Holiday etiquette

[MINKY75]

AIBU? Come away with friends, them two adults two kids, just me and my two kids. We're SC so I'd assumed we'd come up with a fair way to share food bill. First shop they seemed surprised when I suggested paying a little less. Next shop I was again asked to pay half and again pointed out that I wasn't eating and drinking as much as their family. Would you keep quiet and pay half for the sake of a quiet life/harmony?

To be honest 4 and 3 yes I would just pay half

Are kids similar ages? If so, you pay less as it’s one adult versus two.

How did you split the accommodation?

How old are all the children?

No, I’d be doing 7ths,. Are they a bit thick?

I would expect to pay 3/8 of total food bill so yanbu. Easy to do.

Sorry 3/7!!! not thick, honest

No way is it fair to expect you to pay the same for food as a family of 4!
How did you split the accommodation costs?

I think it may depend on the age of your children - if they're eating more than 3 and 4 year old would then it sounds like half and half would work, if they're a similar age the 2 adult family should probably chuck in a few more quid.

For the sake of one extra person it's a bit petty I would think unless money is really tight

Wait .. I think I made up the ages of their kids after scanning the second post. Sorry!

Depends. Can there really be much difference? I suppose you either have the option of keep refusing which if it hasn't already will get quite awkward & they probably will regret the whole set up. Pay half or do your own shop?

Really would have been better discussed beforehand for future reference.

Half each then surely they will be getting freebies every time? Hardly a fair holiday for the op?

On that ratio 4:3, I’d pay half.

I think they’re being incredibly cheeky splitting the bill in half. I suppose it depends what the difference is as to whether it’s worth putting your foot down.
If it’s a few pounds then I wouldn’t worry. If it’s nearer £20.00 then, yes I’d say that it wasn’t really a fair split and wouldn’t pay the extra.

If you do several shops then that’s quite a bit extra you’re paying than them.

I would let it go OP. It’s only a week or two. Maybe they think you drink more wine?

Just suggest you get your own stuff each?

Are they actually eating and drinking more or do you mean you should pay less because there's 3 of you?

Tbh I couldn't be arsed with totting up how much they've had, you're on holiday, chill out and relax.

I wouldn't if their kids r eating about the same as your kids. But if their kids r older and eating a lot more then I would say something but it might b awkward.

I'd just pay it. I really couldn't be bothered quibbling over a 4:3 ratio with friends.

we are on holiday with a group of friends and family, and we have a kitty system per head. We've done this for years and it works. Normally alcohol drinkers/adults contribute more than younger kids.

It depends on the age of the children.
My guess is that the children are quite young not burly teenagers who eat like hounds, so the 2:1 adults will make a big difference.

If money isn't an issue for you I'd go halves.

If things are a bit tight money-wise I would ask for a 3/4 split but be prepared for them not reacting positively.

I'd definitely not expect you to be paying the same as my family, if I was the party of four!

The only way I'd make an exception would be if your children were much older than mine, and so were eating and drinking a lot more than theirs.

They're being unreasonable I think.

however, as PP have said - how did you split the cost of the holiday? Did the issue not arise then?

Their kids are slightly older and I paid half accommodation for house. Don't want to be stingy but kinda of hoped they'd had offered rather than me point it out 🙄

How old are the children? This obviously matters. Teens vs toddlers - makes a big difference as to how much they eat.