Totally in-appropriate outfits for toddler session

[Bellabutterfly2016]

So this afternoon me and dd went to a holiday toddler session just in our village hall where the usual group meets up.

Ok so I get it's hot but today we had women pushing 40 (and I'm one myself) with skimpy cut off jean shorts revealing butt cheeks and chafing between the legs (to the point where 1 little boy said to his mummy "I can see that lady's bottom!!!) and dresses and skirts so short when people were bending over to play they were flashing knickers that were maybe white a long time ago and boobs hanging out of very low vest tops nearly popping out!!!

I had to laugh at one of my friends tho - she just smiled and said "the weather brings them all out" which certainly seemed to be the case today.

No idea why people felt this was appropriate!!!!! Why do they do it????

It makes no difference whether you’re 50 or 15, hot weather does not equal - “I must walk around showing half my bum.” People who claim to “not give a f*” need to give their heads a wobble and realise they just look naff. Even if you are a supermodel - THIS IS NOT A GOOD LOOK. Sort yourselves out people! This is Britain at its worst. So what if it’s 30 degrees? There are loads of dresses in all styles that don’t reveal your bum and are much cooler. Do you think women in Europe dress like this? No they do not. If necessary, just buy less clothes but of a slightly better quality than all this cheap Lycra that doesn’t fit properly and shows your bra. It’s not that hard is it? People don’t dress like this where I live, even teenagers have more of a clue If they can manage it, so can everyone else.

I've seen very few posts that are along the lines of -
I saw some men walking around yesterday in shorts but with no tops on. I don't think this was appropriate.
I saw a man wearing mid-calf length shorts and he must have been over 40. Surely he should have some decorum.
I saw a man who must've been at least 50 wearing a vest top and he wasn't exactly toned...

I would say exactly the same about men who feel the sudden need to walk the streets with no shirt on. I don’t care whether they’re toned or not - they are equally deluded if they think this is a good look. Sort yourselves out is what I’d be thinking.

Why would mid calf length shorts be offensive? If a bloke was displaying his arse cheeks I’d be equally 🤮
And there’s plenty of threads lamenting the annual disrobing of sweaty beer guts. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t find that gruesome.

You seem to be mostly concerned with the body shape of the people wearing the clothes which isn’t on but I do think you should cover your privates in a toddler group unless you’re bfing!
That should go for everyone though. There was a single dad who used to go to the toddler group when my kids were little and when he sat on the floor he had the worst hairy builders arsecrack ever. Used to put me right off my tea and toast.

yes @mandarine I totally agree

It's not about heat or money or size or anything else, it's about both men and women applying some general rules of decency when in public

Mumsnet is so funny sometimes - posters trampling over one another in competition to being the most liberal they possibly can.

“So what if she wore a mankini down the road in front of several children and teenagers, who are you to judge? A human body is a natural and wonderful thing”

This isn't about age or sex, it's about common decency in a public place. I'm fairly liberal but I don't want to see acres of flesh whilst going about my business. RIP me to shreds for all I care, but don't expect me to not have an opinion on the matter.

It's nothing to do with age or gender but about British fashion being horribly equipped for any form of heat and/or also heading in to the less is better camp.

Just because it is hot it doesn't mean that you need to dress in barely there clothes to keep cool. You can wear clothes that keep you cool that are also decent. However this is fashions fault more than anything, this yer has seen a rise in the underboob tops, thong bikinis, thong shorts, bodysuits worn with only sheer dresses/trousers over them, bralets, increasingly plunging necklines etc. I'm going on a weekend away this weekend and spent hours looking for something that wouldn't display acres of skin.

And yes, sometimes we do judge because it's human nature.
I was in Primark a few weeks ago and saw a woman tottering about in heels she couldn't walk in, arse cheek showing denim shorts and an 'underboob' cropped top. Essentially her nipples and pubes were just covered and that's it. She had her two pre-teen sons with her, who she readily used as supports when her legs wobbled due to the aforementioned ridiculous shoes. The poor boys looked like they wanted to run away, they could barely look at her.
Even in normal shoes that amount of clothing isn't fashionable.

I also knew two twins who, when aged 18-20, had competitions to see which of them could wear the least amount of clothing down the pub. They went out in little more than underwear some nights.

ShirleyPhallus
So true!!

It's always I'm so liberal and wouldn't care about [insert something most people would find unusual or not desirable] but the reality is I wouldn't so it and certainly wouldn't allow my children to .

It's the case on any thread about girls clothing. People fall over themselves to say 'if you think there's anything potentially about a 12 year old in a skimpy skirt, high heels, padded bra crop top and a face full of makeup then that says more about you'. We all know they'd be sending their own child straight upstairs to get changed.

There was a thread on here recently about a 6th form girl doing a careers day at school, and the school had specified “business dress”.
Posters were up in arms at girls being told they needed to wear a smart skirt and shirt.
This thread demonstrates why they needed to be so prescriptive. Half of them would probably have seen no issue in turning up with their arses hanging out

I generally wear midi skirts but did have someone disgustingly comment on my vest top that ' you're half naked'. It was a thick strapped, long vest top, worn in a normal fashion with small to average boobs.

Get over it. It's hot and some cannot afford to go out and buy a heatwave wardrobe so have to wear holiday clothes which are usually a little less demure.

LemonysSnicket
That type of comment over a vest top is someone being rude or a prude.

As you say, most people don't buy a heatwave wardrobe.

ShirleyPhallus what do you call it when 12 people post online to express their support for the new dress code?! The OP was clearly reveling in the online support of the other outraged parents which is exactly what people do when they gang up on others and criticize their appearance from the safety of their keyboards.

Ummm putting in place a dress code policy and people agreeing it’s a good idea is not bullying

It's not a case of being judgemental it's about decency and having respect for yourself and other people.

The amount of clothing someone is wearing has absolutely nothing to do with the level of respect you afford them. What an awful person you are.

I dont want to be seeing people's arses hanging out when going about my day to day life,

Don't look. S'not difficult.

Don't look. S'not difficult.
Or people can just dress so their arse isn't hanging out. S' not difficukt after all.

The amount of clothing someone is wearing has absolutely nothing to do with the level of respect you afford them

For some people it obviously has. It depends heavily on where they are, and if the clothing is suitable to be worn in a public place.
Some people know innately what's acceptable and what isn't.
Others don't.

Or people can just dress so their arse isn't hanging out. S' not difficukt after all.

Yes because we should all dress to appease other people, that's the basic gist of this thread...... everyone should dress in a manner which is deemed acceptable to others. Did what they actually want to wear and feel comfortable in themselves.

FML, I stand corrected, I didn't wake up in the 50s I would up in the fucking Victorian era.

Appease other people? By wearing clothes that actually cover the bits other people don’t particularly want to see?
I don’t want to see anyone in all their glory, tbh, and frankly if your glory is around three stone heavier than it needs to be; displaying it is an offence against against public decency.
Or it should be...

Someone upthread mentioned British fashion. They are absolutely correct. You could travel to any warmer country in the world than the UK and youd see women dressed for the climate but not looking like something the cat dragged in. You can flash a bit of flesh without looking ghastly, but UK women haven't really got there yet. Compare the beaches of Magaluf to the beaches of the south of France and you'll see what I mean.

Was in a pub last week at lunch time. Young woman was wearing a shorts jump suit. She was too tall for the size she had on so it was pulling around her groin. I don't know if she had any knickers on but I could see her vulva as she walked past our table/ I wasn't looking at her as such, it was at my eye level as she squeezed between tables.
I don't want to see vulvas while I eat my lunch.

Maybe OP could be careful with the wording. However, parents are meant to be role models. No need to dress like an Amish but there's dresses/skirts/shorts that are above the knee but also waaay below the arse
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I just don’t get why you’d care what anyone else wears. Really I don’t. To be honest if anything I imagine you’re probably jealous of them. I can’t think of any other reason why you’d care OP.