been more understanding, how come he didn't cut a chunk of steak off his and give it to his ds to even things up?

yy to hormonal. My 13yo is capable of the most irrational explosions, particularly when hungry (I suspect that also played a role in this incident).

I don't know - the war years rationing prioritised children if anything, as they're still growing. Your 'DP' could have given up the extra 20g steak - or sliced off a bit to make it equal.

DSS is a bit of a brat but I don't think much of your DP either quite frankly.

Surely 'restauarant likely to serve Wagyu beef' and 'child throwing a load strop' are not compatible concepts?

What about all the other diners? The impact on their lovely, expensive, special treat dinners out together?

My view is that there was an error of judgement here - your DP's in taking a child whose behaviour is not acceptable in such a place, to a nice, grown-up restaurant. He needs to cook at home or stick with McDs until his child can behave in a suitable manner for restaurant dining.

13 year old brains aren’t wired for putting stuff in perspective well they should be! It wasn’t so long ago kids were leaving school at 14 and going to work for the rest of their lives. Stop making excuses for the little muppet. Also my sympathy is with the other diners who had to witness his tantrum

oops, some typos there - loud not load etc.