For thinking that this man should be banned from the shop forever?

[Ilovemuesli]

Hi,
So the following happened this morning and I am still in disbelief about it - and wholly disgusted with this man's attitude.

I was sitting in the cafe of a well-known supermarket with a couple of friends and my two month old DD. On the table in front of us were two girls, probably around 19/20 yrs old. They were caring for two boys who were about 9/10 years old and were obviously disabled - in wheelchairs e.t.c. The girls also had some jackets on with a charity logo printed on the back. Across the aisle from their table was a man and his wife having breakfast/coffee.

At one point one of the boys threw his bottle of pop in the air and it unfortunately hit the man's wife in her face. One of the girls immediately stood up to apologise, but the man started ranting and raving, swearing at the two girls who were looking after these boys and shouting at full volume that the children "should be made to leave" and that "they don't belong here". It was very upsetting for the poor children - it took a long time after the man had eventually left for the girls to calm the children down - the boy who threw the pop was particularly distressed.

The cafe assistant fetched the manager who took them aside for a private word then came to see the two girls and apologised, also saying that the wife had asked for a first aider but other than that there was nothing they could do for a genuine accident.

AIBU to still be outraged at this man's behaviour? In my opinion he should be banned from ever entering the shop again - I haven't really described everything he was shouting at them - and also me when I told him he should be ashamed of himself and his behaviour (I may have called him ignorant) It was clear that it was an accident, while I understand it won't have been nice to have had a bottle of pop hit you in the face, but demanding that the children be removed and that they don't belong in the same place as everyone else? In my opinion - he is an absolute disgraceful/disgusting human being. How dare he say that those children shouldn't be allowed in there? It was blatantly obvious that they were disabled and needed extra care, and the girl/carer had tried to apologise straightaway, but the language, the volume and the content of what he was saying is still making my blood boil nearly 11 hours later !

Sorry for the rant! Please tell me if I'm overreacting (!)

Carers have a tough job. They may have been doing the best they could.

I think the man sounds cruel.

Just to repeat: Bigotry is never an understandable response & if you think it is.... well then, you’re also a bigot & perhaps should take a good hard look at your own prejudices, because disabilities can happen to anyone & you’re NT children could one day have an accident that causes brain damage & one day you’ll be the one who’s being told your child shouldn’t be allowed places.

I think you're mistaking an understanding of how people can be unreasonable and wrong when they're angry, and an understanding of how someone could be angry when someone they love is hurt, with CONDONING unreasonable and wrong stuff, or wanting to allow people to do it.

For instance if I am responsible for someone's loved one being hurt and they get angry and call me names, I can simultaneously 1. not stand for abuse and 2. not believe they are a dangerous psychopath who believes everything they say in the heat of the moment when a loved one is suddenly hurt. It is a reaction to an abnormal situation, the person could easily be fine generally and just have been a shit that day, and I'd see no reason for them to be banned from places etc

Shouting abuse about disabled children is not an ‘understandable’ response under any circumstances. Shouting ‘what the hell?’ (or worse) whilst clocking the situation is understandable. A lengthy tirade is not.