To think this was an overreaction by teacher

[Lydiaatthebarre]

One of my Friend's is a teacher and was supposed to be away for a few days. I was surprised to bump into her yesterday and she rolled her eyes and said two kids from her class had turned up at the same hotel so she insisted to her husband that they leave.

She said she wouldn't be able to relax, use the hotel swimming pool and changing room, have a drink etc without looking over her shoulder, and neither did she want parents coming over to talk about their kid's progress while she was on holidays.

Would most teachers feel like this or was that an over reaction?

It's messy for both sides. Holidays are usually expensive. Discovering you're sharing the same space as a neighbour or in this case a pupil / teacher can put both sides on edge.

Most folks can't really afford to just change locations, but can manage to adjust their holiday behaviour a little. Still, it can detract from the relaxing, carefree holiday many envisaged. It's nobody's fault - just unlucky.

Every situation is different, but most teachers will have a good handle on which kids / families might be a problem. End up with the wrong ones on holiday, and ouch!

I used to live 3 doors down from a kid I taught back when I started teaching. Was never a problem once you got over the initial novelty of "I saw you in Asda at the weekend Miss" - but I'm primary.

Much less of a problem with primary.
Could be quite different being around a swimming pool with two cocky 15 year old boys and cameraphones. Obviously we don't know the specifics of this teacher's circumstance, but can you imagine having paid 10K to go to the Bahamas and enjoy some topless sunbathing only to discover a couple of your pupils there!

DD does a gymnastics class and her form teachers daughter is in the same class. DD is polite to her but I don’t speak to her except to say hello as we drop off/pick up. Her life outside school is hers and I’ve never ever asked about how DD is getting on at school.

Quite often used to see my teachers out on the piss (small village), didn’t change anything. I still gave them respect in school. Teacher are able to have lives outside of school mind, they are human.

I can see her point.

Teacher are able to have lives outside of school mind, they are human.

Of course they are (and do). But social media and camera phones can make life more difficult than previously. Being out drunk is much more risky now, and out in a bikini is even more troublesome!

Im a secondary teacher. I wouldnt have lefy but I would have felt uncomfortable. I have the most sensible, modest but ugly swimsuit that I only wear when going to the local baths with my own kids, because more often than not, there are kids I teach there.

I am in a career that is WAY more important than 'a teacher,' and no wawy would I leave my holiday, if someone appeared, who I didn't want to see*

Gosh, I didn’t know they gave “important” careers to Village Idiots any more.

I'm not a teacher r but can understand thier predicament. I trained as a counsellor and due to my own disabilities was part of a local support group one of my kcients later joined the group and I had to maintain a proffessional distance so left and moved on. A teacher I can totally understand, maybe a bit over reactive if they were a primary school teacher as younger kids really couldn't care less, but for an older kid holidaying where thier tecahe ris would be horrible. They can't relax and there's also the risk of the said child telling all thier friends they were on holidya with the teacher, sharing pics of her at the pool etc

I think I would've taken my kids over to her to say hello once and explained that Mrs so and so is on her holidays and now we've said hello we can let her enjoy her holiday in peace

Also, no matter what job anyone does, they wouldn't want people they know taking photos of them (against their will,) and posting them online
The point, you muppet, is that in most jobs the people you interact with who you might meet on holiday have zero interest in trying to mock you, show you up or undermine your authority through using photos of you inappropriately.
(It might not even be holiday-kid who does this of course, one pic snap chatted that says "look who I saw here!" would be enough)

And no, I am NOT telling you what I do.

Probably a proctologist, because they obviously have their head up an arse.

By the way just to balance it out I just asked my 2 friends who are a teachers (at least the only 2 close enough friends to text random stuff like this to at 11pm!) and they both said they would never leave a holiday just because a student was there. Mainly because it would be a financially insane thing to do (the flight would cost a fortune) and unfair on the rest of their family (both have partners and kids - maybe it would be different if they were single - didn't ask). One said she would feel less comfortable at the hotel but would just go out elsewhere and make sure not to come back so blind drunk she fell asleep in the lobby.

To be honest this backs up what I thought very few people can afford to pay for last minute flights and disappoint their young kids like that even if they feel uncomfortable for a bit. It would be annoying but I do think most people would just get on with it and be adults.

Nottheduchessofcambridge
Quite often used to see my teachers out on the piss (small village), didn’t change anything.

The joy of the internet is not knowing people's age.

When I was at school this wouldn't happen as there was no internet.
If they decided to take a picture it would have had to have been developed in the local shop (generally).

It was a completely different situation.

It is now entirely possible for the picture to be on the net within seconds of it being taken and the parents none the wiser tioll it all kicks off at school.

HateIsNotGood

Depends on the situation. If it was just a weekend I would come home.

If it was for a week I would try and change hotels.

Because when we are on holiday we have nothing better to do than stalk the teacher!

Teachers have been disciplined or even dismissed for online behaviour (drunken photos etc, nothing untoward) imagine having to moderate your behaviour on holiday.

To give a non-bad behaviour related example, it’s the one time you can wear what you want (I’m very overweight, on holiday I’m allowed to not give a crap, wander round in my swimming costume by the pool, wear light shorter dresses without fear of judgement) and if for one second you think people don’t judge teachers, just read ANY thread about them on here (including the OP on here, we aren’t allowed to feel or behave in any way about any thing without it being discussed and dissected by parents).

TBH I don’t want to see ANYONE I know on holiday but definitely not pupils and their parents!

BackBoiler It’s great that you recognise that teachers have a life outside of school, but some parents don’t. At all. Some parents do overstep boundries - massively - and don’t see that teachers are ‘off duty’ and just want to enjoy their holiday without being reminded of anything school related.

It’s also not really about you ‘having anything better to do’, it’s about children with ‘phones and access to social media (whether they’re old enough or not) posting pictures of teachers in swimsuits/drinking alcohol etc. and it potentially getting them into trouble back at school.

A few years back I was in Cyprus sunbathing topless as I always do. I was minding my own business, relaxing, reading and generally enjoying my well earned holiday when all of a sudden I heard ‘’Hi Mrs ***!!!!’
Oh my god I’ve never felt so embarrassed in all my life. Never have I got on my bikini top on so quick and I now NEVER topless sunbathe unless we go to a private villa. Oh the shame!!! 🙊🙄🤣

I was on my honeymoon in Mexico topless sunbathing on the beach on Xmas day and a little boy rocks up next to my sunbed.

‘Hi Mrs G&T congrats on your wedding!’ (Mum was modestly dressed and in hijab eek)
Thank f they were in the hotel down the road as ours WAS adults only.
When I got back to school stated in the first register by another child- Farhan saw you on holiday and he saw your boobies. Brilliant. Super. Splendid.

@Rosetree7 have my second
I'll give you a wave when I'm in MacccyD's for my months Big Mac later and ask you to make my Diet Coke a large one. Now, THAT'S a much more important job than teaching. Arse.

I'd be surprised if the teacher had stayed.

Not surprising that @Rosetree7 hasn't come back. I think she was just a GF, you get at least one of those on the majority of AIBU threads.

I am in a career that is WAY more important than 'a teacher,'

I very much doubt that. What a wanker.

Rosetree7 is a very recent MNer. Or is even saying that enough to get me warned?