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Original poster

Night out with friends- what am I meant to do?

262 replies

Byitin · 04/08/2018 14:54

AIBU to think I can't win here?

Invited out for drinks with mutual friends. Said friends live about 45 mins from us by car.

Neither me nor DP are big drinkers ìf not driving well each have 4 or 5 drinks at most. Obviously if driving we'd have 1 if that.

Public transport would take at least 2 hours each way and we'd have to leave at 10-10.30 to get last trains back. A taxi would be at least £50 each way which we can't afford.

I offered to drive. However my car is old and has no aircon. So DP clearly thinks it's an empty offer and say 'obviously I will have to drive then'. DPs car has aircon. I'm not insured to drive it though.

I'm not sure what other solution I can give! There's nowhere to stay local to friends and DP wouldn't want to stay over anyway.

What else would you suggest if you were me?

OP posts:
Elephant14 · 04/08/2018 15:11

Sell both cars and move? Honestly OP, is this really a problem?

EleanorAbernathy · 04/08/2018 15:11

Does your policy cover you to drive DP's car 3rd party only?

Howhot · 04/08/2018 15:11

Why do you need a solution? He's offered to drive - it's sorted. If he wants to huff about it and not talk like an adult, leave him to it because there isn't much more you can do.

LaMainDeFatima · 04/08/2018 15:14

Unless you’re in Dubai I’m sure opening the windows will be fine

Or don’t go

Or DP drives and you get wasted

yummumto3girls · 04/08/2018 15:15

Crikey, is everything in life this difficult!

reallybadidea · 04/08/2018 15:16

How about you drive your car and he can drive his car? Then you'll both be happy, yes?

Original poster
Byitin · 04/08/2018 15:16

Howhot I think your advice of leaving DP to it is right. Honestly I'm not that bothered about going. I'm willing to drive. So if we don't go, or we do and I drive that's good with me. So DP has choices other than driving.

My insurance only covers me to drive my own car, I'm not covered to drive any other vehicle.

OP posts:
JennyHolzersGhost · 04/08/2018 15:16

Rent a zipcar with air con

NoNoCharlieRascal · 04/08/2018 15:19

Hire a limo. Jobs a good'n

sprinklesandsauce · 04/08/2018 15:21

If I am going out in the car later, I leave the windows down earlier so that the heat doesn't build up in it. You can also buy shields for the windscreen and windows if you want to (I don't).

Your DP is being ridiculous. If he insists on aircon then clearly he must drive his own car. If he wants a drink then he goes in yours and opens the windows.

FrayedHem · 04/08/2018 15:23

DPs solution is to drive but I did get a definate air of reluctance about it.

Ask him to take his air of reluctance out to your car. Thst should bring the temperature down to a satisfactory level for him. Cheaper than buying a can of Magicool.

sonjadog · 04/08/2018 15:23

It doesn’t matter if there is no breeze. The motion of the car will create a breeze. Your car won’t be 31 degrees for more than a couple of minutes.

MarthasGinYard · 04/08/2018 15:23

Bloody hell

Astrid2 · 04/08/2018 15:25

Putting you on his insurance for a day surely doesn't cost £500???

My Mum used to put me on hers when I was a young, nearly new driver when I was home from Uni and it cost about £20 for 3 days!!!

45 mins is hardly the longest drive either. Open the windows to let the heat out and get on with it!

EmUntitled · 04/08/2018 15:25

Sounds like your partner is being fussy and wanting everything even though thats not possible. He can be driven to the event and have a drink OR he can go in a car with air con. He can't have both and needs to decide which is more important.

StoorieHoose · 04/08/2018 15:27

I sat in a train carriage for 5
Hours yesterday with no air con or windows that could be opened. It was a bit sweaty but jeez you don’t want to go to admit it and stop making up excuses

Wondermoomin · 04/08/2018 15:28

😂😂😂

Dieu · 04/08/2018 15:28

It's a 45 minute - not a 4 hour - drive!!

category12 · 04/08/2018 15:28

Crikey, he's such a delicate flower he can't sit in a non-air-conditioned car for 3/4 of an hour? Hmm

IHaveBrilloHair · 04/08/2018 15:29

No breeze?
Eh, surely there's a breeze when the car is movingConfused

pictish · 04/08/2018 15:29

Fuck sake - talk about creating problems where there are none.
Your dp needs to get a grip. Open the fucking window or you know, live with the heat and stfu...or he can take his own car with the bloody precious air con. If he’s going to be such a diva he doesn’t deserve a bloody drink.
Oh my god.

pictish · 04/08/2018 15:30

And of course there will be a breeze at thirty miles an hour.
This is so stupid.

Original poster
Byitin · 04/08/2018 15:31

I'm not making excuses. If you read my post you'll see I said I was prepared to drive my car but DP didn't want to travel in it. I drive my car regularly so I know it is very warm in there even with the windows down. But I am still prepared to drive it if DP wanted a drink.

OP posts:
YaLoVeras · 04/08/2018 15:31

I'd get public transport there and then taxi it home.

KarinVogel · 04/08/2018 15:31

Open the windows !

We dont have aircon and have somehow managed to drive like normal people -yes even in the midday sun and have survived to tell the tale.

Either go in your car or his - or dont bother . Seems to me that if you put barriers in the way of doing something that others wouldnt think twice about then maybe it isnt worth bothering about.