To be unhappy about this?

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DD has a summer job. She is away with friends until Wednesday, she gets back sometime around midday.

She got her rota for next week and between Wednesday evening and Sunday she has over 45 hours.

AIBU to tell them (with DDs consent) that it is far too much? She has college work to get ready, she will want to see her friends and most of all those sort of hours (starting at half six, not getting back till half nine) will drain her and exhaust her.

She’s worried and upset about it.

She has to tell them if she doesn’t want to do it, but she should of thought of that before applying. I agree with glintandglide.if it’s 45 hours over four days she has 3 days to chill !

She may quit, but they will still put on the guilt trip.

If it’s caring then it is long hours- she won’t get special treatment for being on her school holidays. These hours are also common in hospital staff etc. So not unusual.

I don’t think the hours are too much. It’s the Summer, at that age I just wanted to earn as much as possible knowing I’d be more restricted in term time. She has just been away, so she’s had time off.

But if she feels it’s too much and she doesn’t want this job the solution is simple. You don’t need to get involved- that would look really odd.

She may quit, but they will still put on the guilt trip

And dealing with that sort of thing is part of life. It’s part of having a job.

All mumsnetters were working 80 hour weeks and living completely independently with no parental involvement from the age of 16..

OP- how old is she?

If she’s old enough to have a job, then she’s too old for her Mum to be getting involved and dealing with her boss.

It’s up to her, not you OP. Loosen the apron strings a bit eh?

If you're in the UK "If you’re under 18, you can’t work more than 8 hours a day or 40 hours a week."

www.gov.uk/maximum-weekly-working-hours

If she only started in August she's looking at working for one month. She's already had some time off to go away with friends. She will be able to see plenty of them and you come September when she's back at college. I would be disappointed at her attitude to work if she were mine.

All mumsnetters were working 80 hour weeks and living completely independently with no parental involvement from the age of 16

I was working from the age of 15. I started doing full time hours at 17 after I left school. What’s so funny about that?

I’d have been fucking mortified if my mother had taken it upon herself to call my boss!

Not me bert. I worked 80 hours a week but my mum or dad drove me to half the jobs

She's been doing the job for only a few days and is currently away with friends. You post like she's been ground down by excessive hours for months.

She doesn't sound cut out for work at the moment so she should just resign. But she needs to do that, not you.

When I was a manager if a young persons' parents called up to tell me their son/daughter couldn't work then I would politely inform them that as it wasn't their contract I couldn't talk to them about it, and ask the young person to call themselves.

Obviously this doesn't apply in emergency situations!

If she’s under 18 there are clear limits to the number of hours she is allowed to work.

45 hours over 4 days sounds like 12 hour shifts with unpaid breaks, pretty standard for a caring job.

If, however, she’s not good at her job when she’s tired, she should find another job. Because people’s welfare is dependent on carers doing their jobs properly.

Didn't the company explain the hours/working pattern before she applied for/accepted the job?

Is it home care work? They are bastards for guilt tripping you, your DD has to be strong and stand up for herself, maybe say to her boss "I will do the hours this week as they already done so you don't have to find cover but as of next week I want X hours at the most please"

When I was a home carer they kept guilt tripping me until I was working from 7am till 10.30pm 6 days a week! but with all the half hour gaps and travelling you only got paid for 8/9 hours despite being out for 15! Home care work is a piss take. But she won't lose her job if she's asks for less hours because they need all the staff they can get because they work people into the ground until they quit

Another case of someone asking if they are bu, being told yes, insisting no.

OP, under no circumstances call up for her. She is old enough to get the job, and is old enough to sort this herself. She needs to be firm, call them and tell them it’s too many hours- that she will take less hours or none at all. If they make her feel ‘guilty’ then she needs to learn to deal with it. She is to old for mummy to call up and deal with it.

Get your daughter to sort it out herself!

I'm assuming she's signed up with a care agency or similar? Is there a reason she chose this line or work? Simply for money or for the experience as well?

Honestly, I think both you and her attitudes are a bit off. If she doesn't like the job, and doesn't want to be working, then why did she sign up in the first place?! She's also going to get a nasty shock of she moves into a similar line of work when she's older of she doesn't like the hours now.

So how old is she? If she's doing care work with old people presumably she's at uni ie 18+?

“45 hours over 4 days sounds like 12 hour shifts with unpaid breaks, pretty standard for a caring job.“

But illegal if she is under 18.

Is care work linked to her future career plans, or is this just to get cash?

Well I think most people would like to see friends and family they value rather than spend time working, unfortunately the reality for most people is that they have to work.

You're setting your DD up for a difficult time, you're encouraging her to quit a job because she wants to socialise. You're planning on ringing her boss to complain about her hours. You say she's not good at her job.

Why are you being so negative? I presume she'll have to get a job when she leaves education? Why are you trying to keep her an infant?

If she didn't want to work then she shouldn't have committed to a job, and if she started in August why is she taking holidays so early
on? Are these hours because they should have been spread over the week but she wanted to go away? Had someone else done horrible hours to cover for your DD?

She needs to sort this out herself. She should have negotiated her hours from the outset and if she doesn't like it then she should discuss with her boss. If she wants to leave then she should write out her notice and work the notice period, not 'quit' so she doesn't have to work the hours for this week.

Seriously, your DD sounds like a snowflake who will have no idea how to function in the adult world of working. People like this make working life difficult for their colleagues.

As a boss I once had a mummy phone up about their precious daughter. Lost a great deal of professional respect for my employee. You're really not helping her by getting involved. It's up to her to sort if you interfere it will be, quite frankly, embarrassing. What hours did she agree to when she took the job? 45 over that time is reasonable, she needs to learn a good work ethic and you're not helping to model that with your attitude.

BertrandRussell it is, but since OP is stubbornly refusing to disclose her age and has flounced nobody knows her age.