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Getting married in jeans and a t shirt

194 replies

Bunnyattack · 29/07/2018 08:33

I hear this all the time...people saying along the lines of they would be happy to gondown the registry office in jeans and a t shirt....has anyone ever done this or not worn a transitional wedding dress??
Had a very small casual wedding??

I love the idea of it but have never actually come across anyone who has had a proper low key wedding

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Cloud9Until6am · 29/07/2018 16:10

My old boss got married in jeans and a tshirt in her lunch break. Her boss made her take the rest of the day off - she said she went home and did some diy Confused

ProfessorMoody · 29/07/2018 18:47

Muddy - really couldn't give a flying fuck. I find weddings deeply unpleasant 🤷🏼‍♂️

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Bunnyattack · 29/07/2018 21:02

I would describe myself as kind of Bohemiam style....so I'm pretty laid back in general, I would like to wear a boho inspired dress..maybe cream kinda colour....long loose hair flower garland etc

I just cannot cope with any kind of stress or planning....we have booked and csncelles two wesdings due to this.

Ok so maybe not technically jeans and t shirt but something casual high street dress... boohoo/new look etc
Just chill.

Few close guests. Go for dinner at our favourite Indian restaurant or pub lunch.

No fuss.

Been together 14 years already

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Bunnyattack · 29/07/2018 21:03

Would also have htb and make guests in casual clothes....not suits with waistcoat etc...

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BlackberryandNettle · 29/07/2018 21:25

Attended one, me, one other witness and the bride and groom. Totally casual, registry office assumed bride was the photographer! They just wanted the legal document before having kids but weren't sentimental about marriage and didn't want any fuss or expense.

Scaredycat2016 · 29/07/2018 21:46

My friend got married in crop jeans, a cotton top and converse recently. Her husband wore a suit and her parents wore "smart" clothes. They went for a meal afterwards and that was that! Only a couple of family members each knew about it. Both blissfully happy and did what suited them as a couple..... Exactly how it should be.

KittyHawke80 · 29/07/2018 23:36

Agreed, Muddy - completely OTT, while managing to use a number of hackneyed MNisms: ‘Yuck’; ‘Tacky’ and - the worst - ‘Grabby’. And it’s a register office, not registry - you’d think such a ardent non-traditionalist would know that . . .

blueyacht · 30/07/2018 00:13

I got married in my lunch break. Didn’t know the witnesses, just asked some office workers in the building, then went back to work. It was shit and I wouldn’t recommend it.

Fabricwitch · 30/07/2018 00:21

My parents did. Well, dad in jeans and a jumper and mum had a non-traditional dress. They got married in a registry office with under 10 people in attendance.
I wore mum's dress for my wedding too, but DH had a suit, it was in an art gallery with 40 guests.

Fabricwitch · 30/07/2018 00:31

I went to another wedding years ago, almost forgot about it! Less than 10 in a registry office, the bride wore a red dress from Zara and the groom wore a suit he already owned. They treated us all to dinner in a fancy restaurant afterwards. They are (and were then) a very wealthy couple!!

ProfessorMoody · 30/07/2018 07:21

Actually, KittyHawke80 - "registry office" is much more commonly used and accepted in informal use. As Mumsnet isn't formal, I am perfectly correct.

If we're picking, though, it's, an ardent.
HTH.

Glaciferous · 30/07/2018 07:29

Yes, we did. Jeans and T-shirts. DD and two witnesses. We had a pizza afterwards. No regrets whatsoever.

WaterOffaDucksCrack · 30/07/2018 07:31

I'm not married but my sister and her husband both wore jeans and a t and flip flops. We're not a traditional or stuffy family anyway so casual is our thing! I found it more meaningful as they put all the effort into the vows and it suited them down to the ground.

KittyHawke80 · 30/07/2018 07:43

Ha! Nice try.

dannuh · 30/07/2018 07:45

I got married at the registry office with two witnesses, absolute zero fuss! I wore a dress, hubby wore a suit but an hour later we were back in our jeans and tshirt and enjoyed a lovely day just the two of us and our fur baby.

ProfessorMoody · 30/07/2018 07:50

What did I "try" at, Kitty? How odd Confused

DilianaDilemma · 30/07/2018 07:52

I did. Not jeans and t-shirt exactly, but I wore a dress that I'd owned since high school and exH was in one of his work suits. Nobody except us and two witnesses - both acquaintances rather than close friends. Pub afterwards, just the four of us. It was brilliant.

We could have afforded a much more lavish affair but didn't see the point. I still think it was a great decision (unlike marrying a man I was fundamentally incompatible with).

HowIWishYouWereHere · 30/07/2018 07:53

Not jeans, but my dad married my mum in cords and a tweed jacket with a cap. It was the 70s. She wore a pink cocktail type dress, but with sleeves.

I had a lovely, designer wedding dress, but it was £50 from eBay.

I wouldn’t have enjoyed spending a lot on a dress, unless it was something I could wear again. If we were getting married now, that’s probably what I would do; spend a bit more money to buy a beautiful, fits-like-a-glove smart. / casual dress I could wear again. My friend did exactly this, but also didn’t have any guests other than a couple of witnesses.

ComeTheFuck0nBridget · 30/07/2018 07:57

We had a simple wedding. I wore a white dress but not a "wedding" dress, we only had 16 guests and we went to our favourite Italian restaurant after. Engaged to married in just three months! We're not fussy people and we just wanted to be married.

Happycamper78 · 30/07/2018 07:59

A colleague at work did - just wanted to be married but didn’t like being centre of attention so had only a couple of people there. It was a second marriage though.

StaySafe · 30/07/2018 09:39

I know someone who bought a dress marked down to £5 in Tesco for her wedding. They were an older couple who had lived together for years, he had had some health scares and although they didn't like the idea of marriage thought it was best to protect her rights in the event of his death. I think they only had two guests - two of his clients - and the dress was a bit of a symbol to say "we are only doing this because we have to"

Serendipite · 30/07/2018 09:57

I wanted to do this.

Sherbetdip123 · 30/07/2018 10:50

I got married in jeans, t-shirt and converse last November. Myself, husband and son had matching t-shirts made. We went along with 2 witnesses and were in and out in 10 minutes and it was absolutely perfect!!! I’ve never wanted to be a “bride” tbh. I’m a girly girl but the thought of everyone looking at me just doesn’t appeal. We were married on our 9th anniversary together and we got exactly what we wanted....a marriage not a wedding!

SoxonFeet · 30/07/2018 11:50

I have - and so did my friend!

At our registry office wedding I wore a very plain shift dress that I usually wear for work - still have it. It was a cheap dress, and I think it was green?

My friend wore slacks and a black top to her registry office wedding.

IdontunderstandPicasso · 30/07/2018 12:19

Not loving the judgemental posts here. I had a small wedding of about 30 people and a pub lunch after in the back room. I did spend £600 on my dress though. A relaxed wedding is fine. Mine was relaxed compared with friends. I don’t judge them for having big weddings. I thoroughly enjoyed myself at other people’s weddings! I think for 99.9% of people a wedding is “about the marriage and not the ceremony”. No matter what size ceremony they had Hmm