To Not Make An Effort on DP and DSC holiday return

[IceColdCiderPlease]

My partner of 3 years is taking his 2 children on holiday next week for 2 weeks.
The children stay with us EOW and during the holidays.
I’m not invited. It has never been discussed he just booked it.
They all arrive back on a Thursday evening and the DCs (15 & 17) will be here until the Monday.
The expectation is that I will have food shopped, made beds etc for their return.
AIBU to just leave it & let them order take away ?

[TheExamStartsNow]

Do you have any plans to separate from him? You've repeteadly vented on here about his treatment, you know he's treating you badly and you seem to be getting something out of other posters validating this for you, yet you haven't once expressed any desire to end the relationship.

I don't understand. It seems you are the victim in your relationship, yet you aren't trying to escape that role, and it reads as if you are even savouring it somewhat? It seems, from this thread, that you have the means to leave - you were able to book a foreign holiday with lots of extra activities on a whim, plus flights abroad to your parents, plus a meal out with a friend - so I'm assuming you are financially independent from him and also not struggling for cash. You only rent, so aren't tied together by sharing ownership of a house. You are employed. You don't have kids together. Those are the things that normally make people stay in unhappy relationships, but you don't have any of those obstacles... So what is holding you back from leaving him and getting your own place?

There is something else, deeper, going on here. Your constant engaging with him by text when you should've been enjoying your holiday, and the tone of your posts here, it all reads as if you are locked in this martyrish, put-upon role, but also not wanting or trying to escape it. You seem trapped, and I don't just mean in the relationship.

I don't know anything about you beyond this post, but have you ever had therapy? I really think you could benefit from talking through things with someone objective.

[GlitteryFluff]

I've just found this thread. You've done so well OP.
Sorry to read your son is moving away.
But don't stay in this relationship! You'll be fine without him. And you can have lots of holidays to your sons new country.
Onwards and upwards for you.

[GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]

How are you doing, OP?

[Hanab]

Hi OP .. hope you are well .. can we get an update whenever you have the time?
Just need to know if you okay🌷

[Banana8080]

When’s your holiday honey? treat yourself, tell him after it’s booked obvs

[tinytemper66]

Echo other PPs in saying that I hope you are ok x

[Cubtrouble]

You totally ROCK OP! Good for you- I am glad you’ve had a fantastic holiday- I would love to go and I hope it’s been as fabulous as you actually deserve!!

I hope things go well with your son and you manage to visit and enjoy this stage or his and your lives.

Get rid of the ball and chain xxx

[Etino]

How are you @IceColdCiderPlease?