WIBU to uninvite my friend

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Name changed for this as it's quite specific.

Last night I was out with a group of mates, at an event where a couple I am friends with were also attending. Let's call them Bob and Margaret.

After the event me and my mates were going for a drink, I invited Bob and Margaret along. Bob was too tired but Margaret wanted to come along so Bob left and she waited with me for the others. Really I prefer Bobs company, although we have always socialised as a three. I decided to encourage Margaret to go home after Bob, and said I would see them in the week. She took the hint and went to catch up with Bob.

About 20 minutes later I got a text from Bob asking me that that was all about, and why I had treated Margaret that way. Margaret didn't contact me

Bob is the more extroverted of the two so I really thought it might be awkward or difficult with just her. She didn't look upset or anything she just said ok. They now don't want to see me for something we had planned this week.

I think I made the right call really and reckon I didn't have much choice, but now I think I have lost my friendship with Bob.

You were rude.

I think you were really mean and made it totally obvious you didn't want her there. She was obviously upset hence the phonecall, I'm not surprised they don't want to meet up

Is this a reverse? If not YABU and I'm not sure why you would expect Bob to remain friends with someone who was so unkind to his wife.

You were rude and unwelcoming.

Why didn't you have a choice?

Yabu and were very rude.

Glad they got rid if you.

Obviously you were horrible to her. This is half a story, isn't it?

YABU. That was nasty and a a very obvious shun. You deserve to lose your friendship with Bob for treating his partner with absolutely no respect.

Wow you were rude and that was uncalled fo
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This has to be a reverse. Otherwise, you were horrible.

You were very rude and very unreasonable. You need to apologise. And send flowers.

That was a horrible thing to do . If I were Bob or Margaret I wouldn't want to be friends any more either.

I can see why she was upset, I wouldn’t want to meet up with you again.

I would be really hurt if I was Margaret in that scenario. Once you have invited someone, you can't really uninvite them without fallout. I think you should have just gone with her coming along. Sorry OP. You probably have lost their friendship.

Oh, come on...

That was a horrible thing to do and I imagine it is the end of your friendship, with Bob. You might as well have told the woman, ‘go home with Bob, because I don’t actually like you’.

Of course you were rude.

What you did was really horrid.

Can you really not see you were rude and unkind?

Do you fancy Bob?

Is this a reverse? 🤔

I think it was rather unkind to send her packing once Bob had gone home - it must have been obvious to her that you prefer Bob's company to hers. No wonder she was upset - and no wonder that Bob was upset on her behalf.

How bizarre

It wasn't just that I didn't want her, but I thought it would be awkward and she would be uncomfortable. She doesn't know the people we were going with and appears quite uncomfortable with new people sometimes. I just thought it was a bad idea for her to come without Bob, and thought maybe she felt stuck as he had gone and she felt she couldn't change her mind or something.

Would you want to be friends with you with that attitude?

They sound like hard work. Are they joined at the hip?

You on the other hand were not kind to send Margaret home after inviting her out with you. Maybe, just maybe that was her decision to become more independent from Bob....

You were a rude cow. And if this is a reverse; you’re a tedious cow...