Getting married in jeans and a t shirt

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I hear this all the time...people saying along the lines of they would be happy to gondown the registry office in jeans and a t shirt....has anyone ever done this or not worn a transitional wedding dress??
Had a very small casual wedding??

I love the idea of it but have never actually come across anyone who has had a proper low key wedding

I haven't, but a friend married in a black trousers and a black blouse (her mum persuaded her to add a black hairband with a small feather) and her husband in jeans, a shirt and a baseball cap. Honestly, I could not have imagined the bride in anything remotely fancy and certainly not a dress. They are still together 10 over years later!

We kind of did this.Registry office,bought flowers the night before and picked them up on the way (lovely bouquet of roses), my dress was vintage from ebay and cost under £15.Husband wore trousers and a shirt.Didn't tell anyone except our witnesses. Went for a walk,buffet at home and dinner that night.Not due to money but neither of us would have enjoyed a big wedding or the attention.Plus my family are complicated to say the least.I loved my wedding day-it was romantic and special and the whole thing was incredibly happy.

Friends of mine did. Shorts and t-shirts at Islington Town Hall

I have married people wearing jeans / very casual clothing. I also memorably married a couple in fancy dress. Just the two of them and their witnesses. He was wearing white navy officer style suit (think officer and a gentleman) and she was in a matching themed nautical dress with plimsolls. They looked and were ace.

I know someone who married in a pocahontas type outfit coolers with feathered headband. The groom and his attendants wore normal suits. Still can’t quite work that one out.

I really wanted to but bowed to convention a bit and compromised on a pretty dress but not a 'proper' wedding dress. We had 2 witnesses (friends from work) and walked from register office to the nearest pub for lunch afterwards. Families were a bit gobsmacked but understood (I think!) that we just didn't want any fuss, I would've hated being the centre of attention and DH had been married before. No regrets, still together 15 years on and very happy

yes. We got married in US on spur of moment. No traditional clothes-I wore jeans and it cost very little. Still together years later. A big wedding would not have been right for us, but I totally get why it is so important for others.

I am going to a 'casual' wedding in a few months, groom is wearing chinos - everyone has been told no suits, no hats etc.
I think it's a little strange as it is in a catholic church, with meal/party after in a typical wedding venue.
I think there is nothing casual about marriage, its about formalising your relationship, with a legal and (sometimes) spiritual contract...seems strange to not dress as smartly as you would for an interview?
I wanted to tell my wedding guests not to buy anything new - and put on the invitations that everyone should wear something from there wardrobe, but my sister and other friends pointed out is not great to give people orders, and people should wear whatever they feel happy to wear.
The bride is the type of person who desperately like to appear quirky and different, and I feel this is another extension of this - she would like a shabby chic wedding, but you can't presume everyone will interpret casual as 'Boho'.

My mum wore a denim dress to marry my dad, then they did the Asda shop and went to the local pub. They just wanted to be married. It wasn't about the day, it was their lives moving forward x

Yup, jeans and a slightly lacy top (extravagant for me!). Off to the registry office with a couple of mates, out for a meal, then a trip to Morrisons afterwards cos we were out of loo roll. Didn't tell anyone till it was all done n dusted

A friend of mine asked two friends to 'meet them for lunch'. Their friends twigged it was actually going to be their wedding and they were being invited as witnesses. So the bride and groom turned up in jeans and t shirts. The friends dressed as clangers! (They knew the bride and groom would find it hilarious which luckily, they did).

Me! Got married in a £69 multiway dress from M&S in registry office in Gambia in front of 10 people (mostly friends from there) followed by a meal at a restaurant (just wraps and juice) then went to the beach, home for a nap then out for dinner just me and new husband :-) it was seriously perfect. No UK party (I was heavily pregnant by the time we got a visa granted but wouldn't have anyway)

Whole thing probably cost under 2k including our rings and flight but our families all chipped in.

Alternatively my best friend spent 25k on a huge wedding in Wales... I don't think she's any more married than I am...

I wanted jeans wedding, DH (who has never shown any interest in weddings or religion) wanted a church do. We compromised and his (very willing) aunt arranged a church wedding and small reception for around £1500.

Friend of ours spent £20k on his and I have to say it was one of the best days I have ever had and still remembered fondly by all who went. It was a very posh do for very un-posh people but the bride said when she worked with the wedding planner (yep they had one) she said her main priority was that everybody have fun. It was fucking brilliant and she definitely got her wish. Despite having it at a big country manor with all the pomp and ceremony there was no dress code, no rules about kids, everybody was invited to the whole thing and the bride and groom had made it very clear that only expectation was that we would all be ourselves despite the venue.

It made me rethink the value of having a big wedding (although I still wouldn't spend that much) as everybody remembers it and although we have grown distant as a friendship group we always reminisce about it when we are together. I imagine that was exactly what they had in mind. I've been to other nice weddings but that one was just brilliant.

We were married in a civil ceremony in a town hall with our parents and sibs, and no one else present. Then had a nice lunch and a night in a posh hotel for the honeymoon. It was what we could afford in 1992. But we had a party in London later for friends several months later.

In the 1980s I went to a wedding at Chelsea Register Office in Kings Road, I was the +1 of friend of the bride. Bride wore a 1950s style dress, groom wore jeans and a jacket/tie. They arrived at the wedding in 1950s cars, & after had a great party in a pub with 1950s music - all very retro and great fun, & long before 'retro' was fashionable.

I wore a beach towel, tied with a rag that the window cleaner dropped in the dog's bowl and DH just glued bits of Tesco value toast to a pair of ageing boxer shorts.

One person came, in the PE kit they wore as a kid and we shared a bag of Monster Munch on a kerb outside Kwik Fit.

No regrets.

Just trying to join in.

I think for 99.9% of people a wedding is “about the marriage and not the ceremony”. No matter what size ceremony they had

...and also this ^

I have heard many people say in the run up to or after their wedding that the costs had spiralled and that they did regret spending as much on things which in hindsight didnt matter. I have never heard anyone say they wish they had spent more on their wedding.

It is all too easy for the costs to run away with themselves. For B&G to feel pressured whether by family & friends or by media to add more and more details which are hardly noticed on the day.

B&G can be just as much committed in a low cost wedding as in a high cost wedding. In the end its the commitment which counts not the cost.

I legally married in shorts and a ratty T-shirt. I don’t think I was wearing any makeup. We did it quick over a lunch break.

We did have a family ceremony and celebration on a separate date and we got dressed up for that.

I got married in jeans and a t-shirt. No flowers, no rings. Two friends as witnesses and our children. 10 in the morning and then back home. We are happily married 10 years on and I don't regret it.